Yiziphi izisusa ezigqugquzela owesifazane ovuthiwe ukuba afune ubuhlobo namadoda? Ubuhlobo phakathi kwabafana abancane nabesifazane abangaphezu kuka-30 - isihloko siyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kwengqondo. Impendulo yalo mbuzo iyinkimbinkimbi. Lesi yisidingo sezenhlalakahle, ezempilo, ezengqondo nezengokwemvelo. Ngokuvamile laba yibo besifazane abaye bafeza impumelelo ethile emsebenzini wabo, babe nemali eyaneleyo nokuzinza ngokwezimali. Ungowesifazane ozimele futhi ozimele, onomqondo wakhe oyinhloko kanye nesipiliyoni sokuphila okucebile. Akakwazi ukuzinqaba ezembathweni, noma ekuphumuleni, noma empilweni yangasese. Ngokwengqondo, uyaqaphela ukuthi asisekho omncane kakhulu, futhi ubuhle bakhe abukhona isikhathi eside, kodwa abamele abesilisa bayamlalela njalo. Yiqiniso, uzofuna ukuthola ithuba lokuphinde aphinde athole insizwa, ngoba usekhona isikhathi esiningi sokwenza, ukuhumusha amanye amaphupho amantombazane angewona owenziwe ngokoqobo. Futhi abesilisa bakhe abakhathele umsebenzi, ukukhathazeka kwekhaya akukhokheli ukunakekelwa okwanele ngokocansi, ngakho-ke unikeza intsha intandokazi, ekwazi ukuthola izifiso zayo. Zonke lezi zenzo ziyophakamisa ukuzethemba kwayo, kuzokusiza uzizwe uthanda futhi, ucansi futhi uthandekayo.
Owesifazane, ukuhlolwa okunjalo kuletha izinzuzo ezicacile. Ekugcineni angathola yonke into evela kumfana onamandla e-sex, engayitholanga phakathi neminyaka yokuphila okungathandeki emshadweni noma ubuhlobo obuseduze. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi abantu abasha banamandla amaningi namandla. Ngakho-ke, le nsizwa idla amandla akhe owesifazane ovuthiwe, ubulili naye - lo ngumthombo onjalo wobusha. Abesifazane abancane abasha baqhakaza futhi bavuselele phambi kwamehlo abo, banamandla amakhulu namandla. Lokhu, kunjalo, kufana nokufana ne-energy vampirism. Kodwa, uma owesifazane ethatha amandla kontanga yakhe, khona-ke kubonakala kakhulu kubo, futhi, uma umfana omncane, amandla akhe amakhulu agcinwe avuselelwe njalo. Ngakho-ke, kulokhu, inqubo yokukhululwa kwamandla yiyokuzithandela futhi ayinabungozi. Kodwa, owesifazane akaziqhumanga nje ngenxa yokuvuka kwamahomoni kanye nokukhuphuka kwamandla kagesi. Okokuqala yisici esibhekene nesimo sesibili sengqondo. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngaphambi kokuba bakhothamele, bayakwazisa, bafuna ekugcineni. Uyazi ukuthi insizwa encane phakathi kwezinkulungwane zamantombazane namantombazane amancane ayithanda kuye.
Yini eqondiswa izinsizwa, ukukhetha owesifazane ubuhlobo obudala? Esimweni ngasinye, umgomo wayo ulandelwa. Kodwa, uma sithatha isimo esijwayelekile, khona-ke inzuzo ehlangothini lwesimo senhlalo nesocansi. Umfana omncane uzithola engumlingani wesifazane onolwazi, ongamnika okungaphezu kontanga yakhe, ongakwazi ukwenza noma yini, okwenza amaphutha amaningi angenakuthethelelwa ekusondeleni, ngisho nobuchopho bomquba. Esikhathini sethu, amacala ezinyunyana ezinjalo aye avame ngoba abafana abancane abancane baxazulula izinkinga zabo zomsebenzi ngokubambisana nabalondolozi babo abacebile abavuthiwe. Lokhu kubonakala kungumgogodla, ugcwalisa konke okusemandleni akhe, futhi yena, ngosizo lwezimali zakhe kanye nokuxhumana, umgqugquzela ekwenzeni umsebenzi.
Yiqiniso, kukhona ubuhlobo obuphezulu kulesi sigaba. Nakuba lokhu kuyinto engavamile kakhulu, lapho insizwa inokwanele futhi inombono omdala empilweni engangeni "empilweni yomuntu omdala" ngenxa yomngane wakhe, kodwa uvele nje uziqhenya ngesimo sakhe futhi isondeza ngokusondelana ne-social elite. Le ndoda ayinawo ocansini kuqala. Uthanda ukuthi yingxenye yobuhlobo babo ngaphezulu, lapho ungakhuluma khona. Phela, uyazisa umlingani wakhe ulwazi nolwazi angakwazi ukuhlanganyela naye. Unesithakazelo ekukhulumeni naye, ukufunda okuthile okusha nokuwusizo ekuphileni. Akanelisekile ngamantombazane abasha, abangenalwazi nabangenalwazi abanezinga eliphansi lokuhlakanipha. Ngenxa yomngane wakhe ovuthiwe, uqobo uqinisekisa, uyanelisa izifiso zakhe. Ukuzibonakalisa yena nabanye ukuthi yena, insizwa encane, iyadingeka owesifazane ovuthiwe futhi onolwazi. Akakhathaleli ukunqoba izinhliziyo zamantombazane amancane, ngoba bonke ontanga bakhe benza, futhi kulula kakhulu ukukwenza. Kodwa lokho akwenzayo kubonisa ukuthi angakwazi ukunqoba zonke izintaba.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabafana nabesifazane abasebancane eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-30 abukwazi ukuhlala phakade, ngokuyisisekelo, njenganoma yikuphi okunye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi owesifazane ufuna ukuhlala emncane isikhathi eside kangakanani, iminyaka iyenza bazizwe. Futhi, omncane le ndoda, ekuqaleni uqala ukubheka amantombazane amancane, enomzimba oqinile futhi ebhekene ngaphandle kwemibimbi. Futhi ubuhlobo buzohamba kusukela ezingeni le "lover-lover" kuze kube sezingeni "lendodana yendodana." Ngendlela, ubuhlobo obunjalo bokuxhumana buvame ukutholakala ohlelweni lobuhlobo olunjalo. Owesifazane ngazo zonke izindlela kungenzeka avikele umlingani, futhi yena naye uzizwa ephephile ngaphansi kokunakekelwa kwakhe. Ubudala obuhle kunabo bonke ubudlelwane obungalingani buyiminyaka ephakathi kwemihlanu kuya kweyisishiyagalombili. Yiqiniso, ukwehluka okuncane, cishe ubuhlobo. Umehluko eminyakeni embalwa ingabonakali, kungakapheli ayishumi - hhayi okubucayi kangaka, kodwa ngaphezulu kweyishumi - umehluko obungozi. Ngokwemvelo, owesifazane angazama ukuzigcina ehle futhi abukeka emncane kunalokho akhona. Kodwa konke kuvunyelwe ngokulinganisela. Awudingi ukugqoka njengentsha futhi usebenze njengengane. Gcina imingcele yobudala, ngakho konke kuyoba kuhle.
Ngokuvamile, kunezizathu ezihlukahlukene zokudala ubuhlobo obunjalo, futhi imigomo ehlukene ilandelwa. Yiqiniso, imishado enjalo emidlalweni yabo emfushane kakhulu, ngenxa yazo zonke izici ezaziwa, zona, ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ziyahlukana. Banoba nethuba elincane lokuqhubeka isikhathi eside kunelabo obuhlobo lapho umuntu ekhulile kunowesifazane. Kodwa lokhu akusona isithiyo ekudalweni kwabo.