Umqondo jikelele wezingxabano zenhlalo (social)
Ngaphambi kokucubungula ngendaba yezimpikiswano zomphakathi nezindlela zokuzixazulula, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacile nokuqonda umqondo onjengokungqubuzana komphakathi. Ngakho-ke, izingxabano zomphakathi zikhona, njengomthetho, izingxabano ezivela ngenxa yokungavumelani, ukuzama ukuthatha indawo yomholi noma ukungafani kwemibono, imibono evela emacimbini athile enhlalakahle (iqembu elisebenzayo, iqembu lezemfundo esikhungweni semfundo nokunye). Ngale ndlela, uxhumano lomphakathi phakathi kwabantu lubonakala ngokucacile.
Izindlela nezinqumo mayelana nendlela yokuphuma empini
Njengombuso, izingxabano ngokwabo kanye nezixazululo zesinqumo sabo zimelela umgqa oyinhloko lapho ukuziphatha komphikisi kusekelwe kulokhu kulwa.
Ngokusho kochwepheshe, izingxabano zezenhlalo zihlanganisa amasu ayisihlanu amakhulu, okungukuthi: ukuphikisana, ukuthola ukuyekethisa, ukugwema inkinga, ukuguqula, ukubambisana. Ake sithole kabanzi ngokuqondene nalezi zikhundla, ezithatha indlela yokuphuma nokuxazulula impikiswano yomphakathi.
Ngakho, ukuphikisana. It isekelwe ekuphoqeleni umphikisi wakhe isinqumo esamukelekayo kakhulu kuye. Ukuphikisana okunjalo kungalungiswa ngezikhathi eziningana. Okokuqala, lapho lesi sinqumo sinomklamo oqinile, okwesibili, siletha umphumela onenzuzo kubo bonke ababambiqhaza empini noma inhlangano yonke, hhayi komuntu othize noma i-microgroup; okwesithathu, kufanele kubalulekile futhi ungathathi isikhathi esiningi somuntu siqu ukuqaliswa empilweni. Le ndlela iphumelela ezimweni eziyisisekelo nangokweqile noma uma kunokuntuleka kwesikhathi okuphawulekayo. Kodwa kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi ukuphikisana kungaba nemiphumela emibi. Isibonelo, uma konke kungasebenzi ngokulandela uhlelo, ungalindela ukulahlwa kubantu abazungezile.
Ukuthola ukuyekethisa . Leli sinyathelo lihlanganisa izindlela zokuqeda impikiswano ngosizo lwama-leadges ayingxenye. Umhlanganyeli empikiswaneni yomphakathi wenqaba ingxenye yezimfuno ezibekwa ngaphambilini futhi ubonisa ukuzimisela kwayo ngokucacile ukwamukela zonke izimangalo ezivela kwelinye iqembu. Ukunciphisa kubhekwa njengokusebenza kahle uma izingxenye zombili zenkambinkimbi ziqaphela ukuthi zinamalungelo afanayo namathuba, zinezithakazelo ezifanayo, ziyaneliseka ngesinqumo sesikhashana futhi zithathwe isongo ukuze zilahlekelwe yizinto zonke.
Ukugwema inkinga noma ukuxazulula kuyindlela eyodwa yokushiya ukungavumelani komphakathi ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa okukhulu. Le ndlela ihluke ngokuphawulekayo kusuka esimweni esifanayo sokuhlela ngesikhathi sokulwa. Ngokujwayelekile, izindawo zokuphikisa eziphikisana nale ndlela emva kokuba yonke imizamo yakhe yokushintsha noma yimuphi ihlulekile, ngemuva kokuqaliswa ngokusebenzisa amasu asebenzayo. Lapha, cishe, asikhulumi ngokuthola isixazululo, kodwa mayelana nokuqothulwa kwengxabano yezenhlalakahle ngokwayo. Noma isenzo esinjalo singasabela ngendlela eyakhayo ekungqubuzaneni okungakapheli noma ukungathandi ukuqhubekela phambili.
Ukulungiswa noma ukuvumela. Lezi zindlela zithwala ukuphoqeleka noma ukuzithandela ukuhlanganyela emzabalazweni (ukungqubuzana). Ngokuvamile, abahlanganyeli bezingxabano bafika emkhakheni onjalo uma beqaphela ukuthi akulungile, isifiso sokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle, ukungathí sina kwenkinga, noma ukucindezeleka kwemiphumela emibi, ukungabi khona kwamathuba okuba nomunye umphumela, nokucindezelwa komuntu wesithathu.
Ukubambisana . Kubhekwa njengenye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokuxazulula impikiswano yomphakathi. Ukubambisana kubandakanya ukukhanga kwabaphikisi indlela yokwakha yokuxazulula inkinga, ngokusebenzisa izingxoxo phakathi kwamaqembu amabili aphikisanayo. Futhi kulokhu, elinye iqembu alithathwa njengeyisitha, kepha njengesihlobo. Kuhle kakhulu esimeni esinjalo, uma izinhlangothi zombili zizwa ukuvumelanisa okuqinile, zinganaki amandla omzimba futhi kubalulekile ukubhekisela kwisixazululo esisodwa.
Ukukhetha kwanoma iyiphi yalezi zindlela ezizosiza ekuxazululeni izingxabano zomphakathi, ngokuqondile kuxhomeke ezintweni. Ngokuvamile, bangabonisa imininingwane yeqembu, izinga lomonakalo obangelwa ukungqubuzana, ukutholakala kwezinsiza, imiphumela engenzeka, ukubaluleka kwenkinga kanye nobude bezingxabano.
Indlela engenzeka kakhulu ukusebenzisa ukuzithengisa, njengoba ukuvunyelwa yizinhlangothi zombili kuvumela ukuba kufinyeleleke njenge-asymmetric (ohlangothini olulodwa lwenza ukudluliselwa kancane, omunye okunye) noma okulinganayo (amaqembu enza ukuvumelana okulinganayo) kwemvume.
Kuhlale kudingeke ukhumbule ukuthi ukuhlanganiswa kwazo zonke izinkambiso, okokuqala, kuhloswe ukuqeda konke ukungqubuzana okuphazamisa ukungqubuzana komphakathi.
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Njengoba wonke umuntu uyazi, ngokuvamile isisusa esiyinhloko sokuvela kwezingxabano zomphakathi yibo ngokwethu, noma kunalokho, abantu abathile abaqala eqenjini "ukupheka iphalenda" ngenxa yokungaqondani, ukungaboni kahle, ukungavumelani nokuhlukana kokwahlulela. Futhi esikhundleni sokuzama ukufinyelela eselulekeni sasekhaya futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma kwimeko yamanje, abantu abaningi bayadonsela empini ukuze baqinisekise ukufaneleka kwabo, ngisho nangaphandle kokungena ngokucacile esimweni. Kodwa, eqinisweni, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukulalela ngokucophelela izimpikiswano zalabo ababambe iqhaza futhi ungabi omunye wabaholi.
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