Isikhathi sishintsha abantu nje kuphela, kodwa futhi nabantu, isikhathi esiningi singathinta futhi ubuhlobo bobubili. Khumbula ngo-2001: ingabe omunye umuntu wayengacabanga ukuthi umbhangqwana wegolide waseHollywood Brad Pee noJennifer Aniston bahlukana ngokuphelele futhi ngokungenakuqhathaniswa? Futhi u-Liam Gallagher we-Oasis ongathandana naye kanye nomdlali wezenzo uNicole Appleton uzobe eseba ndawonye? Iningi lethu lizama zonke izinsuku ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo babo nesoka ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda: kodwa siyojabula ndawonye? Kodwa ngokuvamile lokhu kuhlaziywa kusekelwe ezintweni ezicacile ezifana na: ingabe uyayihlonipha umbono wethu, ingabe uzimisele ukusekela esimeni esinzima, ngabe uthanda ukuvakashela ugogo futhi ufuna ukuba nezingane. Kodwa asiboni lokho okufihlekile, kanti empeleni kungadlala indima enkulu kulokho ikusasa lethu liyoba khona. Yiqiniso, sibona ukuthi umshado, ukuzalwa kwezingane kanye nomsebenzi kuzoshintsha kakhulu ukulungiswa kwamandla emndenini wethu osemusha. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akuyona nje okuyoyithinta.
I-Fatalism ne-adrenalineKusho ukuthini lokhu? Bamba ngokuqinile! Eminyakeni eyishumi ezayo impilo yakho iyofana ne-roller coaster. Futhi yilokho kanye nonke enikufunayo: ngamunye wenu uxabisa i-adrenaline ngenhla ukuzinza. Esikhundleni sokuma futhi uqale ukuxazulula izinkinga, ukhetha indlela ehlukumezayo: bavumele ukuba bazikhandle, noma ... Kungcono ukushisa kunokushisa - Isiqubulo sikaKurt Cobain sisetshenziswe othandweni.
Kungani uzoba ndawonye? Uzobe unamathele kakhulu ekuhlangenwe nakho kwesikhashana: ukuya emgodini we-volcano. Ukuxabana, ukuma emgodini we-volcano, yakha, yima emgodini we-volcano, ube nobulili ku-crater ... Uma ngaphandle kokuthembela kwe-adrenaline ubunye futhi ngothando, ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo ngeke kuphele ngokuhlukana. Phela, isifiso sakho sokuxabana sizoba nesifiso esikhulu sokubuyisana.
Kungani ungahlukana? Uma into efihliwe ngothando oluqinile, engaqinisekisiwe, ubuhlobo bakho buyasongelwa. Izinkinga ongayinaki zizobuya ngokuphindaphindiwe. Futhi ukuhlolwa okubi kakhulu kuyomzuzu lapho omunye wenu, ekugcineni, eyokhula, umlutha uzoqhubeka efuna ukuzijabulisa.
Ungasindisa kanjani uthando lwakho? Ekuqaleni uqala ukukhuluma izinto ezinzulu, kungcono. Vumela ngamunye wenu enze uhlu lwezinto ongazicabangi ngokuphila kwakho ngaphandle. Khombisa izimiso zokuphila - izingane, umshado, izinhlelo zomsebenzi. Qiniseka, ungacabangi. Bese uqhathanisa nezinhlamvu zakho. Yebo, umbono wezingane nezinkinga ezihlobene nabo kungaphazamisa isimo sengqondo. Kodwa uma ufuna ukusebenzisa yonke impilo yakho nale ndoda, udinga ukufunda ukuthi uvule omunye nomunye.
Ingqondo nemizwa
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Phuma, iminyaka engu-10 elandelayo enkampanini izobeka lo muntu kahle. Okokuqala, ubuhlobo bakho buyisisekelo esiqine kakhulu: ukwazi ukukhuluma nokuxoxisana, ungesabi ukuveza izihloko ezibalulekile. Okwesibili, phakathi kwenu akukho mncintiswano kanye nesifiso sokubonisa ukuthi kukhona okungcono, futhi kuhle kakhulu.
Kungani uzoba ndawonye? Siza ukwethembeka nokombono onengqondo ngezinto: ubona kuqala ubunzima obunokwenzeka, ngakho-ke angeke bakususe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amahlumela amafosholo emakamelweni, njengoba imibhangqwana eminingi ikhetha ukwenza - hhayi indlela yakho.
Kungani ungahlukana? Uthando lwakho lokuhlela lungabangela umuzwa wokuthi ukuphila sekulinganiselwe kakhulu, ukuthi akukho lutho oluhle kakhulu okuzokwenzeka ngalo, futhi ngenxa yalokho, wena noma umlingani ungaphikisana nokuvumelanisa nokuphikisana.
Ungasindisa kanjani uthando lwakho? Uyomangala, kodwa ... udinga ukufunda ukuxabana okwesikhashana. Yenza okuthile ngokuzenzekelayo, kwenze ngaphandle kokungaboni ngamabomu, futhi ezinye izinto akufanele zikhulunywe ngakho (kufanele kube khona imfihlakalo kumuntu wesifazane). Khumbula ukuthi abantu ababili abakwazi (futhi ngeke) bachithe ukuphila kwabo kuphela emlenzeni - izenzo ezingalindelekile zomlingani ngeke zivumele ukuba udumale. Futhi ufunde ukuzithoba ngokwakho. Nina bobabili nijwayele ukuthola lokho okufunayo, futhi inyunyana yakho yilokho oye wathanda njalo. Kuzo zombili zombili imibono ekhazimulisiwe, futhi lokhu ngokwakho kuyisisusa esenza wenze konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umndeni wakho "onjalo opholile" ugcinwe.
Kungani ungahlukana? Uyakwazi ukudweba iziphetho zamaphutha amaningi. Kodwa awuyena genie ovela ebhodleleni hhayi umama kaNkulunkulu, ngakho esikhundleni sokuziphindaphinda: "Angiyikuvumela izinkinga ezinkulu", uthi lokhu: "Uma izinkinga zivela, sizozixazulula."
Ukukhazimula namandla
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Bright, uphumelele, uhlakaniphile futhi uyedwa, kodwa ndawonye uyinamandla lapho kungekho khona izithiyo. Futhi ngisho noma omunye wenu ebusa phezu komunye, awunikeli ukuhlukumeza okwesibini.
Kungani uzoba ndawonye? Abantu ababili abanamandla-abanamathele ndawonye - kuhle, kodwa kunzima. Omunye wenu uzokhathala ngelinye ilanga ngokukhombisa ukuthi naye, futhi akayikugcoba shit, ukuthi uzocabangela: akufanele yini sithole umlingani ohlangene ohlangothini olulodwa empilweni? Futhi kukhona ingozi ukuthi uma umlingani ovelele ethola konke akufunayo.
Ungasindisa kanjani uthando lwakho? Kumele ube yiqembu: funda ukuvumelana, ume omunye entabeni, uma kunesidingo, khanyise ngesikhathi esisodwa, kodwa futhi. Futhi khumbula ukuthi ungowesifazane - okusho ukuthi udinga ukuvikelwa, ukwesekwa, ngezinye izikhathi utshela umuntu wakho ngalokhu ngokuqondile. Funda ukubonisa ubuthakathaka, ungazami ukuba yinkosikazi yensimbi. Awufuni iminyaka eyishumi kamuva ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi umlingani wakho uhlangene nothando nokubonga? Uma ungakwazi ukususa mask of the winner, uzobona ukuthi othandekayo hhayi ngenxa yalokho okwenzayo, kodwa ngalokho oyikho.