Ngiphakamisa, okokuqala, nginqume ukuthi ungubani? Cha, ngiyaqonda ukuthi uwazi ubulili bakho isikhathi eside, kodwa angikhulumi ngalokhu. Ngokuqinisekile, wezwa ukuthi ngaphakathi komuntu ngamunye uhlala nendoda yakhe yangaphakathi (ngemuva kwalokhu - VM) nomfazi wangaphakathi (ngemuva kwalokhu - VZh). Ngokuvamile, banquma izenzo zakho, izenzo nokuziphatha kwakho. Ngaphezu kwabo, usenayo ngokwakho, okungukuthi, isizathu sakho esekelwe ku-Will yakho. Ngezinye izikhathi imibono yalokhu kuqu-zintathu iyavumelana, ngezinye izikhathi ihlukanisa, bese ungenakho konke okwakushiwo Ingqondo yakho, lokho kuyiwe.
Cabanga ukuthi i-VM ne-VZ bahlala ingxenye ethile yezwe lakho elingaphakathi. Ake sibone ukuthi umuntu umelephi, lapho i-VM ithatha khona isikhala esingu-90% sendawo yangaphakathi, ne-VZ - 10%. Ucabanga kanjani?
Uma kwenzeka lokhu kungumuntu, khona-ke lokhu kuyindoda eyaziwayo. Uyaziqhenya, ulaka, ngezimfanelo zobuholi ezithuthukile. Abantu abanjalo bathola ezakhiweni zamandla noma amandla akhethekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bangaba abaphathi bebhizinisi, abadlali, abacwaningi njalonjalo. Ebudlelwaneni nabesifazane, ngokwemvelo, banesimo esiphezulu, okungukuthi, kufanelekile kulabo abamele besifazane abanesizotha esincane. Bamukela indlela nokuziphatha kwalowo muntu. Bonke abanye, abesifazane abazimele futhi abaziwayo, abanomuntu onjalo kuyoba nzima, ngoba kunamaphuzu ambalwa okuxhumana.
Kuzokwenzekani uma abantu abangamaphesenti angu-90 bahlala kowesifazane? Ngokuvamile owesifazane oqinile, okhaliphile, ozimele onesitayela sokuziphatha nokucabanga. Ngokwemvelo, abameleli abathinteka ngokobulili obuthakathaka, bazithola ezombusazwe, ibhizinisi, ngoba kuhle ukudlala imidlalo yamadoda nokuveza indoda.
Abesifazane abanjalo banenkinga engapheli emiphakathini yabo. Inketho evame kakhulu - indoda ihlabela ngaphandle, kodwa emva kwemihlangano eminingana iphela. Kungani? Yebo, ngoba amadoda avamile ayethandwa kakhulu kubantu. Ngokuqondile, abesifazane abanjalo banesithakazelo kumadoda ane-VZH eyaziwa. Kufana namadoda ... kodwa njalo badinga into efana nokukhala emgodleni noma ehlombe lomuntu onamandla.
Uma kwenzeka owesifazane onjalo elamukela ukubusa kwakhe, angakha umbhangqwana wesithandani nomunye wesifazane okhulunywe nge-VZH.
Ake sicabange ngomunye okwedlulele - umuntu, lapho i-В4 ithatha khona 90%
Owesifazane. Uyamangalisa kakhulu, uneminyakakazi, uthanda izingane nomndeni, izindaba zekhaya njalonjalo. Amadoda amaningi akhangwa abesifazane abanjalo, ngoba abakha noma ubani futhi banomlingisi ophansi wesifazane.
Le ndoda. Kunalokho buthakathaka, buthaka, buthaka. Abesifazane, njengombuso, abathandeki kuye ikakhulukazi, ngakho ekugcineni uba ngongqingili ezimweni eziningi.
Siye sabheka ukukhetha okukhulu kakhulu, iningi lethu, eqinisweni, sithatha isikhundla esiphakathi. Uma lena yindoda ene-VM eyinhloko, khona-ke lena indoda evamile enokuziphatha komuntu. Uma owesifazane ene-VZ enamandla, khona-ke lona wesifazane ojwayelekile owesifazane ovamile .
Indlela yokubhekana nobulili? Yilokho, yiziphi izinkinga, ezinkulu nezincane, eziphakama kulokhu?
Owesifazane ophethe i-VM ephezulu uzoba nezinkinga zokuthola umlingani ngaleyo ndlela, okusho izinkinga zocansi.
Indoda ene-VM enamandla izoba nezinkinga ekusebenzelaneni nabesifazane abazimele nabathuthukile. Uma kwenzeka ukhangwa kulokho, ubunzima abugwemeki.
Ubuhlobo obuvumelanayo buvame ukubunjwa phakathi kwendoda ene-VM engama-60-75% owesifazane ophethe i-VZ ebangeni elifanayo. Ama-30-40% asele azohlinzeka ngokuxhumana okunethezekile nokuqonda okuhlangene nobulili obuhlukile.
Kukhona incwadi enjalo - i-Tantra yodwa. Umlobi walo, u-Atma, ubhala ukuthi i-VM yethu ne-VZ bahlanganyele empilweni yethu futhi bakhanga labo abafana nabo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuthiwa i-VM yethu ne-VZ yithi ngokwethu, kodwa ekuvuselelweni kwangaphambilini. Ngokuvamile, akunakwenzeka ukuqinisekisa lokhu. Noma kunjalo, iqiniso lihlala liwukuthi singene emiphilweni yethu abantu abafana nabo kunoma yini. Uma ucabanga ukuthi lo msebenzi we-VM yethu ne-VZ, ungakwazi ukulinganisela ukuthi zibukeka kanjani nokuthi ziyini. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyathakazelisa kakhulu, futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, impela nje.
I-VZh.
Uma ungowesifazane, cishe ucabange izintombi zakho, yiziphi izici zobuntu kanye nedatha yangaphandle abanayo. Thola into efanayo futhi ungacabanga ukuthi yilokho okubonakalayo i-VZ yakho, ukudala inkampani nabesifazane abazungezile abafana nayo.
Kuyathakazelisa nakakhulu ukuzibona wena futhi uqonde ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo onakho ngobuningi, nokuthi yini oyibheka engathandeki kuwe. Ukuzama ukuwaqeda, kodwa akuningi okwenzekayo. Isibonelo, unamathele kakhulu entweni yothando lwakho. Kungokwemvelo ukuthi indoda ayilungele ukuthwala umthwalo wemfanelo yowesifazane oye washiya ngokusemthethweni impilo yakhe siqu hhayi nje kuphela ngaye. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uyaqonda ukuthi le mfanelo igwema kuphela, kodwa awukwazi ukwenza lutho ngakho. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuyingxenye ye-VG yakho, enesizotha esincane futhi esaba njalo ukuhlala yodwa.
Uma ungumuntu, khumbula izici zangaphandle nezangaphakathi zabakhethiweyo bakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi unezikhathi eziningi owakhiwe ubuhlobo nabesifazane ababukeka ngokulinganayo. Ukuphakama, isisindo, njll .. noma ngezici ezifanayo. Uma ulawula ukuhlukanisa imininingwane efanayo futhi wenze i-portrait eseduze - yi-VZH yakho.
VM.
Uma ungowesifazane, ubuka emuva - ngamadoda ovame ukwakhiwa ubuhlobo, okuyinto amadoda ayevame ukuhlangana ngayo ekuphileni kwakho. Yini abafana ngayo, njalonjalo. Futhi, lapha, asikhulumi ngomqondo onguphi, mhlawumbe, ofisa, kodwa mayelana nabalingani bangempela.
Ngokwesibonelo, ngamaphupho uzibheka nomuntu onamandla, onesibindi, onakekelayo futhi okhululekile, kodwa awukwazi ukwenza noma yini nabo. Futhi empeleni, uchitha isikhathi nezinqola ezingenakuziphendulela, okujabulisayo futhi awukwazi ukucabanga kusasa. Kulokhu, lo muntu wakho wangaphakathi. Futhi nguye okhetha inkampani, ngokuphambene nezintshisekelo zesizathu sakho.
Uma ungumuntu, bheka abangane bakho nabangane abasondelene nabo. Cabanga ngezinto abafana ngazo. Zingafana nawe, futhi zihluke kakhulu. Esikhathini esilandelayo, kungase kube nezinkinga i-VM yakho ezoyidala.
Isibonelo, unengqondo kakhulu, uzolile futhi uyadumisa. Futhi abangane bakho bangamadoda abafuna ukuzithoba futhi abayinkinga. Kungenzeka ukuthi i-VM yakho yilokho ngempela, futhi izokwenza ngezikhathi ezithile ikuthumele ezenzweni ezingafani nawe (okusheshayo nokucasula).
Uma izici ezijwayelekile zingabonakali.
Ungesabi noma wenze izenzo ze-rash ukuze wembule okuthile okufanayo kubangane bakho nezintombi. Into enengqondo kakhulu akufanele ukwenze noma yini. Phila uphinde ubhekane nezinkinga usebenzisa ikhanda.
Kungani lokhu kungenzeka? Ezinye izinkolelo zithi abantu abaningana bangahlala ngaphakathi kwethu, futhi ngamunye wabo uhola umngane noma intombi. Ngakho-ke, akekho kubo olawulayo, futhi ukuveza okuthile okuvamile kunzima. Lokhu kuvamile.
Nokho, ake sibuyele ezinkingeni ezinkulu nezincane ezenzweni zobulili kulabo abanenhlanhla ekudaluleni izici eziyinhloko ze-VM yabo noma i-VZH.
Indlela yokuxazulula izinkinga.
Ngokuvamile kakhulu, uma unelisekile ngazo zonke izimfanelo onawo. Ngihlale ngifuna ukushintsha, ukulungisa, ukususa, njalonjalo. Ngemuva kokuthi ufunde mayelana nabantu bakho abahlala kuwe, kunezizathu ezengeziwe zokulawulwa kwangaphakathi. Ikakhulukazi ukukhathazeka ngalezo zimo uma i-VM yangaphakathi noma i-VZ ikudala izinkinga kuwe.
Kunezinkolelo eziningi ezithi ungashintsha i-VM yakho ne-VZ. Ngokuyinhloko, lokhu kuyi-Psychosynthesis ne-NLP. Kunezihloko ezikhethekile ezizinikezele kulokhu. Uma unesifiso nethuba lokuxhumana nabachwepheshe kule nkambu, khona-ke ungakwenza. Kodwa-ke, ukugqamisa amandla abo akufanelekile, kungabantu nje.
Uma kungenjalo abantu abanjalo, umsebenzi owusizo ungakwazi futhi kufanele wenziwe wedwa. Nazi izinyathelo ezimbalwa eziyisisekelo zalesi nqubo.
1. Ukukhomba ukuphathwa kwabo okubalulekile - sesivele sibhekane nalokhu.
2. Ukubukeka. Cabanga, isibonelo kusikrini sangaphakathi, uma uvale amehlo akho.
3.Ukuhlukanisa kanye nokukholisa. Phakamisa ingxenye engakuhambisani nawe, ungaphazamisi impilo yakho.
4. Ukuqaphela. Bheka futhi uhlaziye lokho okushintshile futhi kushintshiwe.
Isibonelo, phinda uthathe futhi, umuntu ophethe i-VZH engu-10%. Kufanele amcele ukuthi athathe isikhala esiningi kuwo. Emva kwalokho, udinga ukuzwa okuncane futhi uvumele ukuthi ubonise. Hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi .. nakuba kukhona uhlobo oluthile lwezikhathi eziseduze .. isibonelo, kumdanso noma ngokobulili. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzoxazulula zonke izinkinga zakhe embhedeni ... futhi lo muntu ngokwakhe uzoba ipulasitiki eyengeziwe futhi ekhululekile ..
Owesifazane onesihluku onama-80% we-VM angaphinda acele i-VM ukwenza isikhala esincane futhi unikeze isikhala esiningi se-VG. Ungamcela ukuthi abonise ukulingana nokunciphisa. Ngokwemvelo, i-VM ingaphikisana nokuphikisana - ukulahlekelwa okungenzeka ebhizinisini nokunye. Lungiselela lokhu futhi ucabange ngesimo sakho ngokusekelwe ukuthi kuzoba ngcono kuwo wonke umuntu.
Futhi-ke okuthakazelisa kakhulu - uma ubona ukuthi okwamanje umkhakha wesithakazelo, uthi, i-VZ, bese umtshela ngokwengqondo ukuba azibonakalise. Ngemuva kwalokho, vumela ukulawula kwangaphakathi bese uqaphela okwenzeka emzimbeni wakho nasekuziphatheni. Yiqiniso, umphumela awuveli ngokushesha, kudinga ukuphinda usebenzise izikhathi ezinhlanu kuya kwezi-10.
Lapha into esemqoka ukukholelwa kuwe. Futhi uzozibonela wena - izimangaliso zenzeka.
Kunalokho kuphelile?
Kuyaziwa ukuthi umgwaqo uyaziwa kahle ngezinhloso ezinhle, wazi ukuthi kuphi. Ingozi enkulu ukuthi udideke nakakhulu. Ekuqaleni wawusodwa, futhi manje kukhona abathathu kini. Ubani obangela izinguquko ezidingekayo nokuthi ungayigcina kanjani isimo? Kulula ukudideka futhi ube ngumuntu onenkinga kakhulu futhi ophikisanayo. Futhi uma oxhumana nabo beqala ukwakha izithiyo phakathi kwabo? Sekuvele kunuka ukungaqondakali kwengqondo futhi kugcwele ukwelashwa okukhethekile. Akungabazeki ukuthi ukuhlala esikhungweni sempilo yengqondo yilokho okudingayo. Azikho izixazululo ezinkingeni zobulili, njengoba uqonda. Ngakho-ke, uma unesithakazelo ekuhlangenwe nakho nokungaqiniseki okuqhubekayo, kungcono ukungathinti abantu bakho. Phila njengoba uphile futhi wenza ezinye izinto.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukwenza umlingani wakho wokuphila u-asexual noma ungenaso isifiso sobulili kuwe, kunzima - uyiphutha. Ake sicabangele indlela elula noma, kangcono ukusho, isimo.
Ukucindezeleka.
Konke kuyaziwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka yisimo sokuzijabulisa okunamandla komzimba, okuyinto isimo sethu sokuphila esilinganisa ukuthi siyingozi empilweni. Kodwa-ke, injabulo kule nkinga ayijabulisi, ayikho indlela ehlobene nokuvuswa kocansi. Qhathanisa ubulili nokucindezeleka ndawonye - futhi ucansi luphela. Isibonelo, othandekayo wakho ujabule, noma ubheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, noma wabona i-sexy blonde enobukhulu obungamamitha amane-mhlaka futhi ugijima kuwe. Futhi awukho emoyeni noma ucasuliwe. Zichitha, zijabule nakakhulu, bese uveza konke okucabangayo. Ukuqaphela kusebenza ngokucacile - manje uye wabeka ekhanda lakhe ukuthi ubulili ibhizinisi eliyingozi, ngoba bonke abantu abathandi ukuhlukana okunjalo. Phinda lesi simo izikhathi eziningana, futhi lokho kuzokwanela. Ungakwazi, ukuze uhlanganise umphumela, tshela into enjengokuthi "nalokhu kuphelile kungcono futhi ungaqali" futhi ungacabanga ukuthi ukulala naye sekuphelile. Ikakhulukazi nawe.
Kuyafana nakwabesifazane - kubiza indoda izikhathi ezimbalwa ukukhipha amazwi angenangqondo mayelana nobulili bakhe futhi umzimba wakhe uyokwenza isiphetho esifanayo: kungani kufanele nginezokuzijabulisa okunjalo okucindezelayo? Kulungile. Akudingeki. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ubudlelwane obuphelele buhlala buhle.
Indlela yokuxazulula izinkinga ngocansi?
Uma ngokungazelelwe uqaphele ukuthi unesibindi ukwesaba ukuhlala esimweni esihle, ukulindela injabulo yocansi ngoba othile wakukhubekisa, wakhathazeka noma uhlazekile kulokhu, yenza abangane bakho ngokwesaba! Kubone ngeso lengqondo, umthumelele umfudlana ogcwele wothando, uthando nomusa. Isebenza. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungenza ukwesaba kwakho futhi wenze uhlobo oluthile lokulwa nohlelo. Isibonelo, zitshele wena - "Ngesaba ukulala ocansini, ngoba nginovalo lokuthi ngingacaciswanga noma ngimangalisa." Bese usho isitatimende ngencazelo ehlukile - "Ngivulelekile ocansini, ngiyaziqhenya njalo futhi ngithola injabulo yangempela kwezocansi". Ngemuva kwalokho, udinga ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi namandla ukuze uphinde uphinde ubhale ukufaka kwakho izikhathi eziningana, ukuze ukwazi ukuwuthatha lo myalo bese uwushintsha ngesimo sengqondo esibi.
Ngelinye igama, kukhona kuphela ithuba lokuzenza ngcono, kufanele nje wenze umzamo futhi ube nesineke.
Amandla amabi.
Ngokusobala, ubulili buthuthukisa impilo. Kodwa, ukuze ulale ocansini, kudingeka ube nakho okungenani ngamanani amaningi. Ubulili - njengemfundo engokwenyama, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lihleka kanjani. Futhi akubalulekile ukuthi i-musculature yakho, kodwa kunesimo somzwelo namandla angaphakathi. Okusho ukuthi, uma uphazamisekile noma ubuthongo obubi, ngeke ube namandla emfundo engokwenyama. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma unomoya ophelele, ugcwele amandla, bese uqhubeka ... akufanele kube nezinkinga ngocansi ... uma kunjalo, kukhona abantu okufanele babhekane nayo. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, uhlale utholakale kalula, ngakho ungalahleki.
Okubi nakakhulu ukuthi uma kwenzeka ukhulula umzuzwana omnyama womsebenzi wakho wamanje, udinwe noma ucindezelwe nje kuphela ... konke ukunakwa kwakho kugxile kulokhu, futhi lapho kunakekelwa khona, kukhona amandla. Akukona okwebulili ... okungenani kuhle.
Indlela yokuxazulula?
Impendulo icacile - ukuqeda konke okungalungile, ukuthola amandla, ukulala. Kodwa, lokhu akwanele. Kungenzeka ukuthi awujwayele ukunaka izitho zakho zofuzo - empeleni, cabanga, yikuphi okungenangqondo, nginayo izinto eziningi okufanele ngizenze.
Khumbula - amandla azoqoqwa nomaphi lapho uzonakekelwa khona. Ngakho-ke, kuwe, uzosetshenziswa ekuxazululeni inkinga elandelayo emsebenzini noma ekhaya. Kunezindlela eziningi zokwandisa ubulili bakho - kusukela ekufundeni izincwadi ezithandwayo noma ukubukela amabhayisikobho angcolile, ukushaya indlwabu (ngaphandle kokuphela). Kwabesifazane, enye indlela ephumelelayo yokwandisa ubulili besifazane kucatshangelwa.
Amathoyizi.
EMpumalanga, esikhathini eside esidlule, baqonda ukubaluleka kobudlelwano bobulili futhi bahlakulela izindlela eziningi zokuxazulula izinkinga zocansi - ezinkulu nezincane.
Abesifazane ngalokhu bangasebenzisa amathoyizi akhethekile ngendlela yamabala noma amaqanda ... ingilazi, itshe noma ipulasitiki. Kwenzekani kulokhu? Umzimba wakwamanye amazwe ujabulisa ubulili futhi uheha lapho ukushisa nokunakwa, okusho amandla! Kuthululeka kakhulu emzimbeni wakho ... ukuyeka isitimela esingapheli semiqondo! Kukhona umphumela kathathu:
- Ukwandiswa kobulili, uvula ubuso bawo obusha
- uyeka ukusebenza okungadingekile kwemicabango, uphumule, ukuvumelana kwangaphakathi kuphakama
- Yandisa amandla akho, okwandisa amathuba okuphumelela kwakho endleleni eya kwimisebenzi.
Yini esinayo? Ukwelapha ngokobulili ngokoqobo.
Amadoda afana namathoyizi, ngeshwa alikho. Kodwa-ke, izithelo zomcabango wakho nokuba nomlingani eceleni kungenza izimangaliso. Ekugcineni, cabanga ngo- ... yiziphi izinkinga zobulili onayo ... noma ungabhekana nazo ngokwakho usebenzisa izindlela ezingenhla noma udinga usizo lomlingani wakho.
Umzamo omncane futhi konke oyophumelela.