Izinkinga eziyisishiyagalombili ezinkulu zesilisa

Kukhona ukucabanga ukuthi ukukhubazeka kwabantu akufani nakakhulu ngokobulili. Kodwa ezinye izici kanye nezakhiwo zomlingiswa zibonakala emadodeni. Masisebenzise lesi sihloko ukuze siqonde ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga zamadoda ezifanayo eziletha izinkinga eziningi kubesifazane?


Ukungabi nenombolo 1. Ukugwema izinkinga

Ngokuvamile, abesifazane baveza ukuhlambalaza okulungile kubantu, lapho bengathandi ukuxazulula izinkinga ezincane, isibonelo, ezisekhaya. Lokhu kubonakala ngokukhethekile lapho umuntu ehamba yonke imicabango yakhe futhi, njengokungathi, uyazikhulula. Khona-ke kubonakala kwabesifazane ukuthi le ndoda ishintsha inkinga kumahlombe abo abuthakathaka, ikakhulukazi emshiya. Futhi kusukela endaweni yokubuka kwengqondo - akuyona iqiniso ngokuphelele. Amadoda nje adinga isikhathi esiningi sokuxazulula le nkinga. Kumele bacabange konke, bahlole ngokucophelela, ngaphandle kwemzwelo. Ngenxa yalokhu badinga ukuthula nokuthula. Amadoda angeke acabange futhi anikeze izixazululo ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngakho ingqondo yabo yakha.

Abesifazane kunzima kakhulu ukuqonda amadoda kuleso simo, ngoba bavame ukucabanga ngakho konke, banenqumo eziningi emakhanda abo. Uma lona wesifazane ecabanga ngokucophelela konke, ukhuluma futhi awubeke emashalofini, khona-ke isinqumo esifanele siza kuye ngaphandle kokulibala.

Futhi kubantu, konke kwenzeka ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele. Isixazululo senkinga sivela kubo ngaphakathi, akudingeki ukubazwakala futhi basho inkinga njengabesifazane. Futhi isidingo somuntu kuphela sokunikezwa ithuba lokucabanga, hhayi ukusheshisa izinto, bese inkinga yakho izoxazululwa ngempumelelo nangendlela efanele.

Ukungabi nenombolo 2. Ukuhluleka ukugcina izithembiso

Wonke umuntu ufuna ukuzizwa engcono ngesigamu sakhe, ukulungele ukuphendulela izintaba, aphule ikhekhe, kodwa akwenze ukuze ajabule. Angathembisa okuthile kubathandekayo bakhe, futhi yena, naye, uzofuna ukukuthola ngokushesha. Futhi uma kungazelelwe owesifazane akatholi lokho athembisiwe, ngemva kwesikhathi esithile angakwazi ukuthukuthela, athukuthele noma athukuthele, ukusabela ngokuqondile kuxhomeke kumlingiswa wesifazane. Owesifazane uzolahla indoda ngenxa yokuphuza kancane, engahambisani noma engakwazi ukumsiza nhlobo.

Futhi, into esabekayo kakhulu engase ibe yindoda ukuqaphela ubuthakathaka bakhe, ukuhluleka ukusiza owesifazane wakhe othandekayo, angakwazi neze ukuzizwa engenalutho. Lapho efuna, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuba abe wizard, ukufeza izifiso, umsizi wakhe. Lesi simo sikhipha isifiso esincane sabantwana sokuthi amadoda ahlale ephezulu. Isivumelwane esibi: "Yebo," "Ngizokwenza konke" - yilokho owesifazane ofuna ukuzwa kuye kulo mzuzu, futhi yena, ukuze avumelane kanyekanye kukho konke. Lokhu akusho neze ukuthi isithembiso somuntu ngeke sifeze, kumane kuthatha isikhathi.

Ngendlela, kuphela umuntu onesibindi ongavuma ukuthi kukhona okungaphezu kwamandla akhe noma ukuthi udinga isikhathi esithile sokufeza isithembiso. Abanye bayophula i-tucker ukuze bafeze izithembiso, futhi uma bengasebenzi, bona ngokwabo bayothukuthela, futhi ukuzethemba kwabo kungase kuwile. Indoda ngemvelo ifuna ukuba yi-superman eyintandokazi. Ngakho ungafaki imisebenzi engenakwenzeka phambi kwabathandekayo bakho, uyibeke ekupheleni kokufa, ukhiphe umqambimanga, ungabuzi njalo "kahle, uma" - uzothola lokho okufunayo futhi lo muntu ngeke "awele ebusweni" ebusweni benhliziyo.

Ukungabi nenombolo yesithathu. Amanga

Ngezinye izikhathi kulula ukuqamba amanga kumuntu kunokukhuluma iqiniso. Amadoda amaningi athola okungaphezu kokuphindaphindiwe ukusabela okungaphenduli kwabesifazane ekuphenduleni izimpendulo eziyiqiniso. Kodwa lokho kuyimvelo engaqondakali yemvelo - ngezinye izikhathi bayabuza imibuzo enzima kangaka njengokungathi ekhona ekhanda lempendulo yokuphendukela komuntu. Futhi ukuphendula indoda engcono kunokwesifazane owakucabangayo ekhanda lakhe, ngoba wayengeke amukele ezinye izimpendulo. Impendulo ayezicabange yona iyoba ngcono futhi iyamukeleke kuye.

Ukuze ugweme ukusabela okungalindelekile kwabesifazane, amadoda afunda nokuqamba amanga. Futhi, kwenziwa ngenjabulo nangekhono. Bonke abantu bakulungele ukwamukela amanga ngokuthula, okubenza bajabule futhi bajabule. Ngokuyinhloko, lokhu, okuyiyo, kuqondene nabamele abesilisa ababuthakathaka, abathi, njengoba siyazi, bathanda izindlebe. Futhi njengoba ungakwazi "u-hang noodle" ezindlebeni zesifazane ezithembekile ...

Ngezinye izikhathi sicabanga ukuthi amadoda awakwazi ukuqonda ama-psychological women's psychology. Kodwa lokhu akukona okuyiqiniso. Abanye basebenzisa kahle, isibonelo, ukuzithoba. Futhi obani kulaba besifazane abathandi ukuzithoba kumuntu othandekayo? Khumbula u-Dostoevsky kanye neqhawe lakhe uSvidrigailov, owonakele futhi ekhohlisa ngaphezu kowesifazane oyedwa.

Ukungabi nenombolo 4. IsiSlovenie

Isici esibalulekile sabesifazane Ukuntuleka kwamadoda ukuqapha ngokwabo nasemakhaya abo, ukunganaki imininingwane yangaphakathi, indlu yangasese kanye nenduduzo abesifazane abaningi abacasulekile. Ukunganaki kwamadoda kuvame ukubangelwa izingxabano zomndeni. Masizikhumbule amasokisi ahlakazekile kulo lonke indlu, izinwele ezihlambulukile, ubuso obungaphephile, ukuphefumula okubi, kusuka emilenzeni nokunye okunjalo. Kubantu - kubonakala sengathi kuyinto encane, kodwa konke lokhu kunganqotshwa abesifazane kuze kube phakade ukukhangwa ngokobulili kumlingani onjalo empilweni.

Ziyini izimbangela ze-muzhnennoeoprjatnosti? Abaningi kakhulu bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kubuya ebuntwaneni - kusuka kumama nogogo. Okufundisa umuntu ukuthi njalo benza konke ngaye: baxubha, baqoqe amathoyizi, bahlanze amasokisi, bhantshi, bese bewafaka ngobumnene ebhokisini labadwebi. Indoda, ejwayele ukunakekelwa okunjalo nokunakekelwa okunjalo, iya kuba umuntu omdala nesipiliyoni esiyitholile kanye nokuqiniseka ukuthi uzogcinwa. Owesifazane uthola umphumela walezi zenzo Mami ugogo - ingane enkulu, okudingeka uhlanze kuyo yonke into, uhlanzeke, ugeze, uhlume ngokucophelela njengento encane. Kodwa akulona nje lokho.

Indoda ayikwazi ukulalela izintambo ezinjengezibhamu, amasokisi amancane nokuningi. Kungenxa yokuthi ezinye izingqondo zivela ekhanda lakhe, isibonelo, mayelana nomsebenzi, on-project, uhlobo oluthile lokutholakala, mayelana nenqubomgomo efanayo noma into ethile ngento ethile. Ngakho-ke, abasenayo isikhathi sokuphazamiseka yizicucu ezinjalo. Abesifazane kufanele bacabangele lokhu.

Ukungabi nenombolo 5. Ukuncipha emibhalweni engokomzwelo

I-psyche yesifazane iguquguquka kakhulu futhi ingashintshwa kunoma yisiphi isimo. Emadodeni, ngokuphambene nalokho, izwe langaphakathi lide kakhulu futhi izinqumo zabo ezinzima akusho neze ukuqina komlingiswa. Ngezinye izikhathi imizwa yabantu ilala ngokujulile futhi inokuhlangenwe nakho okukhulu kakhulu. Lokhu kungabonakali kusukela ngaphandle, isibonelo, lapho umuntu ehamba konke noma efihla ngemuva kokuhlukumeza, ukusabela okunganele.

Ukungabi nenombolo 6. Ukungaboni

Isidingo sokuxhumana phakathi kwamadoda singaphansi kwalabo besifazane. Ngenxa yalokhu, ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi othandekayo akafuni ukukhuluma nabo. Kodwa lokhu akunjalo. Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo, amadoda asebesifazane alalela ngokucophelela imizuzwana engu-10-15 kuphela. Abathandi imininingwane, umphumela wengxoxo kubalulekile kuwo, hhayi inqubo. Indoda ijwayele ukucabanga nokunikeza impendulo ekulungele, kunokuqonda konke, ukuxoxa nokuxoxa ngakho.

Ukungabi nenombolo 7. Ukuzidla

Ukuntuleka kwabesilisa kuyakwazi ukubhubhisa ngisho nobuhlobo obunothando kakhulu. Amadoda acabanga ukuthi ukukhulumisana okuhle kwe-ilaskovoe kuyisibonakaliso sobuthakathaka babo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, abesifazane abanohloniphekile nabanakekayo emehlweni omama bayakwazi ukumvikela nokumlwela, bamjabulise. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi unamandla, ngoba abathandi. Ngamadoda anjalo udinga ukukhulumisana ngomusa, futhi ungaphenduli ngendlela ekhwabanisa futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva uzoqonda ukuthi ukukhwabanisa kumvimbela ukuba angajabuli.

Ukungabi nenombolo 8. Ukuzicabangela nobugovu

I-Egoism - i-conscious and emerging from the negative aspects of nature phenomenon. Umuntu-egoist uyazi ukuthi yini oyidingayo, uyazi izintshisekelo zabanye kanye nezikhundla. Noma kunjalo, uyabanaki. Kungcono ukungabi nalutho olufanayo nalabo bantu.

I-egocentric uzibheka njengombono ophakeme kakhulu kubo bonke. Ngamanye amazwi, kukhona umbono wakhe nombono wakhe, okwesithathu akunikezwa. Umuntu onjalo angase abe ngumashiqela, u-whiner, umhawu, ngisho nomuntu ongaqondakali, ngaphandle uma efunda ukubheka umhlaba kusuka ezinhlangothini ezihlukene. Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kwenzeka ngokuyiminyaka engu-12, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuhambisana nendoda yonke impilo yakhe.

Kungenzeka ukusho ngokungapheli ukuthi asinelisekile ngamadoda, mayelana nokungaphumeleli. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi owesifazane akufanele abheke amaphutha kulabo abathandekayo futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi ithuba lokumshaya nge-nasos kubo. A uthathe umuntu ukuthi ungubani noma uzame ukwenza ngcono.