Kodwa amaphutha amakhulu, angabhubhisa yonke inqubo yemfundo, kufanele agwenywe ngazo zonke izindlela. Lapha sizocabangela amacala lapho abazali benza amaphutha anjalo angenakuthethelelwa, futhi bazame ukuthola ukuthi bangabamukeli kanjani.
Mhlawumbe, amaphutha amakhulu kakhulu abazali ekukhulisweni kwezingane zihlanganisa ukungakwazi ukuhlala nengane ebuhlotsheni obuhle. Ngaki kaningi sisebenza ngezindlela zokwelapha kuphela, sidinga ukungeniswa okungekho emthethweni, ukucasuka, ukukhamuluka, ukucasuka. Silwela ukwenza izingane zilalele futhi zilalele, sifuna ukuzibona zikhululekile, futhi azifuni ukuhlakulela ngobuciko futhi zifaka isandla ekwakhiweni kokudala kwezingane zabo. Kodwa ingane iningi idinga ukufudumala nokuqonda kithi, hhayi ukunamathela!
Amaphutha amaningi abazali ayenzeka ngoba umama noma ubaba akafuni ukucabanga nge-physiology noma kwengqondo yengane. Yeka ukuthi kulula kangakanani ukubhala phansi yonke i-vagaries! Futhi ukuze uqonde ngokujulile izimbangela zokuziphatha okunganele, kuzothatha umzamo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuqeda ingxabano kuzodinga ukukhombisa i-fantasy engaphezulu ne-neduzhennuyu. Ngakho-ke, esimweni sokuziphatha okungenangqondo kwengane emgwaqweni kunokuba ithoni yombhalo okhuni nokucasula (ukuphendula okujwayelekile komuntu omdala, ngoba ingane yenza umsindo endaweni yomphakathi!), Ungaphazamisa ingane ngokubhala inganekwane. Ukumtshela indaba ethakazelisayo endlebeni yakhe, kungcono ukukhuluma ngokuzolile, okungazwakali futhi ngisho nangenhliziyo ejabulisayo. Umsebenzi wakho awukuthi ungene ekujuleni kwenhliziyo. Ngokucasuka kwakhe (okuvame ukubangelwa ukukhathala kwangempela, ukhathazeka ngokweqile), kungcono ukuphendula ngokuvimbela nokuzola. Khona-ke imizamo yakho iyovuzwa, futhi impikiswano izokhathala. Uma kungenjalo, isimo sengqondo sabo bonke sizoba sehla, futhi ubudlelwane obuhle emndenini buzoqhekeka.
Ngokubonisa ukukhuthazela esimweni esinjalo, wena, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ubonisa ingane ukuthi iyindlela evamile yokuziphatha kunoma yisiphi isimo sokuphikisana. Futhi ungikholelwe, uma ukuphendula kwakho njalo njalo, ukuzola nokuzithiba kuzoba yizici zobuntu bakho esikhathini esizayo. Phela, kulula kakhulu ukufundisa izingane ngokuziphatha okuphindaphindiwe kokuziphatha ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Amandla wesibonelo asebenza njalo. Futhi nakuba izingane ziziphatha kabi ngemikhuba emibi, izibonelo ezinhle nazo ziyasebenza kakhulu. Kukhona imindeni emangalisayo lapho izingane zingafundile khona ngamazwi kanye nokwaziswa, kodwa izingane kusukela ebuntwaneni kakhulu zibona impilo yokusebenza ehloniphekile nokuthembeka kwabazali babo. Ngenxa yalokho, bayathatha kokubili amasampula okuziphatha okungahambisani nokungqubuzana, nomkhuba wokusebenza, futhi ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu, imiphumela esemqoka yokukhulisa izuzwa ngempumelelo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungacabangi emfundweni yabantwana uhlobo lobuhlobo phakathi kwabazali ngokwabo. Iphutha elivamile yisifiso sokubona ukulalela izwi lomzali womuntu lapho umfazi engamlaleli umyeni wakhe, futhi indoda ayilaleli umkakhe. Futhi isimo sokuqala singenakuqhathaniswa nokubaluleka kokukhuliswa kwezingane kunesibili. Uma imvume yomndeni ikhula ezindabeni eziyinhloko, uma zonke izingxabano zabo zakudala zizama ukuxazulula ngokuzakhayo, ingane ngokujwayelekile ifunda ukuziphatha okulungile emkhayeni wempilo enempilo.
Amaphutha wabazali, njengokuntuleka kokukhulisa ukuziphatha, abe nomthelela omubi ezinganeni. Izingane zizwa isidingo sokwakha imibono efanele ngalokho okuvumelekile, okungekho, kumele bazizwe imingcele yokuhle nokubi. Ezimweni zanamuhla, lokhu kusho ukuthi abazali kufanele bahlunge ukuthi yiziphi izimiso zokuziphatha ingane ezifunda ezivela ezincwadini, amabhayisikobho, amathoyizi kanye nemidlalo yekhompiyutha. Kungcono ukugwema noma yiziphi izinhlobo zobudlova esikrinini nasemidlalweni yezingane - ukuze ingane igcine isimo sengqondo esibi kulolu hlangothi lokuphila akazange azikhiqize ngokoqobo. Ngemuva kwalokho, kungakanani imikhawulo yokubona okuhle nokubi ezinganeni isuliwe, futhi baqala ukubona abalingiswa abanosizi nabangalungile njengeziqhawe ezinhle, kanti okuhle kubheka ababuthakathaka.
Phakathi kwamaphutha amakhulu ekukhulisweni kwezingane ukuvunywa. Phela, ngenxa yesimo sengqondo yengane noma yikuphi ukweqa ngokweqile kuyingozi - kokubili ukuqina okukhulu nokuziqhenya. Awukwazi ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okubi, ngisho nasesifiso sokungaboni izingxabano kubantu. Kungcono ukunikeza umqondo ocacile wemingcele yokuziphatha okwamukelekayo kubantwana kunokulungisa iziphambeko ezenziwe futhi zivuselele izindlela zokutholwa kwengane ezamukelekile kakade.
Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi izingane zivame ukuzwa abantu abadala ukuze babe namandla. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka ebuntwaneni (ukuqala cishe ngonyaka - owodwa nengxenye), nasesikhathini sokuqala, nasesikoleni seminyaka. Esigabeni ngasinye ingane isilungele futhi izimisele ukuthatha isethi ethile yemigomo yokuziphatha emphakathini - leyo engakwazi ukuyithobisa. Ukuphendula komuntu omdala "ukuhlolwa kohlamvu" okunjalo kufanele kuhlale kuncike ekunqandeni, ukucacisa izidingo zomntwana kanye nokubonakalisa isimo sengqondo esihle kulo (ngisho nangemuva kokuhlolwa okungalungile okuziphatha okuqondene nengane).