Amadoda ayifuni ukucabanga ukuthi kungani owesifazane eshintsha. Abazi ukuthi owesifazane akahambanga kanjalo, akayona isithembu njengendoda, futhi akaqoqi iqoqo labalingani. Owesifazane ohlubukayo uthola indlela yokuphuma kulokhu. Mhlawumbe ubanda ekhaya, angakhululekile eduze komuntu oyithandayo.
Kunezinhlobo eziningana, izizathu ezinhle kakhulu zokuhlubuka. Okokuqala, owesifazane uqala ukushintsha umyeni wakhe uma enganelise embhedeni. Okwesibili, lapho engazizwa efana nowesifazane. Okwesithathu, lapho efuna ukuphindiselela kumuntu wakhe ngenxa yokuhlubuka kwakhe. Uma owesifazane, eqinisweni, engakwazi ukuqagela ngokushesha ukuba khona kwenkosikazi "eduze komnyango", khona-ke umyeni angase angacabangi ukuthi "umusa" wakhe uyashintsha kuye. Abesifazane abakukhangisi, ngokungafani namadoda.
Ukwaneliseka kowesifazane osembhede kuholela emiphumeleni eyingozi, owesifazane uqala ukuthatha izinkambiso kwamanye amadoda. Futhi ekugcineni, angaba naye embhedeni, ngoba umyeni wakhe, ngokuvamile ubuka amabhayisikobho wesenzo ku-TV, noma enza umsebenzi wokushada umzuzwana imizuzwana emihlanu ngesonto. Kodwa lo wesifazane akayena unogwaja, futhi udinga ubulili obuphezulu, ngisho kanye ngesonto. Mayelana nalokhu, amadoda iminyaka engama-40 aqala ukukhohlwa ngenkani.
Futhi eceleni komfazi wakhe omuhle kakhulu uqala ukuhamba nabafana abancane abashaya umkakhe, bephelelwe ithemba. Bahlabelela indumiso yakhe, banike izimbali (umyeni wokugcina wabanikeza ngo-Mashi 8, bese kuthiwa ihlumela le-mimosa), bazinikele izinkondlo. Owesifazane kulo mzuzu uqala intsha yesibili, usevele ebuka ngendoda yakhe, eqeqesha ngamadolo ahlangene kanye nephunga le-anyanisi. Uphupha kusasa, lapho ebuyela emsebenzini, futhi abafana bakhe bayodukisa nxazonke, futhi okungenani umzuzwana uzokhohlwa ngezinto zakhe zasekhaya kanye nokukhathazeka.
Noma yikuphi owesifazane ofuna ukukhohlwa mayelana nokugeza, ukuhlanza, ukupheka, izifundo ezivela ezinganeni, ufuna ngempela ukuba owesifazane owamukelekile futhi othandekayo. Ekhaya, uvame ukukhohlwa injongo yakhe yasekuqaleni, uNkulunkulu ayidala ngayo. Owesifazane ingelosi yebuhle, ubumsulwa nokuzala. Oshade naye ungowesifazane ogcina indawo ukuze angahlali. Iphakamisa izingane futhi zilinde uthando, egcwele futhi ecacile. Kodwa ngeshwa indoda engavamile, eminyakeni eminingana emva komshado, iyakwazi ukwenza izinto ngenxa yomkakhe. Indoda engavamile ingakwazi ngisho nokwancoma okuyisisekelo kumkayo. Yena phezu kweminyaka akhathaleli ukuthi ubheka kanjani, ukuthi yini egqoke. Ufuna ukuba apheke, ugeze futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ungayeki ukubuka i-TV.
Owesifazane kunanoma iyiphi indala uhlala owesifazane. Uhlala ethanda izindlebe, ufuna ukuncoma, izingubo ezinhle, izindawo zokudlela nezimbali. Uma lokhu engakwazi ukufika ekhaya, kufanele usebenzise amanye amadoda, futhi ushintshe umfazi wakhe oyisiphukuphuku. Yikuphi okungekho okusola ukuthi ayikho into yokuhlukumezeka, akaboni ngisho nokuthi umkakhe ushintshile. Into encane kunazo zonke ukuthi lo mlingani angahlala futhi abuke izithombe ezithandayo futhi abone umnikazi wabesifazane abanjalo. Nakuba kunomfazi omuhle eceleni kwakhe, obani nje odinga ukunakekelwa okuphelele.
Olunye uhlobo olujwayelekile lokukhwabanisa luphindisela. Uma owesifazane ezwa ngokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe, uyamphonsa ngaphandle, ebeka yonke impahla yakhe emnyango. Noma uyamthethelela futhi uqhubeke ehlala, kodwa ngaphakathi kwakhe ulele uhlelo lokuziphindiselela. Abesifazane kaningi bavame ukugwema futhi abakhohlwa ukulahlwa icala. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi, lapho sebeqalile uhlelo, baqala ukufuna isisulu, lapho bazoshintsha khona oshade nabo.
Uma esitholile isisulu, lo wesifazane ushintsha umyeni wakhe ngokuphepha, kanengi kanye kanye, bese ephenduka impilo yakhe ngalesi sono. Ukuphinga ukuphindiselela akuletheli ukwaneliseka, kodwa kuphela ukuzwa okungcolile kokungcola nokungabi nalutho ngaphakathi.
Ngaphambi kokumangalela lo wesifazane ngenxa yokungalungi, cabanga ukuthi kungani enza lokho. Isimo esingavamile lapho owesifazane futhi isithembu njengendoda. Ngisho noma eguqula amadoda afana namagilavu, lokhu kuyilungelo lakhe, lokhu kungukuphila kwakhe. Futhi akekho umuntu, ngisho nabantu abaseduze, unelungelo lokuphazamisa ekupheleni kwakhe.