Futhi ukuze ukuphila okuvamile kungasivuthisi imizwa yethu, ake sizibuze umbuzo "Ngingamangala kanjani umyeni wami othandekayo?"
Uma owesifazane ethanda indoda, akakhohlwa ukuzibuza lo mbuzo: "Kudingeka kangakanani ukumangaza umuntu othandekayo ukuze amnake?" Hlonipha intukuthelo yowesifazane, uzizwe isidingo sokumangala indoda ethandekayo futhi esimweni ngasinye umuntu owesifazane othandweni ngeke ahlale engaphenduliwe.
Umatasa kakhulu, egijima ebhedeni, bese efika endlini yokugezela, lapha uphuza indebe yekhofi, ngokungafuneki ukufuna isangweji ukuze aqhubekele emsebenzini. Ungakhohlwa ukummangaza ngekusasa kwakho ekuseni nokudla kwasekuseni okuhle, ukuvuka kancane kancane. Indlela ayiboni ngayo ubuso obuthongo futhi ehlwitha izinwele. Makamangele ukubona umthandi wakhe othandekayo okhanyayo futhi ekulungele ukumnaka. Ungakhohlwa, amadoda athande amehlo.
Ukumangaza indoda yakho akufanele ukuthi "lapho kuyadingeka ukumangaze", futhi lapho kuyoba yinto efiselekayo. Khona-ke imizwa yakho nezenzo zakho kuyoba ngobuqotho futhi kubonise uthando, okungeke kuhlale kunganaki. Uthando yilapho usinika khona, kodwa awukho. Umuntu ohlakaniphile futhi ozwelayo uzoqonda lokhu, futhi uma kungenjalo, ungazami.
Wabuya ekhaya ekhathele futhi ekhululekile. Vumela isidlo sakusihlwa, ocabanga ngokucophelela, kuyoba yinto ongamangala ngayo indoda yakho ethandekayo. Akudingekile ukuba isidlo sibe sebizayo noma ngamakhandlela. Ungakhohlwa, amadoda ayazisa lapho edla kahle. Wammangaza ngento entsha futhi enhle kakhulu. Mhlawumbe ingilazi yewayini izomenza akhulume.
Yilapho lapho udinga ukumangaza indoda yakho ikhono lokulalela zonke izinkinga zakhe ezimbi, noma ngabe i-carburetor. Akekho othanda ukunganakwa. Yiba nesineke, ngoba lokho okumele ukwenze yilokho indoda yakho ethandekayo ihlala khona. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ufunde ukuzwa hhayi nje lokho akushoyo, kodwa futhi lokho akushoyo. Mhlawumbe ukuzwakala kwezwi lakhe kuzokutshela ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokwenza into enjengaleyo ukuzwakalisa isithakazelo sakhe kuwe.
Yiba yinkosikazi ekhono, okwazi ukwenza umzimba ukuze uqonde ukuthi yini oyifunayo futhi ungabuzi umbuzo: "Kumelwe umangaze kangaki indoda yakho ethandekayo?" Embhedeni, udinga ukummangaza njalo ngangokunokwenzeka. Uthando lweqiniso lukhulula. Zinike wena lo mzwelo.
Izenzo ezivulekile, ezingalindelekile, zingaba isizathu sokumangala umuntu. Ungenzi lutho nje ngoba udinga ukumangala. Indoda ifuna ukuhlala nabangani? Khombisa ukuthi uyamethemba, umangaze ngobukhulu bakho futhi ukhulule imali. (Kodwa hhayi isikhathi eside!)
Wamangaze indoda yakho ethandekayo ngokumenza izipho ezincane. Ungabuzi lutho ngokubuyisela, ngoba lokhu kuzobangela ukuhlukunyezwa nokukhathazeka. Kwangathi inhliziyo yakhe yothando ingakubusisa ngobuqotho njengokwakho.
Umangaze indoda yakho ethandekayo ngokuthi awugcini nje ukulungele ukulandela ezinyathelweni zakhe ngokuzithoba, kodwa ungaba umholi ekufezeni imisebenzi ethile, ekuxazululeni izinkinga, ezindabeni zezezimali nakumbhede.
Kufanele ngimangele kangaki othandekayo wami? Impendulo lapha ilula kakhulu - Yebo, njalo. Masihlale kuye imfihlakalo, okugxile ekuzileni kwemvelo yowesifazane. Vumela ubudlelwane bakho kube ukuqashelwa okungapheli futhi uvumele isifiso sokwazi ukuthi singalokothi siphume ezinhliziyweni zakho.