Ngakho, ngokwanele ukuba ube yindoda ekhohlakeleyo, ikhutshwe yizwe lonke. Shintsha ukucabanga kwakho, ingqondo, imizwa kanye nakho konke okuzungezile kuzoshintsha. Yiba umuntu owanelisayo, ezithakazelisayo kuwe kuqala. Ngenxa yalokhu, kumelwe uzithande, zibeke wena phakathi nendawo yokuphila kwakho. Yiba nokuzikhukhumeza, cabanga ngale mibuzo elandelayo: injongo yokuphila, amaphupho akho, ukuthi ungathanda ukuthini. Yiba nobuntu obuqinile. Khokha kahle ukuthuthukiswa kwangaphakathi kwakho. Kuzo zonke izenzo zakho, ezinkathazweni zansuku zonke, kufanele kube nenhloko esemqoka lapho konke okunye okubandakanya khona. Jabulela zonke izinsuku, thola okuhle futhi ujabule ezimweni ezivame kakhulu. Yibani eyingqayizivele. Ngempela, kunjalo. Ngamunye wethu uhlukile futhi uqobo. Ngakho ubonise kuwo wonke umhlaba!
Isinyathelo esibalulekile esifanayo sokuphila okuvuselelwe futhi kangcono kuyoba ukuzethemba. Khumbula ukuthi uma uzihlonipha ngokwengeziwe futhi uyazisa, ukuhlonipha ngokwengeziwe uzokwelapha umuntu. Uthando, luthintekayo, uzwela futhi lube nomusa. Kumelwe ubuyele kuwe.
Sondelana nabangani bakho, izihlobo nabantu abaseduze. Emva kwakho konke, bakuthatha ukuthi ungubani ngempela. Ungazivali, uxoxe kabanzi, uhlanganyele empilweni yazo, usize, ukhulume uhlanganise. Khumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu kuleli zwe udinga izihlobo nezihlobo ezizokukwamukela kunoma yisiphi isimo, ukwesekwa, usizo. Ungaqiniseka ukuthi kunoma yisiphi isimo, ungabakhuluma nabo, futhi bayokusiza, banikele iseluleko. Nika imizwelo emihle futhi ujabule uzobuya kuwe ngevolumu enkulu.
Kuphela ngemva kwakho, umndeni wakho nezihlobo, ungakunaka umuntu oseduze nawe. Uzoba yimfihlakalo kuye uma umkhumula ekuthandweni kothando nakuzo zonke ukukhulekela futhi wabeka okwesithathu emgqeni. Lokhu kuzokwenza lo muntu abe push ukuze azi kangcono, uzama ukuthatha isikhundla esiyinhloko empilweni yakho. Kungumzabalazo, isifiso sokukuthola ngokuphelele, kuzokwenza ubuhlobo bakho obakhethiweyo bakho bube bufiseleka futhi buyimfihlakalo. Mhlawumbe, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi yempilo yomndeni, indoda ingathatha izinga lesibini ngokulinganisa kwakho, kodwa hhayi ngaphambili. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma indoda ingeyona indawo yokuqala ngowesifazane, khona-ke ngeke neze abe nesithukuthezi, uyakwazi ngokwanele. Unenjongo ekuphileni, unomuntu okufanele anakekele, obani okufanele asebenzise ngempelasonto, ahlanganyele futhi aphumule. Gcwalisa isikhala sakho esingokomoya ngolwazi olusha, uthuthukise, ube nesithakazelo futhi awusoze waba yisithukuthezi ngisho nakumfundisi, uprofesa noma umuntu onomoya.
Funda ukusetha imigomo yokuphila kwakho ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye. Vumela lo muntu aqonde ukuthi uma kukhona okwenzekayo, ngeke uhlupheke futhi ukhathazeke ngokuphela kobudlelwane bakho, nokuthi uzobamba izintambo zakhe kulohlobo lwesifazane owake walahlekelwa. Mbonise ukuthi onjengawe ngeke ahlangane nanini. Yilokho kuphela owaziyo, ukwazi ukwenza lokho akuthandayo. Ukuthi uyamsekela, uyazi. Yiba ngowesifazane wangempela!