Kungabe owesifazane angathokoza ngaphandle kwezingane?

Umbuzo awukona ukuthi ngabe owesifazane ongenabantwana angathokoza, kodwa ukuthi kukhona abesifazane abangenabantwana nabanamahloni. Futhi kukhona eziningi zazo. Mayelana nokunyakaza kwe-chayldfri kusanda kukwaziwa. Inombolo yabo bobabili abaphikisi nabasekeli bokushiya ngamabomu ithuba lokuba abazali likhula. Kuyini lokhu - ukunyakaza kwe-Childfree? Lokhu kuzoxoxwa ngezansi.


Kunabanye abaphikisi bokuzithandela abangenayo ngokuzithandela ngokusho kwezibalo, ngoba owesifazane ongafuni ukuba nezingane ubonakala ngathi njengento yobugovu, angaphansi kwesifiso sokuhola impilo engenzi lutho. Ingabe lokhu kuyiqiniso? Kungani eminye imibhangqwana emibhangqwana ivikela ngokuzimisela isikhundla sabo sokungabantwana? Futhi kungani udinga ukuvikela abaphikisayo, hhayi nje ukuphila impilo yakho ukujabulisa ukuziphatha kwakho okungalungile?

Futhi uyazi ukuthi ngokwezincazelo zokungabantwana, abantu abaye babeletha izingane futhi bayazisola ngalokhu bangabizwa futhi? Ingabe bambalwa kakhulu phakathi kwethu? Maye, kuningi kakhulu. Ngakho kwakungcono ukuziqonda kusengaphambili futhi ungazami ukuthatha indima yabazali, uma ungakakulungeli ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, kunalokho ukukhipha ukucasula kwakho kwengane engekho esimweni esibi? Lona umbuzo obuhlungu, bambalwa abanamandla okuzivuma ukuthi bavele bashesha ngokuzalwa kwezindlalifa, ukuthi ngingathanda ukuphila "ngami", kodwa manje angikwazi.

Imithetho esemqoka yabathandi be-chailfree

  1. I-Rescheniene ibelethe izingane, yamukelekile, ayikho into ebi kakhulu kunesinqumo sokuzithandela sokuba nomntwana. Omunye uyayifuna, abanye abakwenzi. Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokukhetha.
  2. Abesifazane (nabesilisa) abangenazo izingane bangenza isinqumo mayelana nokuntuleka kwezingane, ngokusekelwe ezintweni eziningana. Amathuba nezinto ezibonakalayo zidlala indima ebalulekile, kodwa akuyona eyinhloko. Ngokwezinye, ukungabi nokubeletha kunokwethenjelwa kakhulu kunezinkukhu, ukungabi nezimali ezifanele zokudla okunempilo, amathoyizi, inhlangano yokuzilibazisa nokukhokha kwemfundo yengane yakho.
  3. Izinganefree (ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile ngazo) azikwazi neze ukuhlukumezeka kubantwana babanye abantu. Baxhumane ngokuzithandela nabantwana abancane, nabancane emindenini yabangane, kodwa abahlose ukukhiqiza ingane yabo. Ngempela, ukuthanda okuthile ngokuphelele akusho neze ukuthola le "nto".
  4. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngenxa yokukhathazeka kokuxhumana nabanye abantwana, abesifazane banquma ukungabi nabantwana babo. Isibonelo, othisha noma othisha.
  5. U-Childfree uphika icala lokuzikhukhumeza kwakhe, ngoba njalo banethuba lokunakekela umlingani wabo noma izilwane ezifuywayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka ukucabangela umqondo wokuthi "ubugovu" ngezindlela ezahlukene. Isibonelo, abantu abanabantwana basuke beyi-egoists yangempela - benza ngokuvumelana nezifiso zabo kanye nezifiso zabo. Kungani i-Childfree ingenalo ilungelo?
  6. Isifiso sokubeletha ingane akuyona neze "ukungasebenzi kahle ohlelweni lwezakhi zofuzo", uphawu lokuthi "ukuguga" kwesintu noma isibonakaliso sokungahloniphi kwesifazane. Lokhu ubuwula. Abantu baphila ngokuvumelana nezidingo nezinkolelo zabo zangaphakathi.
  7. Abanye besifazane chajldfri bashisa impilo, ubuhle nokukhangisa ngokocansi, okubangelwa ukukhulelwa nokubeletha. Izinkinga ngomgogodla, zishintshiwe zibe yi-unrecognizability formazhodi futhi zibonakala zingaphezu komzimba - lokhu akusikho okungafisa ukuya ekuphileni.
  8. Ezinye zezingane ezingenabantwana azicabangi nje izwe elizungezile kangaka elingenakulinganiswa, ukunikeza ukuphila kule "ntshisekelo" kumuntu oyedwa. Akekho ongaqinisekisa ukuthi ingane izophila impilo egcwele futhi ejabulisayo ngemuva kwalokho. Futhi uma izwe linonya, isimo sezomnotho singazinzile, sizungeze ukungaqiniseki nokungahlangani - kuyoba nzima nakakhulu ukuba ingane ejabule.
  9. I-Childfrigomogut ihlakulele futhi lesi sikhundla: umhlaba wethu uphelele kakhulu, kungani usengabantu? Futhi ngakho-ke imvelo isivele ishaqile emasontweni. Lokhu kungukuthi, akusekho ubugovu, kepha, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukukhathazeka komhlaba wonke umhlaba njengabantu bonke.
  10. Ukuphila kuhle, kuhlanganiswe futhi kuthakazelisa. Ukuba nomntwana kungomunye wembala kule palette, kodwa hhayi isisekelo sokuphila - ngakho balale i-chillyfri. Isikhathi ngakho-ke kuncane ngokwanele ukuthutha, ukuhamba, umyeni kanye nezithakazelo zomuntu siqu, kanti ingane kuphela ngezikhathi ezizokwenza kube nzima isimo.
  11. Izinganefricheschitayut ukuthi amalungelo abo ahlale ephulwa yizintshisekelo ezidlulele zabangaphandle "inkinga" yokungabi nabantwana. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokucindezelwa kukahulumeni kubonakala. Futhi uma ngandlela-thile ungavumelana nezihlobo, awukwazi ukubeka umlomo wakho nxazonke, ukukhuluma. Nalapha futhi kuyadingeka ukulalela isihlamba ngasinye: "Udonsa ngani nabantwana?", "Uzobe nini usindlalifa?". Lokhu kuphazamiseka kumfihlo, futhi abaphikisi bale ndlela bangaqondwa ngokugcwele. Wonke umuntu uyazikhethela ukuthi kufanele aphile kanjani.
  12. Yiqiniso, eziningi zalezi zimpikiswano, uma zifisa, ungathola izikhalazo eziningi. Kodwa-ke, bekungeke kube ngukungalungi ukugqamisa isimo salinye icala - abantu abafuna noma abafuna ukuba nabantwana. Kuningi emphakathini wethu. Futhi nansi izingxabano zabo.

Izimangalo eziyinhloko eziya ku-chayldfri

  1. Bahlambalaza abantwana, bakha imiphakathi, amaqembu nezinhlangano. Ungamemeza emhlabeni wonke ngokungafuni kwakho ukuba nezingane. Awufuni-angenzi, kodwa asikho isidingo sokwakha lokhu kumazwibela aphelele, aving.
  2. Bavame ukungazwakali ngokuziphatha kabi ngabantwana babanye abantu - ezindaweni zomphakathi, ezokuthutha, endaweni ye-cafe. Izingane ngokwazo zivele zicasula ezinye chayldfri.Eto ayamukeleki, imizwa yabo kudingeka bakwazi ukuvimbela.
  3. I-Childfrryavlyayut nechutkost ngisho ngokuphathelene nodadewabo, abafowabo nabangane ekukhulunywe ngabo ngezingane zabo kuqala. Abakwazi ukubona izingane njengengxenye yokuphila (noma kungezona eyabo). Benqaba ngisho nokuhlala nje nomntanakho, bona izithombe zabo, okucasula abazali babo abanothando.
  4. Iningi le-chayldfri elinamandla kakhulu ngale ndlela libonisa ngokucacile izimpikiswano zengqondo eside. Isibonelo, isimo esisindayo sasekhaya esisebuntwaneni, ukungabi naluthando ngokuphelele noma okunye okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu. Laba bantu abakwazi ukuthanda abanye noma ngokwabo.
  5. Ngenxa yabalandeli, inani lokukhipha izisu landa. Uma umbhangqwana oshadile ungafuni ukuba nezingane, futhi ukuvimbela ukwelashwa kwehluleka, lo wesifazane uya ekukhipha isisu. Kukhona nokungafani phakathi kwezikhundla ezingenabantwana nezinqubomgomo ezithile nezimiso ezithile zenkolo.
  6. Isithombe se-Childrefrisuyut somama osemusha njengowesifazane osikhuni, ohloswe, oyisiphukuphuku, obambe i-Vuma kuphela umsizi kanye ne-diaper. I-Childfri isebenzisa "izindaba ezimbi" mayelana nempilo, ukukhangisa nokuphila kocansi okulandelayo kwalowo wesifazane obeletha owesifazane.
  7. Izinganefriyslishkom ziphikisa kakhulu ukuphumelela kokubeletha kanye nomsebenzi (ukulinganisa njengento yonke empumelelweni yokuphila). Ngokusobala ukuzalwa kwengane kuheha ngokulahlekelwa ukulahlekelwa kwamakhono, ulwazi kanye namathemba okuthola umsebenzi omuhle emva kweholide elandelayo.

Yiqiniso, zonke lezi zici zombono zinelungelo eliphelele lokuba khona. Njengoba manje ufunde kabanzi ngemilingo kanye nabaphikisi babo, ungaqonda omunye wabo. Into eyinhloko ukungabeki, ungabambeli amalebula futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi wonke umuntu ukhululekile ukuba aphile ekuphileni kwakhe njengoba efuna. Futhi njengoba kuvela.