Amadoda athambekele ekuboniseni ubukhulu bawo kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila - kuhlanganise nasensimini yezocansi. Ukuhlukumezeka nokuqina kunzima kakhulu ebuhlotsheni obuseduze bemibhangqwana eminingi, kodwa owesilisa ulawula ngokuhlukumezeka. Ungu-initiator wezinhlelo ezimbi zobulili. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kungani amadoda afana nobulili obunzima - lokhu kuzoxoxwa ngezansi.
Ezweni lezilwane
Eqinisweni, kunezinto eziningi ezifanayo phakathi kwabantu nezilwane. Bonke abesilisa emhlabeni wesilwane (njengamadoda emhlabeni jikelele) bazama ukuqina, ukuhlakanipha nokukhangisa kakhulu kwabesifazane (nabesifazane) futhi, ngakho-ke, ukuba baqine ngaphezu kwabanye. Imvelo eqinisayo kuphela enika ithuba lokuthola isimo sengqondo sobuthakathaka obuthakathaka futhi yandisa uhlobo lwayo. Lezi zinsuku azisabalulekile kakhulu emadodeni, kodwa ngokucophelela zizama ukubusa abaphikisana nabo. Ubulili obuqinile yisisusa.
Uma uthanda ukuzulazula kuzo zonke izindawo epaki, khona-ke mhlawumbe uqaphele ukuthi amajuba amaduna aziphatha kanjani ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Inyoni ekhangayo e-plain (owesilisa) ngokuzumayo iqala ngentshiseko ngokuzungezile owesifazane omncane, emsukele, ephuca intamo yakhe, ehlisa ikhanda layo emhlabathini futhi elula amaphiko ayo. Angakwazi futhi ukuthatha indawo ebonakalayo, ehlwitha intamo yakhe, nomsila wakhe ujikeleza njengomuntu, okwenza umsindo ozwakalayo. Ngokufanayo, umuntu uzama ukunqoba owesifazane. Umehluko kuphela ukuthi ijuba liyisimanga futhi alikwazi ukucabanga nganoma yini enye yangempela. Indoda, esesimweni esiphezulu sokuziphendukela kwemvelo, inganikeza indandatho ebizayo, izimbali noma indawo yokuhlala phakathi nendawo njengesiqiniseko sokuthembeka kwemizwa yakhe. Futhi abesifazane bakhetha "okufanelekile" kakhulu - okungukuthi, okuphikelela, okwanele, okuvikelekile futhi okuncane. Ngokungafani kwangaphandle, ukuziphatha komuntu nejuba kufana kakhulu. Futhi umphumela munye - indawo yowesifazane owanqobile.
Embusweni wezilwane, ukuhlukumeza ngokobulili kuvamile. Ukuphila ngokwabo kubenza ukuba benze lokhu. Isilwane sizofa, uma singafuni, asiyikujabulela ukuqhubeka komncintiswano. Amadoda ngezinga elingenakuqhathaniswa nefana nobulili obunzima ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo. Ngendlela, abesifazane abaningi bayamthanda. Ngemuva kwalokho, sinobuhlobo obuseduze nobuzwe besilwane ...
Ubulili obubi akuyona ukuhlanekezela!
Yiqiniso, akukwazi ukusho ukuthi amanye amadoda akhetha ubulili obubi ngoba nje ehleliwe emakhodini abo eziphilayo kanye nezakhi zofuzo. Lokhu akulona iqiniso ngempela. Ukuze uphendule umbuzo othi kungani indoda ithanda ucansi olubi, kufanele siqale siqonde ukuthi kungani indoda ithanda ubulili ngokujwayelekile.
Yiqiniso, endaweni ethile ekujuleni kwengqondo, sinomsebenzi: ukushiya ngemuva kokuzalwa. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lesi sidingo siya esikhathini esizayo esikude. Emvelweni, kunezinhlobo ezintathu kuphela zezidalwa eziphilayo ezikwazi ukulala ocansini ngenjabulo: izibungu, amahlengethwa nabantu. Isidingo socansi, siqala ukuzwa sisondelene nesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngakho-ke, abantu banesondo, ngoba bayayifuna. Futhi kuthiwani ngamadoda? Futhi amadoda enza lokhu futhi ngoba abonisa ukuthi bangamadoda. Yiqiniso, unganikeza ezinye izizathu, kodwa lezi ziyisisekelo.
Kuneziningi ezethula izinkolelo emphakathini ezivame ukusithinta. Indoda inamandla, owesifazane ubuthakathaka. Empeleni, lokhu kusho ukuthi le ndoda iyinhloko, futhi kufanele inqobe lona wesifazane, esebenzisa amandla negunya lakhe. Futhi ngokuqondile, ukuzingelwa kwabesifazane kuyindlela efanele yokuzizwa njengomuntu wesilisa onamandla. Ukuze kuqiniseke isikhundla salo wesilisa, ngemuva kokunqotshwa, kubalulekile ukusekela ubuholi bayo kanye "nomlingani" nowesifazane onqotshwe. Yile ndlela ukuphakama okuhlanzekile kuboniswa ngayo - kubantu abaningi kuhlanganiswa, uma kungenjalo ngokucindezelwa, okungenani nganoma yisiphi ukucindezelwa komlingani.
Ukuqala kobudlelwano kungatholakala ngokukhokha i-invoyisi endaweni yokudlela, etekisini, ukuthenga amathikithi e-movie noma indawo yokudlala. Khona-ke kufika isigaba sesibili - lapho kuphela umuntu ekhetha lapho umbono wakhe uhlala ulungile kakhulu. Kodwa okubaluleke kunazo zonke yisigaba sesithathu kuphela - isikhathi socansi olubi, okuvumela indoda ekugcineni iqinise indima yomholi oyedwa futhi ophelele ebuhlotsheni.
Ubulili obubi buyathandeka kakhulu, njengoba kuyisimo sobulili ngendlela ehlanzekile, kunokuba kube nemizwa exubene, ukuzwakalisa ukukhathazeka, ukububula kanye nezimfanelo ezingenalusizo ngendlela yokukhanyisa okukhethekile kanye nemigqa yokulala embhedeni wokugcina wase-Italy. Imizwelo inqoba phezu kwemizwa, isithandwa phezu kothando. Isifiso sokuba abalingani ngendlela ehlukumezayo ivela ngokuqondile ekhanda futhi siphakamise izinga le-testosterone, okungekho muntu ongakwenza noma yini. Indoda nje ifuna ukuphakama kwakhe phezu kowesifazane ukuba angenakugodla emzimbeni wezokuziphatha nokuziphatha.
Isisulu noma umzingeli?
Uma owesifazane eyazi i-psychology yamadoda, uzovumela umlingani wakhe ukuba ahambe ekuhlaseleni ukuze anqobe impi enkulu. Uzobonisa ukuthi akafuni ubulili obubi futhi uyodumaza, umcele ukuba abe mncane (empeleni, ukuze azenze), okuzoqhubeka nokuvuselela lo muntu. Ekuphileni kwansuku zonke uzungeza owesifazane onjalo ngothando nangokukhathalela, ebonisa ukuthi uyathandeka kuye. Kodwa ubulili buzohlala buhlukumeza - owesilisa nowesifazane abakwazi ukuchitha isikhathi ngobusuku obumnene, bekhetha ukuqhubekela phambili ohlangothini lwangempela lokuxhumana.
Akunakwenzeka ukuthola umuntu odekisayo ngokwemvelo (nakuba, kunjalo, kukhona labo abathanda unkulunkulukazi kowesifazane, futhi bacabanga ngisho nangokwenyuka). Ngalokhu konke, awukwazi ukusola amadoda ngenxa yokucabanga kwabo okungafanele. Indoda kumele ibe ngumzingeli, umvikeli, inhloko yomndeni. Ufuna ukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo wokuveza ukuphakama kwamandla kuyo yonke imithwalo yemfanelo, futhi uma owesifazane engavumeli izinto ezinjalo, uzama ukuthola amandla akhe kwenye indawo. Yiqiniso, ukungasho ukuthi umuntu uyinkaba yomhlaba futhi kumele azungezwe yizinto ezizijabulisa yena. Ngokuphambene nalokho, uma owesifazane engamsiza kulo mdlalo "onzima", khona-ke uzothola kuphela. Ngokusho kocwaningo oluningi nokuhlola, abesifazane abaningi bathanda ubulili obubi, futhi okwesithathu ngisho namaphupho okudlwengula. Ngomuntu othandekayo, lokhu kuba yinto ejwayelekile yomdlalo wezocansi.
Yimaphi abesifazane abaphupha ngobulili obunzima?
Kulula ukubona ukuthi abesifazane bayakwazi ukuthatha imidlalo emidlalweni yocansi.
Okokuqala, kunabesifazane abathanda amadoda bonke abakhetha kuwo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo banelisa zonke izifiso zabo, futhi yonke imininingwana bayakhonza kubo nge-saucer yegolide. Ubulili obubi - uhlobo lokukhokha lokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, laba besifazane bafuna ucansi olubi. Kuzo zonke izinto ezinqunyelwe zona.
Okwesibili, kunabesifazane abakhetha ukuhlukahluka kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila, kuhlanganise nobulili. Ngempela, azigcini nje kuphela ukuthi bazenzele iphutha elincane, kodwa bona ngokwabo bangaba nobuqili futhi bathembele nomlingani. Abayithandi i-monotony. Ubulili obuqinile buyabasindisa esimisweni sansuku zonke.
Okwesithathu, laba bangabesifazane abahlala ezimweni ezibazondeza eduze nendima yokuhlazeka. Abesifazane abanjalo bangabizwa ngokuthi i-moral masochists. Bawuthanda uma umuntu ewahlambalaza futhi ebaphatha kabi ebudlelwaneni obuseduze bokuphila.
Okwesine, lona wesifazane ongenakuqhathaniswa. Ukuze ujabulele, umuntu uphoqeleka ukuba ahambe ngendlela ehlukumezayo. Ngenye indlela, awukwazi ukuthatha owesifazane onjalo. Ngenxa yobunjalo bomlingiswa, abesifazane abasebenza njengabalingani, kodwa umngcele ophakathi kwesenzo esithintekayo nobudlova sothando sincane kakhulu.
Ekuphetheni, siyaqaphela ukuthi ekhulwini lama-21, ubulili obukhulu (kodwa hhayi ubudlova!) Ngeke kube yinto embi noma into engekho emthethweni. Uma indoda nowesifazane besithandana, ngakho konke abakwenzayo embhedeni ngokuvumelana ngokwemvelo kuyimvelo futhi kumnandi. Ngokuvamile abantu bathanda ukuba nobulili obunzima nabesifazane abathandayo. Ngakho kungani ulinganisela enjabulweni?