Uma umntwana ngisho nakanye ebhekana nokungahambi ngaso sonke isikhathi izinqubo zokwelapha ezijabulisayo, isibonelo, wagonywa, kanti ukwesaba kodokotela kungaholela ekuqondeni ngokugcwele. Ingane ikwesaba kakhulu ukucabanga ukuthi ngokuvakashelwa okulandelayo esibhedlela ubuhlungu buzophindwaphindwa. Indlela yokuziphatha kwabazali, yini okufanele uyenze?
Okokuqala, ngaphambi kokuya emtholampilo, kuzomele uzame ukuchaza ngqo ingane, kungani uhamba khona, bayokwenzenjani kuye. Ungazami ukuqamba amanga kumntwana, uthembisa ukuthi ngeke akwenze lutho kuye uma empeleni ingane kufanele ivuselele enye imithi yokugoma noma umjovo. Ungalokothi ukhohlise izingane, ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke bakholwe ngesikhathi esizayo. Futhi awukwazi ukuphoqa ingane yakho ngokunye ukuvakashela kudokotela, ngisho nokuhlolwa okuhleliwe.
Zama ukuchaza ukuthi yiziphi izinqubo, yenzani ngokwezikhathi zengane. Isibonelo, ingane eneminyaka elilodwa ayinalutho ukuchaza ukubaluleka kwemigomo - akakwazi ukuyiqonda. Kanye nengane eneminyaka engamashumi amane nanhlanu ubudala, akufanelekile ukukholelwa ukuthi umjovo awubuhlungu nhlobo. Kule minyaka yobudala, umntwana usuvele eqonda lokho okubuhlungu nokuthi yini engabangela ubuhlungu. Ingane isaba odokotela ngesizathu. Kodwa uma usebenza ngokuthembeka nangokufanele ngaphambi kokuvakashela udokotela, umntwana uzobe ehle kakhulu futhi epholile ukuze athathe konke ayekuthole emtholampilo.
Ungamhlukumezi ingane yakho nodokotela
Akungabazeki ukuthi akuvamile ukuthi abantu abadala bakwesabe izingane ngokwabo nodokotela, njengoBarmaley noma uBaba Yaga: "Uma uziphatha kabi, ngizobiza udokotela ngesipringi esikhulu futhi uzokunika umjovo!". Ngemuva kokusongela okunjalo, akumangalisi neze ukuthi le nkanyana izokwesaba ngokucophelela ukuthi "ababi" -abagulayo abahlukumeza izingane. Futhi konke ukuvakashela esibhedlela uyobe ulingana nokuphindiselela kwabazali ngokungalaleli.
Yethembisa ingane ukuthi umvuzo wokuziphatha okuhle nodokotela. Futhi akudingeki neze ukunikeza amathoyizi noma ukondla izinto ezihamba phambili - ungakwazi ukuhamba nomntwana ku-cinema, epaki noma kumidlalo yaseshashalazini.
Kwenzeka ukuthi ingane kadokotela ayesabi, kodwa izingubo zakhe ezimhlophe ezingavamile azizinzi. Ukuze ubhekane nalokhu kwesaba, ungamema umngane omuhle ingane ephethwe kahle, futhi umcele agqoke ingubo emhlophe. Nika ingane ingxoxo enokuthula naye emoyeni wasekhaya, udlale nxazonke, ujwayele ukuyisebenzisa kancane. Le nqubo isisiza ukuqeda ngokuphelele ukwesaba ijazi elimhlophe.
Dlala nezingane ezincane emidlalweni yokudlala indima
Vula isibhedlela sakho sasekhaya, lapho indima yeziguli kuyoba yiziyintshi, futhi wena nomntanakho kuzoba odokotela. Ngitshele ukuthi ngizokwenzenjani: njengoba udokotela ehlola intamo, uzizwa isisu sakhe, ugoqa ngamadolo ngesando. Vumela ingane ikuphinda konke. Ngenqubo yomdlalo, uzokhohlwa ukuthi uyamesaba odokotela. Khona-ke izindima zingashintshaniswa, futhi vumela udokotela omncane akuhlole, futhi wena-yena. Ungamphoqeleli ukuthi ingane ibe isiguli sakho, uma engayifuni. Kusho nje ukuthi akasakalungi okwamanje. Thatha ikhefu bese ubuyela emuva kule mdlalo ngemuva kwesikhathi.
Uma kwenzeka ingane inomuntu omdala, ungaya kudokotela ndawonye uma ingane ekhulile ihlolwe. Vumela omncinyane abuke ukuthi udokotela akenzanga lutho olwesabekayo, futhi ukwesaba kwakhe kuyoba kancane.
Uma kunomugqa omude phambi kwehhovisi likadokotela, zama ukwenza okuthile okuthakazelisayo nengane futhi umphazamise emicabangweni eyesabekayo. Akuwona umqondo omubi ukuthatha nencwadi oyintandokazi noma incwadi ethengwe ngokukhethekile kulolu cala. Kanye nomntwana, bheka izithombe, funda, ukhulume ngalokho okubonayo ngendlela yehlaya. Vumela ingane izwe ukuthi ayikho into embi noma engavamile kulokho okuphambi kwayo. Ukuthi akukho lutho olubi olungalungiswa. Ingane izothatha umqondo wakho omuhle futhi uzithule.
Ungaphumi uma uyingane. Izingane ziqonda konke ngokugcwele, futhi uma umama esho into eyodwa, kodwa emphefumulweni uhlushwa, izinkathazo futhi ucabanga ngendlela ehluke kakhulu, ingane izoqonda futhi iqale ukuzwa okwengeziwe.
Uma wenza kahle ingxoxo nengane, kholelwa ukuthi akukho lutho olwesabekayo oluyokwenzeka kuye, kanti odokotela abasoze baba yizinto eziyimfihlo. Jabulela ukuvakashelwa kudokotela nempilo enhle!