Yikuphi kithi ongenayo intombi eqala ukuthanda omusha, ekhohlwa ngabantu bonke abakuzungezile, egcwele ngokuphelele ubuhlobo obusha nesoka lakhe elilandelayo. Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, ukhumbula ngokungazelelwe inamba yakho yefoni, futhi usuku nosuku amahora akhonsa ikhanda lakho ngolwazi mayelana nokuthi wayengubani ngempela, ubugovu kanye nocabangela, ukuthi wayengayinaki futhi akazange asabele uma kudingeka lokhu. Wena, njengomngane othembekile ngempela, ulalele konke lokhu, ungamkhumbuzi ukuthi akakhumbuli kakhulu ngokuphila kwakho esikhathini esithile esidlule. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uyaqonda konke, amadoda afika, futhi ubungane besifazane nobumbano kubaluleke nakakhulu futhi buhlala njalo.
Uma ucabangela konke okushiwo ngenhla, uqala ukuzibuza ukuthi kungani lesi simo siphindwa hhayi kuphela nabangane bethu, kodwa futhi nathi. Futhi kungani singashintshi lutho ebuhlotsheni bethu, ngoba kunezizathu eziningi zezikhalo? Mhlawumbe isizathu sokuthi siyamthanda ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi sizisola ngakho. Pho kungani sizithanda kakhulu? Futhi ungasusa kanjani lo mkhuba omubi?
1. Lokhu kusivumela ukuba sizizwe njengentombazane encane futhi
Abaningi, ngokuba izingane, basebenzisa le ndlela. Ukuzikhukhumeza kancane, ngokubuyisela kwamukelwa ukwesekwa nokuthandwa. Njengoba sikhula, ngezinye izikhathi sifuna konke kube njengasekuqaleni, ukuze ukwazi ukwenza imfucuza, uguqe umama wakho othandekayo, ozozisola njalo futhi akwenze. Kodwa kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi imikhuba kanye nezifiso ezinjalo azikwazi ukubhekana nemiphumela emihle ebuhlotsheni. Uma kuqala umlingani wakho futhi uvuma ukubona kuwe intombazanyana encane okudingayo ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi idutshulwe, ekugcineni iyofuna ukuthi ukhule.
2. Lokhu kusinika ithuba lokuhlupheka, ngaphandle kokwenza noma yini
Ngeke sithi le ncazelo ibonisa umbono omuhle wezici zangaphandle. Wonke umuntu obhekene nezimo afuna ukuzizwa ebuthakathaka, azi ukuthi kukhona oseseduze ozosiza. Kodwa uma umuzwa wokuzihawukela uvamile, akukho lutho oluhle olukwazi ukuthwala. Imizwa enjalo ngeke ikusize ukuba ubhekane nesimo esiyinkimbinkimbi, nje siyicindezele. Kuzo zonke ezingenhla, kunesiphetho esisodwa kuphela sokuthi ukuzihawukela kunelungelo lokuba khona, uma kwenzeka, futhi kungashiyi imiphumela engadingekile ngemuva kwayo.
3. Lokhu kukuvumela ukuba uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo
Ngempela, kungakanani kulula ukubeka icala lonke ukukhanya okumhlophe ezinkingeni zakho, futhi ungaboni ukuhluleka kwakho nhlobo.
4. Lesi yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuthola ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kubangani
Wonke umuntu ukhetha indlela yakhe yokuthola ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kwabanye, umuntu uthanda ukuthola indumiso ngempumelelo yakhe, uthanda ukuzwela.
Ungakuqeda kanjani lokhu, hhayi umkhuba omuhle kakhulu?
1. Yibani umngane
Cishe kuwo wonke umagazini wesifazane ungathola isihloko esihlokweni esithi "zithanda wena", lapho kuningi, kodwa azikho izincomo ezicacile futhi ezicacile ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani. Uma uphendula lo mbuzo kubachwepheshe, bazokweluleka ukuthi uthole izizathu ezenza ube umuntu ozimele, emva kokuthola ukuthi, bayokululeka ukuba ubuke ngokucophelela isimo bese uqaphela ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani kuwe. Into esemqoka emzabalazweni wokufunda ngokwabo ukuthola amathuba okufihla ukunqoba zonke izinkinga, imiphumela emihle kakhulu izosiza ukuletha ubukhona bomuntu ongeke akushiye, futhi akusekele futhi akuqondise ngendlela efanele.
2. Isinyathelo esiyimpumelelo esiphuthumayo siwumphumela wokukhahlela okuhle embhedeni
Lapha into eyinhloko ukuthola ukuthola "ilungelo", futhi lokhu akuyona into elula. Kulesi simo, into esemqoka ukukwazi isilinganiso, ngoba ukucindezela ngokweqile, cishe, kuzokwenza ngcono isimo kanye nenqubo yokuzihawukela, kuyokhula ibe isimo "sokuhluleka okuphakade". Lapha ikhono eliyinhloko lomsizi ukukwenza isinyathelo esinqumayo, uhlanganise ngokucindezela ngesikhuthazo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma ungena enambithekeni, funda ukuthi ungenzani ngaphandle kosizo olungaphandle, bese uqala ukuxosha ezenzweni zokubhapathizwa.
3. Zithokozise ngomncanyana
Ezweni lethu ngandlela-thile akuyona into evamile ukufundisa izingane ukuthi zibe nezikhathi zokudumisa ezibhekiswe kuwe. Njengoba sikhula futhi sivuthiwe, kaningi asiqapheli izimpumelelo zethu, nakuba singabaluleki ngokukhethekile esikoleni samasonto. Kodwa-ke, uma ufunda ukuzihlukanisa ngisho nengxenyana encane yokunakekelwa usuku nosuku, impilo ngesikhathi esisodwa ibonakala kuwe kangcono futhi ngokujabulisayo.