Abantu bayothini?
Lona ngumbuzo wonke umuntu ozinikela kuye othembekile kakhulu embonweni womphakathi. Ukuthembela okunjalo akunakwenzeka ukusiza umuntu empilweni, ngoba khona-ke uzoyiphila ngokugcwele hhayi ngendlela angathanda ngayo. Ubani, ngokuyinhloko, obathonya izenzo nezenzo zalabo bantu?
Okokuqala, laba ngabazali. Izingane eziningi, esiteshini esithile sempilo yazo, zihlukaniswe nabazali bazo futhi zihamba "uhambo lokuphila" oluzimele, abanye baqhubeka behlala endlini yabazali kanye nengqondo yabazali. Mhlawumbe, abaningi banamavila nje ukuba baphile bodwa, futhi mhlawumbe, lokhu kuyizinto eziyinkimbinkimbi.
Okwesibili, abaningi bancike ekubonweni kweziphathimandla okuthiwa yiziphathimandla, okuyingxenye engaba ngabahlobo nabantu abangajwayelekile: abasebenzi, abaphathi, ubuholi bezwe (kubhekene nengcindezi yayo ngokusebenzisa abezindaba).
Ku-Kslov, ukuthembela kungase kuhluke - kusukela ekuthembekeni okuncane embonweni ovezwe othile mayelana nezembatho zakho kanye nokuxhomeka okuphezulu kwecebo lokuthatha izinqumo ezibalulekile. Ukuthembela ngokweqile kungazibonakalisa ezifweni ezihlukahlukene kakhulu nakwefomu: ukukhulekela okuyimpumputhe kuya kweziphathimandla nangaphambi kokudluliselwa kwesinyathelo sokwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile ezandleni zabanye (noma ukucabangela umbono walaba bantu lapho benza izinqumo ezibalulekile empilweni). Kuleso sibonelo, singabandakanya njengesibonelo: izimpumputhe ezilandela imfashini, isifiso sokugwema isimo sokungqubuzana kubantu, kubo bonke kubonakala sengathi "kuhle", isifiso sokunikeza abazali ilungelo lokunquma ukuthi yiyunivesithi nokuthi yiziphi izinto ezikhethekile zokubhalisa.
Izizathu zalokhu kuxhomekeke
Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokuthembela okunjalo embonweni womphakathi. I-Vosnovnom, zivela ezinkampanini zezingane nezintsha, ukwesaba, kanye nomkhuba wokuphila ngokulandela uhlelo lomuntu, ukungakwazi ukwenza ukuzimela nokuzikhethela. Okubangela ukuvela komzwelo wokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo, isimo esicindezelekile, ukungakwazi ukuphila komuntu, ukubamba iqhaza okuqhubekayo endleleni yokuphila, ukuhluleka ukujabula nokuhlala ungenalo ithemba. Abantu abahlala ngaphansi kwengcindezi yombono womphakathi bavame ukwesaba ngisho nokwenza isinyathelo esengeziwe, ukwesaba ukulahlwa noma ukubuka kwe-oblique okuvela ngaphandle.
Ngokuvamile, laba bangabantwana abazali babo ababafundisayo ukuthi, isibonelo, lokhu kuyinto engafanele kwabanye, futhi lokhu akunakwenziwa nabantu, kodwa awukwazi ukuziphatha emphakathini njalo njalo. Konke kunciphisa engqondweni yomntwana futhi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuphenduka izingxube ezinkulu kanye nokwesaba.
Ungasusa kanjani ukucindezelwa komphakathi ?
Ukuze ususe ukucindezelwa kombono womphakathi, okokuqala kudingekile ukuqaphela ukuthi abanye abantu, empeleni, abakhathaleli ukuthi ungubani nokuthi wenzani empilweni yakho. Ngakho-ke, akufanele wenze njengokungathi awufuni ukukwenza, ukwazi ngokulahlwa komphakathi. Mhlawumbe othile uzolahla ukubonakala kwakho, izenzo noma ukuziphatha, kodwa emva kwemizuzu emihlanu wonke umuntu uzokhohlwa ngakho. Yiqiniso, asikhulumi ngezenzo ezihamba ngaphesheya kwemingcele yokuziphatha noma mayelana nezenzo zobugebengu, kodwa ungazenza zonke izenzo zakho ngaphandle kokwesaba ukucindezelwa kombono womphakathi.
Kumele usebenze nawe ngokwakho nokwesaba kwakho noma uthinte isazi sezengqondo esizokusiza ngalokhu. Okokuqala, zivume ukuthi inkinga ikhona futhi uzilungiselele ukunqoba lokhu kuxhomeke ekubi. Okwesibili, cabanga ukuthi abantu abancike emibonweni yomphakathi bayesaba kakhulu ukungavunyelwa kwabanye. Ngakho-ke, yini eyokwesaba kakhulu kuwe ekungavumelani nalokhu: ukuziphatha okuqhubekayo okuqhubekayo, ukugxekwa, ukuxabana, ukwehlukana kobudlelwane, ukubukwa kwemibono kanye ukuhleka noma ukuhleka usulu? Ngemva kokuqonda futhi besho ngokukwesaba ukwesaba kwakho, ungawaqeda kancane kancane.