Kodwa njengabo bonke abanye: umndeni, ikhaya, umsebenzi, izingane, umyeni ....
Kodwa kungani umcabango ofanayo ukukuthole okokugcina ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle nomndeni wakho. Uqala ukucabanga ngakho, uqala ukubheka umyeni wakho, mhlawumbe akayena "lowo" ... Futhi ukhathazekile kakhulu ngawe, kucace njengosuku. Indoda ohlala nayo iminyaka eminingi kangaka, okhulisa nabantwana naye, njengoba nabo bathi, badla udoti kasawoti futhi lapho, njengoba ucabanga ukuthi wazi konke, ngokuzumayo ushintshe okuningi. Noma mhlawumbe hhayi ngokuzumayo, isikhathi eside nje awuzange umbheke ngokucophelela futhi ungaqondi ukuthi kungani umyeni wami eqhathanisa nabanye besifazane.
Lesi yisikhathi sokuqala sokuhlala ndawonye, ufuna ukujabulisa umyeni wakho, ukuxwayisa zonke izifiso, ukubamba, wonke amagama. Bese-ke-ke-ngikujwayele, ngikujwayele. Kwakukhona izingane ezifuna ukunakekelwa futhi nonke uthando lwakho nothando, konke kwagxila kubo. Kuthiwani ngomyeni, ke umyeni wakhe, okusele.
Futhi manje, ngokuzumayo wabona ukuthi umyeni wakho uhlala, njengokungathi, impilo yakhe ehlukile. Unayo impilo yakho, evamile futhi ejwayele owesifazane - ikhaya, umndeni, umsebenzi, izingane. Futhi unayo eyakhe, futhi indlu, umsebenzi, izingane, umndeni .... Yilokho nje kulo mndeni yindawo yakho, awukwazi ukuqonda.
Ube ukhathalele kakhulu umyeni wakho, ukuqaphela ukuthi yini nalokho akwenzayo, lokho akushoyo. Futhi ngibone futhi ngithole ukuthi uyimangalisa kakhulu futhi uyathakazelisa. Ngokuvamile ezingxoxweni zakhe umyeni wenza ukufaniswa nomngane wakho omdala futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, ukufaniswa akukho ngakini. Ubani, obani okufanele uqhathanise naye, kodwa hhayi neyintombi, okungukuthi, uma ungashintshi inkumbulo yomyeni wakhe futhi wayengawuthandi ngempela. Akazange amthande, uyazi ngokuqinisekile. Akayithandi lapho efika ukukuvakashela, futhi engathandi ukuvakashela indlu yakhe. Futhi ngokuzumayo udumo olunjalo esiqondisweni sakhe, khona-ke uyazi ukuthi angakwenza kanjani kangcono, khona-ke lokhu. Futhi uma intombi ingashadile futhi ingenayo izingane ezintathu, zonke lezi zindumiso zingabalwa ngezibonakaliso zokunakwa kumyeni wakho, futhi zingase zibe yisizathu somhawu.
Kwabe sekuqhubeka nakakhulu, umyeni wakhe waqala ukudumisa umakhelwane ovela emnyango ongomakhelwane. Yena, kuvela, wamhlangabeza ngengozi, lapho ehamba nendodana yakhe epaki. Wacela usizo, futhi umyeni wakhe wamsiza. Yena nendodakazi yakhe bammema yena nendodana yakhe endlini yakhe. Baba abangane. Lobaziyo kwakuyisizathu sokwethaba kwakho? Yebo, kufanele uvume, kukhona okukhathazayo ngakho.
Indoda ikutshela ukuthi ungubani umakhelwane omuhle kakhulu, ukuthi ungumlingani othakazelisayo, ngenkathi esho ukuthi nawe usevele ukhohliwe lapho ekhuluma isikhathi sokugcina, ngaphandle kwezingane kanye nemali esetshenzisiwe. Kubonakala kuwe ukuthi lokhu kungenye yezizathu eziyinhloko ukuthi kungani umyeni wami eqhathanisa nomunye owesifazane.
Oshade naye wayevame ukuhlangana nomakhelwane, ehamba epaki nendodana yakhe. Emva kwale mihlangano, wabuya ekhaya ujabule futhi waqala ukukutshela ngalesi wesifazane. Mayelana nokuthi uyamangalisa kangakanani, nokuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokhu nokuthi.
Naphezu kwakho konke lokhu, ukuziphatha kwakhe emndenini kwahlala okufanayo. Njalo ngesikhathi esivela emsebenzini, ngezimpelasonto nezingane kanye nawe, ekhaya konke okudingayo ukuze uthole isibhangqwana. Izimpawu azikhohlisa kuwe, cha, cha.
Kwaqala ngisho nokubonakala sengathi umyeni wezwa ngokucophelela. Ukuhlala nawe wedwa kunomusa kakhulu. Kodwa ukunakwa kwakhe nokuthandana, ngemva kokuqhathaniswa nomakhelwane wakho, kwaba yihlasi lamafutha emlilweni.
Ubekezelele zonke lezi zingoma zomculi zomculo zomculi isikhathi eside, kepha ngelinye ilanga wayengenakukumelela futhi wabonisa konke kumyeni wakhe. Konke mayelana nokuthi ucabangani ngalokhu. Kumelwe uthembeke okungenani phambi kwakho, awuzange uthi, futhi uhlanganise isisulu futhi wanikela kumyeni wakho, "... njengoba kumangalisa kangaka, ngakho phuma kuye. Kungani uhlala nami? "Akunjalo?
Yilokho ngempela ukuthi kwakungakanani. Futhi angifuni ukuma eceleni kwakho. Kwenzekeni emndenini wakho, nguwe kuphela futhi akekho omunye ozosola.
Yiqiniso, kulokho okwenzekile, kukhona iphutha lomyeni wakhe. Akufanele abe khona, ngaleyo ndlela akhangele lokho okushiwo ngumkakho ngale ndlela. Kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi ukhathele nje ngokuphila, ukudlala indima yesibili empilweni yakho. Wabuye wafuna ukunakwa kwakho nothando lwakho. Futhi wayengacabangi lutho kangcono ukuphinde anakekele, ukuthi angakwenza kanjani uzizwe unomhawu.
Futhi waphumelela, akunjalo? Nakuba mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi lokhu akukona umhawu nhlobo, kodwa nje umuzwa wokufutheka. Kufanele ube mnandi kakhulu - umama onomusa nonomusa, umama womkhaya omuhle, umdwebi nompheki, uqhathaniswa nomakhelwane. Mhlawumbe, kukhona okungaqhathaniswa na? Futhi awuzange uzame ukucabanga ngombuzo, kodwa mhlawumbe umyeni wakho uqinisile. Mhlawumbe, uyenzile, futhi iqiniso lilungile, kodwa hhayi njengoba nje umyeni wakho ayethanda.
Yiqiniso, kwakudingeka akhulume nawe. Ukuhlala nokukhumbula ukuthi bahlala kanjani eminyakeni yokuqala yomshado wakho. Ukusho ukuthi ubuhle kangakanani ngaleso sikhathi. Iqiniso lokuthi ubuhlungu kakhulu ukuthi ebuhlotsheni bakho manje kancani kakhulu kulolo busuku, ungasho uthando. Noma kunjalo, ukuthi ufuna ngempela ukubuyisela konke nokufudumala nothando. Kodwa akazange akwenze, kodwa wenza lokho akwenza.
Yebo, nawe! Kungani ungamtshelanga ukuthi akusijabulisi kakhulu ukulalela uma udumisa umuntu, ngenkathi usinciphisa isithunzi sakho. Kungani uthula? Phonsa ebusweni bomyeni wakhe, ngakho-ke wahlanza waya kwesinye, kuhle, kungenzeka, kepha akakwazanga ukukhuluma ngomuntu.
Noma mhlawumbe kwakungeyona umhawu? Mhlawumbe nje umthandi?
Khumbula, ngoba lapho umshade naye, ngoba uyamthanda. Wayethanda futhi wayefuna ukuhlala othandweni yonke impilo yakhe. Bukela emuva, ubuke impilo, uhlala ndawonye, khumbula ukuthi uhlala kanjani ndawonye, uze uvumele impilo, uthathe konke ubuhlobo bakho obuhle nothando lwakho. Futhi uma indlela eya kuwe isengumndeni wakho, uthando lwakho. Uma udinga ngempela umyeni wakho, mhlawumbe kufanele ucabangele imibono yakho empilweni. Ukuze uphinde ubheke umyeni wakho, umungeze nge-caress efanayo futhi unakekele. Futhi ukholwe okuhlangenwe nakho kwami, umyeni wakho ngeke aqale ukuphola emapaki nabesifazane abangashadile, ngeke badunyiswe esibhakabhakeni. Futhi uma uqhathaniswa nomunye umuntu, kuphela ekuthandeni kwakho.