Kungenzeka yini ukuthethelela ukuhlubuka?

Kwenzeke ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa ngokuyinhloko kuhlotshaniswa nokukhohliswa. Kodwa kungani ukuxhumana okusheshayo ngezinye izikhathi kubhubhisa ngisho nobuhlobo obuqine kakhulu? Kungani abantu, beshintsha, bengabathetheleli abanye? Kunemibuzo eminingi, kodwa akekho ongabanika izimpendulo.

Ukuhlambalaza, mhlawumbe, kuyinto enhle kunazo zonke futhi engathandekayo engaba khona ebuhlotsheni. Futhi uma umlingani eshintsha, ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka, intukuthelo nenzondo kuhlushwa umuntu. Kulesi simo kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyadingeka ukuba uzithule futhi ungapheli emizweni. Phela, intukuthelo, njengoba uyazi, akuyona iseluleko esihle kakhulu. Futhi ukuze ungaphuli izinkuni, udinga ukulinganisa konke nokuqonda. Futhi ungatholi yonke imininingwane yalokho okwenzekile. Kungani udinga ukwazi lokhu? Kungani uzilimaza? Phela, uzovuma, kulula kakhulu ukuthethelela iqiniso lokungathengi kunabo bonke imininingwane ezokuhlupha isikhathi eside. Akukho ukulungiswa kwezinguquko, njalo kuziphatha okubi nokuziphatha okubi. Kodwa namanje abantu abaningi bakhathazekile ngombuzo: uma konke lokhu kwenzeka, ungakwazi ukuthethelela ukuphinga?

Kule akhawunti, kunemibono eminingi. Abanye bathambekele eqinisweni lokuthi uma wenza kanye, kuzoqhubeka. Abanye banikeza ithuba. Kunoma yikuphi, kudingeka uqonde ngokucacile ukuthi ushintsho lubekwe icala ngaphezu komlingani oye washintsha. Yebo, kunjalo. Phela, abantu abaguquki nje ngakho kusho ukuthi abathandanga okuthile ezenzweni zomlingani, kukhona okwakungekho. Ngakho-ke, udinga ukuziqonda futhi ungathetheleli umlingani wakho, kodwa wena. Ngithethelele ngingazami ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo. Futhi uma umuntu eqaphela lokhu, uzoba nethuba lokulungisa konke futhi abuyisele injabulo elahlekile futhi aphelelwe imizwa.

Kunombono wokuthi ukukhohliswa kuqhutshwa yi-monotony, ukuthi ngokushesha noma kamuva wonke umuntu "uyahamba ngakwesokunxele." Lokhu akulungile ngempela. Ubani ovimbela ukuhlukanisa izimpilo zabo nokuvuselela ubudlelwane babo? Kulokhu udinga isifiso kanye nokucabanga okuncane. Zama ukuqhathanisa ukuphinga nokuxoshwa emsebenzini. Ingabe bayayichitha abasebenzi bokuqala, abasiza inhlangano ukuba ithuthukise ngezenzo zayo? Cha, kunjalo. Noma esinye isibonelo. Ingabe uzoya e-cinema lapho udlala i-movie efanayo nsuku zonke? Ngokuvamile, uzobheka izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene. Ngakho-ke, uma ubuhlobo bakho luyihlelo eliqinile elingenakuphulwa futhi okumelwe lilandelwe, khona-ke umlingani uzohamba ngokwemvelo ukufuna izinzwa ezintsha. Kodwa zingabuyekezwa ndawonye. Kukhona inombolo enkulu yezinketho zokuphonswa ngaphandle kwe-adrenaline. Kungaba ukugxuma ngeparachute, ukunyuka ezintabeni, nokuhamba ngesikebhe. Konke kuxhomeke kokuthandayo.

Futhi uma uthethelela ukukhashelwa komlingani kuphela ngamazwi, ngaphandle kokuziqonda ngokwakho, ubuhlobo obunjalo ngeke buhlale isikhathi eside. Ngokushesha kuzodingeka baphele noma kunjalo. Phela, kulokhu, umlingani ngeke akwazi ukukuhlambalaza nganoma yini, akhombise ukungaphumeleli kwakho, njengoba intukuthelo nenzondo izoqhubeka nokubilisa futhi uzophendula kunoma yikuphi ukusola kwakhe, ukukhipha imizwelo yakho. Futhi, lo mlingani uzokhunjuzwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesenzo sakhe, futhi unquma ukuthi kulula futhi kungcono ukuqala ubuhlobo obusha obungeke bukhathele, lapho ngeke kube khona izingxabano nokuhlola.

Amaphutha nokuphutha kufanele kufuneke kuwe. Futhi ngokuvamile, ukungathembeki kufana nesifo. Kungcono ukuvimbela. Ungalindeli ukuthi umlingani wakho adikibale ebuhlotsheni, enze ngokushesha. Phela, kunengqondo ukuthi uma kungekho sizathu, ngeke kube nokukhokha. Zama ukuqagela izifiso zomuntu othandekayo, uma ingasebenzi, ke ekugcineni, ufunde. Futhi wenze. Khona-ke impilo yakho nobuhlobo bakho kuzokuletha injabulo nenjabulo kuphela, futhi ngeke ube umbuzo, kufanele uthethelele ukukhaphela noma cha.