Abanye baze bacabangele lokhu ngokulandelana kwezinto, becabanga ukuthi "Ngingumuntu. Ngiyakwazi! "Kodwa akubona bonke abaqondi kahle kahle incazelo yegama elithi" umuntu ". Akukhona kuphela ukuletha imali emndenini wakho, kodwa futhi ukuyigcina, ukuyivikela kuyo yonke into embi. Isenzo esiyinhloko lapha "sigcinwe".
Futhi uma lokhu kwenzeka, ngabe ukuziphatha komuntu kwakuzoba nini lapho eshintsha? Ingabe uyomemezela noma athule? Lokhu besaba abesifazane abaningi, ngoba besaba ukulahlekelwa yilowo okhethiwe.
Amadoda avame ukuhamba "ngakwesobunxele" ukukhombisa ubuningi bawo futhi bathole ukubonakala okusha. Ngokuvamile bayeka ukuba "amadoda angempela" nabafazi babo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo kuhambisana, izimbali, ukuthandana, izidlo zothando zinyamalale, futhi zonke izinsuku zikhumbuza okudlule. Isizathu sokukhohlisa amanga ngokuvamile ukunganeliseki ngokuphila kwabo obuseduze. Ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi yomshado, imizwa iyancipha uma ingasetshenzisiwe amandla amasha. Futhi emva kwesimiso esinjalo indoda ngezinye izikhathi ayikwazi ukwenqaba isilingo sokuvakashela omunye wesifazane, ozovele amthole ngokumangalisayo, othandana naye nokuqonda. Kulo wesifazane angabona umlaleli omuhle nomngane omnene ongeke amkhumbuze isimiso somkhaya esibuhlungu. Ukuziphatha komuntu ojwayelekile, lapho eshintsha, kungachazwa ngamagama anjengokuthula okuphelele mayelana nokuzijabulisa kwakhe. Njengoba bonke beqonda ukuthi ukukhululeka ngokweqile kungasebenza njengokwesifiso ebuhlotsheni bakhe nowesifazane. Futhi unembeza, ukungabi necala kungavamile ukuwavakashela. Kubo, ukuhlubuka kuyinto evamile.
Inketho 1. Indoda izozama ukufihla iqiniso lokungathembeki ngamandla akhe onke, kodwa esimweni sokuthi akafuni ukuchitha ubuhlobo nomkakhe, umakoti noma intombi.
Inketho 2. Uma eguqukile, uzobuya ekhaya futhi anakekele umkakhe. Uma umfazi engayinaki, ngeke abone ushintsho ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Kodwa kukhona ushintsho. Indoda izama ukwenza okuhle, ukuze owesifazane angaqapheli ukuthi ushintshile. Phela, ngisho nokubukeka kungakunika. Uma ehlonipha owesifazane wakhe, ngeke akwazi ukumbuka emehlweni, njengaphambi kokuhlubuka. Nakuba enamahloni amancane, uyazi ukuthi wenzani.
Inketho 3. Kukhona amadoda abashintsha wona ngokwawo, kodwa asolwa nabesifazane bokuhlubuka, okwenzanga ukukwenza. Kodwa lena uhlobo oluthile lwamadoda, uhlobo lokuphendula okuvikelayo. Kungenzeka yini ukubiza lo muntu nobulili obuqinile? Cha, akunjalo. Kodwa akavumanga ngisho nokuthi angahlala endaweni yowesifazane okhohlisiwe.
Ngemuva kokuziphatha komuntu, lapho eshintsha, kuyacaca kowesifazane, lokhu kuvame ukulandelwa isehlukaniso. Kodwa isikhathi sidlula futhi uyaqaphela ukuthi ukukhashelwa kwakhe kwaholela ekubhujisweni kobudlelwane bomndeni. Futhi ngani? Indaba emfushane futhi nomuzwa wokuphakama? Maye, cha. Nakuba wayejabule izinsuku ezimbalwa noma izinyanga, kodwa maduzane futhi ufuna ukuya ekhaya, futhi lapho kakade akakwazi ukulinda ... Futhi lapha ukuziphatha komuntu kuguquka ngendlela enhle futhi kuzama ukubuyisana nomfazi wakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi uyaphumelela, kepha kaningi kunokuba abesifazane bengathetheleli ukukhamba.
Ngaphambi kokuhlulela abantu, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini eyabakhuthaza, okungukuthi, yayiyini isizathu sokukhashelwa kwakhe. Futhi kungaba nezizathu eziningi ezinjalo. Ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane abazikhathaleli ngempela futhi abazi ukuthi banenkinga noma izimo ezinzima. Futhi amadoda adinga ukwesekwa kwabesifazane njengomoya. Ngakho-ke, ukungahloniphi kumfazi kungaba isizathu sokukhawulwa komyeni wakhe.