Abafana banamandla kunamantombazane, abathintekayo ngamakhono abo obulili. Isimo somncintiswano kulesi siqondiso sibonakala singekho ndawo. Ngokweqile, cishe wonke umuntu ufuna ukudlula abancintisana naye emakhono okulala ngokocansi, ngalokhu intombazane idonseleka kuye kunabo bonke abalingani bakhe bangaphambili, ukumnelisa kangcono futhi ngokugcwele kunanoma ubani omunye. Ezinkimbinkimbi zamadoda zenza inzuzo enkulu, efana nezindleko zamafutha, izinkampani ezithile, eziphinde zifakaze ukubaluleka kwalolu daba ngendoda. Futhi lokhu akumangazi, ngoba ngokwemvelo babhekwa njengabalingani abakhuthele abaqondisa le nqubo ngakho-ke banomthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu kunalokho okungahambi kahle. Isikhathi sokuqala kubo yisilinganiso sobukhulu babo futhi sifana nokuhlolwa kokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, okuyilapho cishe konke okusemqoka kuxhomeke khona. Njalo intombazane kufanele iqonde lokhu, kungenjalo ngengozi ingaba yimbangela yokuhluleka kwalokhu "ukuhlolwa". Ukuphumelela kokusondelana kokuqala, njengomthetho, kukhuthaza impumelelo nganoma yimaphi amantombazane, okubaluleke kakhulu kumfana.
Isibonelo, amanye amadoda angaba khona, abakhathazeka ngokweqile ngokuthi bangakwazi ukwenza isenzo sokuqala ngempumelelo noma cha, bahlushwa injabulo nokungaqiniseki ukuthi bazokwazi ukufeza umgomo wabo. Ukusondela kwesenzo, kunamandla okuhlangenwe nakho. Ngokulandelayo, lokhu kuthinteka ngesenzakalo esisodwa esingathandeki, ngaso sonke isikhathi sivela ngokungalungile, ngesikhathi esibucayi kakhulu, okuyinto enzima kakhulu ukulwa nayo - isifo sokulindela ukukhathazeka ngokocansi (lapha-STOSN). Uthi ngesikhathi somzuzu obaluleke kunazo zonke, uma sekuyisikhathi sokuqala ukukopisha, ukulungiswa kuyanyamalala, okungagcinwa ngesikhathi sokuqala noma kubuyiselwe emuva kokuqedwa kwemizamo engaphumeleli yokuqala ucansi. Ngokwehluleka ngalunye, ukwephulwa kuzokwehliswa futhi kungafinyeleleka iphuzu lokuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwalowo mfana kuzoqala ukugwema ukuxhumana nabamantombazane abasondelene nabo, ukubethelwa nezinkimbinkimbi, izinkinga ezithintekayo, ukuthuthukisa ukungabi namandla kwengqondo. Okuyingozi kakhulu okwenzeka kule nkinga ekuqaleni kokusondelana, ngoba kulokhu kungaba nzima nakakhulu noma kungenakwenzeka ukuyiphulukisa ngaphandle kokungenelela kwezocansi noma izazi ze-psychotherapists.
Akuwona wonke amantombazane aqonde ukuthi kumfana kusho ukulala kobulili bokuqala, ukuthi kubonakala kanjani ukuthi kuthinta yonke imisebenzi yocansi elandelayo. Ngakho-ke, futhi ngokungahlakaniphi intombazane ingabangela i-STOS, ngisho nangomuntu ongeyena ojabule kakhulu, futhi lokhu kungase kube nkulumo eyodwa nje ngesithunzi sakhe somuntu noma ikhono lokumjabulisa. Uma ehlambalaza isihlamba ukuthi le ndoda ayinalo ukulungiswa okuhle, khona-ke ingayandisa kakhulu inkinga, emva kwalokho kuphela ochwepheshe onolwazi ozokwazi ukumsindisa ekuphuleni.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, intombazane kufanele ixhase umlingani wokuziphatha, uphawu noma yikuphi, ngisho nokuphumelela okungapheli kakhulu (isibonelo: "Ulungile, qhubeka!"), Futhi uma unesipiliyoni socansi - ukukhombisa umsebenzi othile, ngeke nje athole ukuzethemba, kodwa kuzoshintsha kakhulu, ngoba kusukela ngocansi lokuqala kuzodlulela, hhayi kuphela umkhakha wengqondo wengqondo yomuntu othembekile, kodwa nokuhlola kwamakhono akhe kunoma yiziphi ezinye izici zokuphila. Kwenzeka ukuthi abantu abathobekile, abangavikelekile abaqalile ngempumelelo impilo yabo yobulili, bathola ukuzethemba, amandla angokomoya, baphumule ekukhulumisaneni, babe ngabamabhizinisi abaphumelelayo, abaholi bamandla futhi, ngempela, abathandayo. Umphumela usezinkathini eziningi, yebo, akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ayiyona into ebalulekile. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi amantombazane emva kokuhlaziya aguqula umlingiswa wabo; lokhu nakho okufana namadoda.
Kuzo zonke ezingenhla, ungaqonda ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani amantombazane ukuthi aqonde ukuthi isenzo sokuqala sobulili sisho ukuthini kumfana, ngoba kuncike kakhulu kubo. Sonke senze okuthile okokuqala, ngakho-ke, amantombazane abanolwazi kufanele azwele abantu abangenalwazi, ngazo zonke izindlela ukuthi bazisize ngokocansi bokuqala.