Kunemibono eminingi echaza uhlobo lobungqingili besifazane. Isibonelo, uthando lwabesifazane kubantu besifazane bobulili babo luhlobene nethonya lamahomoni. Abanye abacwaningi basikisela ukuthi kukhona ubuhlobo obucacile phakathi kwezinto zomzimba nokuzibandakanya ngokobulili. Ochwepheshe be-psychoanalysis bakholelwa ukuthi imbangela yobungqingili besifazane ingaba yizinto ezihlangenwe nakho ebusheni (isibonelo, ukunamathela okukhulu kwendodakazi kumama), kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki okuzuzwe ekusebenzelaneni namadoda. Noma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi zonke lezi zici zisezinhliziyweni zobungqingili besifazane.
Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, abesifazane abaningi abasebasha baqala ukuzizwa bezocansi ngobulili babo. Kamuva, le mizwa ivame ukuphela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile owesifazane uyazikhukhumeza, njengombuso, ngenxa yombono womphakathi.
Umbono wokuthi emnyangweni wabalingani ababili, omunye wabo udlala indima "yomuntu" kanti omunye - "owesifazane" uyiphutha. Lolu hlu lwezindima aluvamile. Ukuvumelana ngokuhlobana phakathi kwama-lesbians kuchazwa ukuthi bangaba yilokho abayikho ngempela.
Imiphumela yamuva yocwaningo ibonisa ukuthi emazweni athuthukile, ubuhlobo obuseduze phakathi kwabesifazane buvame kakhulu kunalokho okucatshangwa ngaphambilini. Cishe wonke owesifazane wesihlanu oneminyaka engama-40 okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe wayenebudlelwane obuseduze bomuntu nobulili bakhe. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane abahlukanisile nabafelokazi bangena ebuhlotsheni bobulili obufanayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokusho kwemibiko ethile, ama-lesbians azwa ukwaneliseka ngokobulili kaningi kunabesifazane abanezimo zendabuko. Njengoba izibalo zibonisa, izenzo zocansi ziphela njalo nge-orgasm ngamaphesenti angama-68% wabesifazane bama-lesbians abahlala iminyaka emihlanu nomlingani ocansini ohlala njalo (emva kweminyaka emihlanu yokushada, ubulili nomfazi buphela nge-orgasm kuphela kwabesifazane abangama-40%). Ayikho ulwazi oluthembekile mayelana nabesifazane abangabesifazane abangabesifazane. Kukholelwa ukuthi ama-lesbians "eqiniso" ahlanganisa 1-3% kubo bonke abesifazane.
Kuyiphutha futhi ukucabanga ukuthi owesifazane onama-orientation okungavumelani kufanele afane nomuntu: ngokubukeka, imikhuba, njll. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abangqingili abaziphatha ngale ndlela. Abanye besifazane bangase baziphathe ngendlela yokuthi abantu abazungezile ngeke bakwazi ukuqagela ukuthi lo wesifazane ungqingili.
Emvelweni wesifazane, kunabesifazane abaningi abangena ebuhlotsheni obuseduze nomunye wesifazane. Kodwa-ke, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ubungqingili besifazane akuyona ingxenye ebalulekile yobuntombi.
Isikhathi esinzima kunazo zonke empilweni yowesifazane osemusha (kanye namadoda) afika ngesikhathi lapho ebona ubungqingili bakhe. Ngokuvamile phakathi nalesi sigaba, owesifazane osemusha uthola imizwa ephikisana kakhulu, udidekile futhi ucindezelekile. Kodwa-ke, namuhla kunemibuthano yabesilisa nabesifazane kanye namaqembu abesifazane, lapho ungahlala khona uthola abantu abathandayo futhi uxoxe nabo ngezinkinga ezivelele.
AmaLesbi angena ebuhlotsheni bobulili kuphela nabesifazane, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi bangabantu abafana ne-muzhenenavistnitsami. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ama-lesbians amaningi agcina ubuhlobo obuhle nabesilisa. Ngakho-ke, umbono wokuthi amantombazane abazondayo amadoda ayiphutha.