Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukubhekana nokungaqondi okuvamile.
Ngokuvamile sizakha izinkinga zethu ngokwethu, sigxila kuzo futhi siziphoqele ukukholelwa ukuthi ukuphila kwethu kobulili "amaslayidi". Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ukuthi thina emikhondweni yethu esondelene ayihambisani ningi noma ayihambisani nemibono esithintekayo emphakathini (isibonelo, asina ocansini kabili ngesonto, njengabantu abalingani abavamile, kodwa eyodwa) akusho ukuthi asifuni ukushaywa ukukhathazeka noma ukufaka isahlukaniso. Ngakho-ke, sizophikisa "izinkolelo" eziyingozi kakhulu ezivimbela ukuba singaphila.
"Asihambisani nocansi"
Lesi yisibonelo esikahle kunazo zonke sezinto ezikhona emhlabeni. Bangakwazi ukulungisa noma yini: izimo ezihlukile zocansi, kanye nama-orgasms angavamile (lokhu kuvame ukukhononda ngabesifazane abangazange bazame ukukhuluma namadoda abo mayelana ne-foreplay, ubulili bomlomo, i-clitoris, iphuzu G kanye nezindawo ezingaqondakali), nokuntuleka kokuthokozisa ngesikhathi esisodwa le nkolelo iyathandwa ikakhulukazi - phakathi kwabathandi bevelidi nezothando zamanoveli). Eqinisweni: uma ucabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho akahambisani nawe embhedeni, awunayo imizwa yothando. Uvele nje awukwazi ukuvuma lokhu bese uthatha inguqulo ye-okuthiwa "ukungalingani ngokocansi", njengokuthi utshani. "Uma ufisa, zonke izinkinga ezihlotshaniswa nalokhu noma ezihlukumezayo ngesikhathi socansi zingasombululwa," kusho u-sexologist uVladimir Prokhorov. Ngisho nezimo ezingavamile kakhulu zokungafani ngokomzimba (ukungalingani kwezitho zobulili zabalingani) akusibi kakhulu. Ungaba nobulili kwezinye izimo (lokhu kusiza nge-penis enkulu) noma usebenzise i-plastic. " Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Ukhohlwe ngamaqhinga okuthandana (njengokuthi "kuphela lawo mbhangqwana engakwazi ukufeza i-orgasm ngesikhathi esifanayo yilabesifazane"), bheka ukuyekethisa (labo abecabanga ukuthi ukungahambisani nemimoya njengengozi eyinhloko yokuphila kwabo, bangaphetha "ama-non-aggression" agwetshiwe "ezinsukwini ezithile" ), ukuzama futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuyijabulela. Enye into, uma "ukungavumelani embhedeni" kufihla umlingani ophelele we-aversion (awuthandi ukuthi uzwa kanjani, uyahamba). Ukuxazulula le nkinga, kuzodingeka uthole izimpande zawo. Iyini inkinga lapha - ukuthi awuyithandi le ndoda, inomsindo kakhulu kuye noma ngesimo sakho sengqondo ngokuya ocansini ngokujwayelekile? Kulesi simo, kungcono ukufuna indlela yokuphuma ngaphakathi kohlaka lwe-psychotherapy.
Inkinga yenombolo 2 "Sinezocansi ezincane"
Umqondo wendabuko uyinto enhle. Omunye umlingani kudingeka abe okungenani kathathu ngeviki okungenani, kanti omunye umbhangqwana unezikhathi ezimbili kuphela ngenyanga. Abanye ukunciphisa i-libido kuyaqondakala kakhulu emibhangqwaneni ehlala ndawonye iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-2. Nokho, lokhu akusona isizathu sokubheka i-razluchnitsu noma ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokuthi uyeke ukuthanda omunye nomunye. Eqinisweni: konke kulula kakhulu. Okokuqala, noma yikuphi ubudlelwane buqala, ngesikhathi sokuphila, kukhona izinguquko eziningana: ukufudumala komfutho kuthatha indawo nezinye izikhathi, okungukuthi, ngokulandelana, kulandelwa ukuqhuma komzwelo. Futhi okwesibili, konke okuqinisa umshado wakho phezu kweminyaka (inhlalakahle yemvelo, umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa, izithakazelo ezivamile, izingane, izilwane ezifuywayo), ngokuvamile kuvimbela ukuphila kocansi. Ngezocansi zobudlova, awunaso isikhathi noma amandla. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Khetha kusihlwa mahhala bese uyinikezela komunye nomunye: khumbula usuku lwakho lokuzalwa. Uma lesi silinganiso asizisi, kuzodingeka uhlaziye ngokujulile ubuhlobo bakho. Isizathu sokuthi "ukuthula ngokocansi" kuvame ukungqubuzana phakathi kwabashadile. Cabanga ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphambi kokuthi uhlile omunye nomunye? Mhlawumbe uye wazibuza ngokungazi ukuthi ubuhlobo bomlingani (inkulumo ethi "Kulungile, ungumuntu onjani, uma ungeke ukwazi ukwenza iholide", ukushaywa kunzima kakhulu yi-libido). Kulesi simo, kufanele ubuyisele ubuhlobo obuseduze ngamahlamvu. Izindlela ezingcono kakhulu zincoma. Amadoda athande nezindlebe. Ngomyeni wami, sibheka konke (isimo ezweni, isimo esisebenza, ukulungiswa okuzayo, impumelelo yezingane, impilo yabazali). Ngaphandle kocansi. Kwenzeke ukuthi lesi sihloko singenye yezinto eziningi emphakathini wethu. Eqinisweni: ukuthuthukisa ikhwalithi yezocansi kungenziwa ngokusebenzisa inkhulumomphendvulwano. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi ama-half-hints avela. Kodwa-ke, akubona bonke abantu abakulungele ukuhumusha ngokuqondile ukuthinta kwethu, ukukhala, ama-oohs nokububula. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? "Ukukhuluma ngocansi kuyindaba ephathelene nababili kuphela," kusho u-sexologist uVladimir Prokhorov. Ngomunye umuntu, indawo ekahle yokuxoxa ngezihloko ezinjalo kuyoba ikamelo, futhi kumuntu - i-cafe. Into eyinhloko ukukhetha uhlobo olungenabungozi yenkhulumomphendvulwano: ukuya kubantu abanjengoba "ucabanga nje ngokuthola i-orgasm" ngeke kuholele lutho oluhle. Kumele ufunde ukuthi "cha" ukuze umlingani wakho angakhubeki. Umsebenti wakho ukuqonda omunye nomunye kusuka kumagama angu-half, ukuthuthukisa uhlelo lwakho lwezimpawu. "
Sihluke kakhulu
Futhi njengoba ividiyo yephromoshini ibikiwe, futhi nokho sisebonke. Ngempela, ubulili besilisa nabesifazane buhluke kakhulu komunye nomunye. Ngakho-ke, uma amadoda ezwa ukuphakama kocansi ekuseni (kusukela ngo-6 kuya ku-9 ekuseni), amakhosi, abesifazane, bakhetha ukwenza uthando kusihlwa;
- uma amadoda emva kwe-orgasm adinga ukuphumula okuncane "ukugijimela empini," singajabula ngaphandle kokuphazamisa;
- uma amadoda ephupha ama-threesome, sivame ukucabanga ngocansi njengomfokazi, noma endaweni entsha noma yomphakathi;
- uma kumadoda ukuphumelela kwe-orgasm ngokuvamile kuwukuphela kokuphela, ngoba thina, abesifazane, ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba iphuzu lokugcina.
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Inkinga yenombolo 4 "Angithandi ukuhlolwa kwakhe embhedeni"
Noma ngokuphambene nalokho: UMUNYE akavumelani neziphakamiso zesibindi zomkakhe. Ngandlela-thile, ngokuphambene nombono womphakathi, ngokuvamile abaqalile ukuhlolwa emibhedeni akuzona amadoda, kodwa abesifazane. Eqinisweni: nguyena osizakala ngokushesha ngesimo esivamile, okuyinto, njengomthetho, owanelisa ngokuphelele abayeni bethu. Ukuhlambalaza kakhulu ukugwema ukuthobeka okungamanga komlingani wakho. Kubonakala kithi ukuthi ngemuva kwayo ukungakhathaleli, ukungathandi ukushintsha into, ngisho nobuzenzisi. Kodwa-ke, kwenzeka nokuthi thina, abesifazane, okufanele sishiye izipho ezicasulayo zomyeni (ngezinye izikhathi zisiphatha kabi). Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Sesha "igolide elisho". Ukuhlelwa okuhlukile, ubulili bomlomo kanye nokulingana, imidlalo yokudlala indima, uthando phambi kwekhamera - ungaxoxa nomlingani lezi ziphakamiso, zama okuthile, bese uhlehlisa okuthile uze "uvuthwe". Vala ubudlelwane phakathi kwabashadile ngalesi sizathu sikhona ukuze bakwazi ukuxoxa ngezinkinga bese benza isinqumo. Cabanga ukuthi kungani umlingani efuna ukuzama lokhu noma ukuthi emisha nokuthi yini eyokuyeka? Yini oyikwesabayo? Noma yini esabayo uma isimo sihlukile? Mhlawumbe, lezi zizindla zizokusiza ukunqoba inkinga eye yavuthwa.
Iseluleko esiwusizo
Lokhu konke isono: bobabili amadoda, futhi-njalo kaningi abesifazane. Okuqondakalayo. Empeleni: abangane nabangane kule ndaba akuzona abacebisi abahle kakhulu. Lapho kusebenza khona inkhulumomphendvulwano nomlingani noma uhambo ukuya kwengqondo yomndeni noma isazi sezocansi. Ngokuqondene nemizwelo emihle ngemuva kokuthandana, kungcono ukuwachitha emaphepheni noma ngokusethempelini emsebenzini. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Hlanganisa "okungeziwe okwesithathu" ebuhlotsheni bakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukuhlanganyela nentombi yakho "esondelene kakhulu", zama ukuthula. Cabanga ngomkakho. Ingabe kuhle ukuba abe hero yezindaba zakho? Ikakhulukazi ungahlanganyeli "nezinselele" zakho embhedeni. Intombazane ayinakwenzeka ukukusiza, futhi ngokukodwa uzokwenyanya umyeni wakho. Uma "ilineni lakho elingcolile" likhishwa yindoda yakho, kufanele ukhulume naye futhi uchaze indlela okungajabulisayo ngayo ukuziphatha kwakhe kuwe. Izinkomba zokuphawula: "Kuyamahloni ukubuka amehlo kubangane bakho," "Awudingi ukumema amakhoradi wakho nozakwabo embhedeni wethu."
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