Kodwa kuhle ukuxhumana nabesifazane abahlakaniphile abangabelana ngeziphetho zokuphila kanye nolwazi oluyigugu oluthola ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Njengoba bethi, kuwukuhlakanipha ukufunda emaphutheni abanye abantu, futhi ukuzama ukulandela lokhu kuhlakanipha kwabantu, ngizama ukufunda okuthile kumagama omngane wami, ngikumthole ukuziphatha njengeponji. Futhi ngiyajabula ngokuthi ngiyakwazi ukuhlanganyela lezi zifundo nawe, izivakashi ezithandekayo zendawo yethu ethandekayo nesifundisayo.
Muva nje sihlezi nomngani enhlobonini, saxoxisana naye esikhathini esedlule, izikhathi azidabukisayo futhi ezathonya impilo yakhe ekhadini. Ngisekela intombazane ehlanjululwe futhi eyedlule ngangokunokwenzeka, ngenkathi ecindezela ngothando oludlule. Uthando alukwedluli, kodwa luyasebenza. Okudingayo ukuze ungalokothi ulahlekelwe uthando lwakho uzofunda kulokhu kulesi sihloko esihlokweni esithi " Lo thando oludlule luyoba usizi oluzayo ."
Yiqiniso, uma ungahambisani nesikhathi yonke into ingaba ukudabuka esikhathini esizayo. Uthando ngokukhethekile. Akukho okubi kakhulu kunokuhlupheka kwengqondo nokudabuka. Ubani owazi ukuthi impilo yami intombazane yayizobe yenze kanjani uma isenze ngesikhathi. Futhi, kungenxa yezinkinga zenhliziyo. Akukho okusikhathaza thina, besifazane, njengezihlobo ezingathandeki zobudlelwano, okwakungeke kwenzeke ngenxa yamahloni noma amahloni. Njengokuhlakanipha okuthandwayo othandweni, njengempi, zonke izindlela zilungile. Futhi uthando ngokuyisisekelo luhlobo lwempi, impi yezocansi zokulingana, imizwa, nokuthanda, yebo.
Ebusheni bakhe wathola insizwa engazange ithathe ngokungathí sina, ngoba wayeseyithande enye indoda. Wayengumphathi wakhe, wayengumuntu ophansi. Kulungile, yikuphi umphathi ongaqapheli isisebenzi esihle futhi esihle kakhulu. Wabonisa izimpawu zokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa, kodwa kusukela ohlangothini lwakhe kwakunobungqingili kuphela. Mhlawumbe, konke bekuyobe kuhlukile, ngabe kwakungeyona yothando lwakhe oluphambene nomyeni wakhe wangaphambili. Ngaleso sikhathi ikusasa, futhi manje ungumyeni wangaphambili. Ngokwemvelo wayejabule ngendoda, kodwa wayengahlali ephikelela, wathi, futhi wayenamahloni kakhulu avimbela inhliziyo ukuba inganqobe intombazane enhle. Yena, naye, wayenamahloni, nokuthi wayefihle kanjani ngemuva kokubanda kwesithakazelo sakhe kumuntu omncane, omuhle futhi ocebile.
Abaningi bazama ukunciphisa iminyaka eminingi, kodwa akukho okwenzekile. Futhi, ngiyakhumbula ukuhlakanipha kwabantu "okungenakuphela." Futhi ngemva kweminyaka eminingi bahlangana. Unomfazi nengane, unomntwana kanye nesahlukaniso, kodwa nokho kukhona okufanayo phakathi kwabo - lawa imizwa engaziwa, amagama angaqondakali. Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuqaphela uthando? Iminyaka eminingi ngempela, noma lonke uthando olufanayo alufi iminyaka, kodwa lihlala lihlala enhliziyweni yomuntu ngamunye, elinde inhlansi eyophinde ivuke. Manje uzisola kakhulu ngamathuba alahlekile, futhi kakade, kubonakala sengathi akunakwenzeka ukuthi ngizokuthola ngokuphelele, hhayi nje inhliziyo yami. Phela, owesifazane akanalo inhliziyo eyodwa ngokwanele eminyakeni edlule, ufuna ukugcwala nokuzinza eceleni komuntu othandekayo wakhe. Amaphupho omshado. Uma bekungengenxa yentsha eyisiphukuphuku, ngabe ngingahlala kanjani ngililalele umngane wami. Intsha eyisiphukuphuku, uthando olulahlekile, izinhloso eziphukile, ngoba akajabuli nomkakhe, futhi uhlala ngenxa yendodakazi yakhe kuphela.
Ubuwula buyinkimbinkimbi encane, futhi intsha ivame ukuqukethe ama-nonsense amancane namakhulu amakhulu, azinikezwe ngabantu abadala ababonisa ubuwula babo ebusheni, futhi bayohlala bebancane baze bahlakaniphe futhi bayeke ukwenza izinto eziyiphutha. Nakuba ngokuvamile kuvunyelwe ukuthi uvumelekile ukwenza izinto eziyiziphukuphuku ebusheni bakho, kodwa cabanga ngalokho okungenzeka ukuthi babe khona nokuthi lezizinto eziyiziphukuphuku zingashintsha kanjani impilo yakho nokuthi yiliphi icala.
Yini engingafanele ngiphuthelwe uthando lwami? Yini engingayenza ukuze ngivimbele uthando oludlule ukuba ngibe nokudabuka esikhathini esizayo? Indlela yokufunda uthando nendlela yokuziphatha? Kunemibuzo eminingi, kodwa ngangiqonda into eyodwa kuphela, awudingi ukuhlala ungenzi lutho, futhi awudingi ukufihla ngemuva kwemaski yokunganaki. Noma yisiphi sesibili singakwazi ukuhlangabezana nothando lwethu futhi nganoma yisiphi isibili singalithola. Emva kwakho konke, konke kwakhiwe nxazonke zothando, impilo yethu yonke yakhiwa eduze komuntu othandekayo, futhi uma kungekho othandekayo esakhela kuso ukuphila kwethu? Ngakho-ke, kufanele siphuthelwe uthando lwethu, ikakhulukazi njengoba amadoda amaningi kulezi zinsuku engabi nesibindi, banamahloni futhi baqaphele, uma singenzi lutho, ngubani ozokwakha ikusasa lethu elijabulisayo kithi.
Amantombazane amaningi akholelwa ukuthi izimpawu zokunakwa intombazane zibukeka sengathi zikhona futhi zikhetha ukuhlala zingenzi lutho. Ngokuvamile kuvunywa kubantu ukuthi umfana kufanele afune intombazane, futhi hhayi ngokufanayo. Futhi kungani ungenzi okuphambene na? Kungani ungawutholi umuntu? Futhi akudingeki ucabangele futhi wesabe ukuthi izibonakaliso zethu zokunaka zizobonakala sengathi zikhona. Kudingeka sikhulume ngokuqondile futhi masinyane, futhi sibonise zonke izinzwa, ngaleyo ndlela sizothatha isigamu sethu sabantu besilisa, futhi kusukela kulokhu ngeke neze siqhubeke. Ngeke babe nesikhathi sokufika ezinyangeni zabo, kodwa bazobe sebese-altare esontweni ku-tuxedo omnyama. Ngisho namadoda ayenayo imizwelo yemvelo yomnqobi. Indoda isinqoba ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, noma, ngokunembile, iwina, ukwakha ubudlelwane, bese kuthi ngesikhathi sokuphila ndawonye sibazuze ukudla okunomsoco, umfanekiso omuhle, amagama ahlakaniphile namazwi okuqonda uma nje eseduze kuze kube yilapho sithukuthele. Uma senza njengomphathi wokuqala, mhlawumbe ngesikhathi sempilo ndawonye bazosinqoba?
Sesaba futhi sinyama, amadoda ayenesaba kakhulu futhi anamahloni. Sesaba ukuzwa igama elithi "cha" futhi sithole ukwenqaba, futhi kuvela kulokhu abantu abaningi abampofu nabanesizungu emhlabeni wethu baphupha njalo ebusuku ukuze bathole isigamu sabo. Ngeke uphile ngokwesaba, udinga ukulungele konke okushiwo isiphetho. Futhi isiphetho sisinikeza konke esizojabula ngakho, sidinga nje ukusibamba nokuyilawula, senze konke okuyojabula ngakho, ngoba konke kusezandleni zethu kungenye ukuhlakanipha.