Ezweni lanamuhla, kubonakala sengathi abantu bayeke ukwethembeka abathembekile futhi abathembekile, ukuthi konke kudayiswa futhi kuthengwa, ngakho awukwazi ukwethemba omunye. Kodwa uma uthanda, ungamethemba kanjani umuntu ofuna ukuchitha impilo yakho yonke? Phela, kulokhu, awukwazi ukukhuluma ngobuhlobo bangempela, ngoba isisekelo sezinto zonke selokhu sithemba. Abesifazane banamuhla banethusa kakhulu ukungathembeki kwabamele abesilisa abanesibindi esinamandla. Kunzima ukukholelwa ukuthi kukhona amadoda angempela, uma kukhona abesifazane abaningi abatholakalayo abangadingi lutho, kodwa banikeze abantu konke okufunayo.
Emphakathini sekuyisikhathi eside umbono wokuthi akukho muntu ongathembeka ngokuphelele. Bathi lo mbhangqwana awuboni ubungane bomzimba ukukhashelwa kwangempela, ngakho baya kuwo kalula. Futhi ngeshwa, kubalulekile ukuthi abantu abaningi banamathele kulo mbono, ngisho noma bengavumi. Kodwa nokho kukhona abantu abasha abathembekile. Kodwa kuncane kakhulu okwenzekile ezweni lethu.
Abesifazane ekungathembeki
Ekhuluma ngobuntu, mhlawumbe, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi amanye amadoda ayengalungile ngabesifazane. Kumuntu ongashintshi, ushintsho yisono esibi kakhulu. Amadoda anjalo abathetheleli ukungaziphathi kahle. Njengoba kubo owesifazane othandekayo ngempela yedwa, abakwazi ukucabanga ukuthi owesifazane wenhliziyo angakwazi ukulalela omunye umuntu. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi abantu abanjalo bavame ukuhlangana nabesifazane abavunguzayo. Futhi emva kokukhaphela okulandelayo, bafika esiphethweni sokuthi ukwethembeka kwabo kuyisali esidlule. Ngenxa yalokho, labafana bavale ngaphakathi kwabo futhi baphenduke phansi phansi kwabesifazane, noma baqala ukuziphathisa njengabesilisa besifazane. Eqinisweni, abafuni ukucasula umuntu, indlela yokuchitha ukuhlambalaza ngokwabo. Ukuhlambalaza kuhlale kuhlazisa isithunzi somuntu, futhi uma kwenzeka umfana engakwazi ukwenza into enjalo, isimo sengqondo esinjalo ngokuvamile siyamphuca. Ngakho-ke, uma ubheka amadoda aphephile, ungasheshi ukuwahlulela futhi uwasole ngokubhubhisa izenzakalo zabesifazane. Mhlawumbe, isiphetho sabo siphinde siphulwe ngenxa yabanye abamele ubulili obuhle.
Izimpawu zomuntu weqiniso
Uma umuntu ethembekile ngempela, ukwethembeka kwakhe kubonakala kukho konke. Okokuqala, umndeni (owesifazane othandekayo) usekuqaleni. Uzozama njalo ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nenkosikazi yenhliziyo yakhe. Ngendlela, lokhu akusho ukuthi umfana uzolahla kubangane. Kalula nje, ufuna ukuthanda njalo wayenaye. Futhi imizwa yakhe, uyohlale ephakeme kancane kunemizwa yabanye. Indoda ethembekile, okokuqala, ayikho ngempela ngokomqondo, kodwa ngomqondo wokuziphatha. Akazivumeli kalula ukuba abheke abanye besifazane, akathandi ngempela. Ngokuvamile amadoda anjalo ayithandeki kuwo wonke amantombazane, ngaphandle kwalokhu okuyingqayizivele. Ngokuvamile lolu hlobo lwamadoda luhlala luyisigcino, nakuba lufana nokuningi. Amadoda athembekile awakwazi ukushintshanisa imizwa yabo. Uma beqala ukuhlangana ngesikhathi esiqaphelayo, hhayi nje kuphela, kodwa empeleni ukwakha ubuhlobo. Yingakho lolu hlobo lwabafana abangenalo ubuhlobo nabesifazane abaningi, nakuba bekulungele cishe noma yini. Umfana othembekile uzocabangela ukuthi kungcono ngokushesha ukuthi azi ukuthi akabonanga umfazi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo kule ntombazane, kunokuba amlimaze kamuva. Ngendlela, kubalulekile ukuthi amadoda athembekile aqale ubuhlobo, abhekisele kubanikazi babo abanjengoba ngumfazi ongase abe khona. Abanayo into enjengokuthi "i-pomatrosil futhi ishiyiwe". Abantu abanjalo banganquma isikhathi eside ukuthatha izinyathelo ezinkulu (isibonelo, ucansi), kodwa uma kwenzeka lokhu, uqinisekile ukuthi intombazane yedwa futhi ufuna ukuba naye futhi kuphela naye.
Izimbangela Zeqiniso
Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi amadoda ashadile futhi angaba nesipiliyoni socansi athembekile, ngakho-ke abesaba ukuzishaya indiza endaweni ethile eceleni. Kodwa empeleni, kunengxenye encane yeqiniso kulokhu. Abathembekile bangase babe ngamadoda abanokuhlangenwe nakho kobulili okucebile, futhi kuyiqiniso, ngisho nasezinkingeni lapho banesikhathi esithile sokuthi babaleke ucansi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iziphi izicansi zithi, kodwa kukhona umbhangqwana ophethe ngempela ubuciko bobuhlobo kubaluleke kakhulu kunokwenyama. Baqonda ngempela ukuthi ukukopela kwabo kungenziwa ngumuntu ogulayo othandekayo futhi, ekugcineni, ulahlekelwe nje.
Okufanelekayo kumyeni othembekile
Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunjani umuntu othembekile, kusadingeka njalo ukuba uzame ukuba yilo wesifazane ongeke angacabange ngoshintsho ngoba ngisho nabanothando, abanobubele nabathembekile bangakwazi ukubekezela ngesineke, ukubiza, ama-scandals. Futhi konke okufanayo kuzophuka. Futhi lelo samoestrasnoe, ngeke liphule nje ngokomzimba, liphuka ngokuziphatha. Uma umfazi enganeliseki ngaso sonke isikhathi ngento ethile, elahlwa, ethukuthele, ekhononda, ekugcineni kukhona owesifazane ombona lo mkhwenyana omuhle othembekile futhi omnika umusa nomusa umkakhe angakwazi ukukwenza. Khona-ke indoda ethembekile yabakhohlwa ngobuqotho bakhe. Nakuba, mhlawumbe, akufanelekile ukukhuluma ngobuqotho lapha. Ezimweni ezinjalo, uthando luvele luphele. Futhi uma lo mzwelo uphela, khona-ke akukho muntu othembekile.
Yingakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indoda, owesifazane onenhlanhla enomcebo onjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indoda enomusa, omnene futhi othembekile, akufanele ithathe kalula, ngisho nangaphezulu, ukujabulela imizwa yakhe. Uma owesifazane ebona ukuthi le ndoda ayinakukwazi ukukhaphela futhi iyohlala imkhulekela yedwa, noma kunjalo, ungaphumuli, "uhlale ekhanda lakho." Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukusho indoda, ukumkhumbuza ukuthi ingcono kakhulu kuwe. Indoda kumele ihlale ibona ukuthi uyamthanda, uyayifuna futhi ufuna ukuchitha konke ukuphila kwakhe naye. Futhi, ungavumeli isimiso sikuthathe. Ngisho nomnumzane othembekile kakhulu ngezinye izikhathi ufuna ezinye izinto. Futhi noma yini edingekayo ukuba ayibheke ohlangothini, yakha empilweni yakho inganekwane noma i-adventure romance. Ukuhamba, uma ethanda, hamba ezinye izinto ezincane, ube nesithakazelo kulokho okumbamba khona. Ngokuvamile, zibandakanye empilweni yakhe, futhi ungabambeleli ohlangothini olulodwa.
Amadoda athembekile ahlale ekwazi futhi akwazi ukuthanda okwangempela. Akulungele ukwenza konke okwenzelwe owesifazane wawo futhi akafuni ukulimaza i-yobol. Ngakho-ke, zama ukukhokha indoda yakho "imali efanayo." Futhi-ke kufanele uhlale emshadweni impilo ende, enhle kakhulu.