Noma yimuphi owesifazane wangempela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka eyishumi noma engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ubudala, unezimfihlo zakhe namasu akhe amancane. Izigidi zabesifazane ziyazibuza imibuzo efanayo nsuku zonke: kanjani ukuthanda othandekayo wakho? Ungashada kanjani ongashadile futhi ungenzi iphutha ngokuzikhethela?
Izimfihlo zokwakha ubuhlobo, ukuphathwa kwengqondo yomndeni nezimpendulo zenkinga yabesifazane abadala - yilokhu okuzosiza noma yikuphi owesifazane ukuba athembeke ngokwengeziwe kuye nasemakhono akhe, aqonde kangcono abameleli bobulili obuhlukile. Enye yezinto eziyinhloko "izimfihlo zabesifazane" ukuthi amadoda athanda kuphela lawo maantombazane azithanda wona.
Izinhlelo zethelevishini, izinhlelo eziningi ezinamabalazo kanye nezincwadi ezinzima eziphathelene nokusebenza kwengqondo zinezihloko ezilandelayo: "Uphi lapho uzothola injabulo?", "Indlela yokwakha injabulo yomndeni ?". Ukuqhubeka nesifiso senjabulo, akufanele ukhohlwe ukuthi umuntu udinga ukuphahla phezu kwekhanda lakhe nelanga esibhakabhakeni ukuze azizwe injabulo nokuthokoza, kanti omunye ufuna ukuphoqa amaphupho ekusebenzeni kwamehlo, inqwaba yemali, ubucwebe nezinye izinto ezibonakalayo. Njengomunye umuntu ohlakaniphile kakhulu wathi, uma ufuna ukujabula - yiba njalo! Isitembu esipasipoti akuyona inhlanganisela yokudabuka, ukudabuka nokunganeliseki empilweni. "Ngifuna ukushada," kusho abesifazane abaningi, benethemba lokuthi umyeni othembekile nothando lwakhe olukhulu uyobanika inhlalakahle yomndeni osekude. Ukuze uthole injabulo, kanye nothando, kubalulekile ukulwa. Lapho kukhona injabulo, kukhona uthando, ucabanga abesifazane besimanje, balindele isinyathelo kule ndaba kusukela kwesigamu sabo sesibili. Kodwa uma ungenakukwazi ukuzithokozisa injabulo, ungalokothi wenze injabulo indoda yakho ethandekayo, futhi wonke amaphupho omlindelo omdala osalindelwe angahlala nje iphupho. Impendulo efanele kunazo zonke embuzweni: "Kuphi injabulo?" Ufunda kanje: "Injabulo iphakathi kwethu."
Ngithanda ihlaya. Indodakazi iza ekhaya ekuseni. Umama othukuthele uyambuza ukuthi ubusuku bonke? Futhi uphendula ngokucabanga: "Uyakhumbula, mama, ungitshele ukuthi indlela eya enhliziyweni yomuntu ilele esiswini sakhe? Ngakho, ngithole indlela encane. "
Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi othandweni, njengempi, zonke izindlela zilungile. Mhlawumbe, lokhu akunjalo. Uthando alwazi amaketanga. Ngikhuluma ngezo zonke izinhlobo zezinhlamvu, izinhlamba kanye nezinye i-alchemy nezinyeworld. Kungaba ubuwula ukusho ukuthi akusebenzi. Ngafunda izincwadi eziningi ezivela kubesifazane abaphendukayo, okwathi ngesikhathi esisodwa basebenzisa izinsizakalo zabathakathi noma abadayisi. Ekugcineni, akekho wabesifazane ababhala uthando abajabuli. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izimpilo zabo zaphenduka uhlobo lokuhogela.
Yisiphi isiphetho esiholela kulokho? Mhlawumbe, okokuqala, kufanele sikholwe ngokwethu, ngamandla ethu, ukukhanga kwethu nokuzikhethela. Futhi isimangaliso sizokwenzeka! Ngoba ukuphila kuyimbangela emangalisayo yamandla, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi akuhambisani nomqondo womuntu.
UDmitry Krivitsky