Wonke umama wesikhathi esizayo ufuna umntwana wakhe azalwe enempilo. Futhi akukhathaleki nakancane ukuthi lokhu kuyintombazane noma umfana. Kodwa-ke, ezinye imibhangqwana zifuna ukunquma ubulili bomntwana ngisho nangaphambi kokubeletha. Lokhu kungenziwa ngosizo locwaningo lwezokwelapha, isibonelo, i-ultrasound. Kodwa le nqubo ayifuni ukwenza njalo ukuthi ukwazi ukuthola ukuthi yini oyifunayo, ngoba umntfwana angase angakhululekile kudokotela ukuvula noma ukumboza izitho zangasese ngezinyawo. Kulokhu, ungazama ukubala ubulili bomntwana ngokubuyekeza igazi labazali.
Ngithola kanjani ukulala kwengane ngokubuyekeza igazi?
Ezweni kunezindlela ezimbalwa zokunquma ubulili bomntwana ngisho naseziqaleni zokuqala. Nakuba akuzona zonke ezinembile, kodwa omama abancane bayoba nesifiso sokuzama ukuthola ukuthi ngubani owalindele. Ososayensi baye bafakazela isikhathi eside ukuthi igazi lomuntu livuselelwa njalo eminyakeni embalwa. Emantombazaneni, lokhu kwenzeka njalo njalo eminyakeni emithathu, kanti kumadoda isikhathi senyukela eminyakeni engama-4. Kodwa futhi kufanele kucatshangelwe ukuthi ukuvuselelwa kwegazi kwenzeka ngemuva kokubeletha, ukuhlinzwa nokunikela. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka uma umuntu elahlekelwa okungaphezu kwetafula. Ngokwemfundiso, ubulili bomntwana obusekelwe ngokuqondile kuxhomeke ekutheni igazi lakho ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa lungcono kangakanani. Uma umama, khona-ke intombazane izozalwa, futhi uma ubaba, khona-ke umfana. Ukuze uthole ukuthi, udinga ukwenza ezinye izibalo. Sekuvele kuzo kuzokwahlulela ukuthi ubani okufanele alinde.
Ngendlela, le ndlela ihle ngoba ibasiza ukubikezela ngisho nangaphambi kokukhulelwa. Nakuba abantu abaningi bethi abanandaba nokuthi ubani ozelwe. Ukusebenzisa le ndlela, kungenzeka ukuba lula ukuhlela ingane, njengoba kucacile ngesikhathi esingcono ukukhulelwa ukuze uthole ubulili obufunayo. Yiqiniso, ungathembi ngokuphelele kule ndlela, ngoba amaphutha kungenzeka.
Indlela yokubala ubulili bomntwana ngokubuyekeza igazi labazali
Njengoba sekukhulunywe ngenhla, kwabesifazane nabesilisa, izicubu ezixhumayo zamanzi zivuselelwe ngokwemvelo ngezikhathi ezahlukene. Amantombazane anenkathi yeminyaka emithathu, kanti abafana - iminyaka engama-4. Kuvela kulokhu, okokuqala, futhi kufanele uphendule ukuze ukwazi ukwanelisa isifiso sabo. Bala ubulili bomntwana ekuvuseleleni kwegazi ngo-2016 ngeke kube nzima. Okubaluleke nakakhulu, cabanga zonke izici ezibonakala zibalulekile. Ngakho, isibonelo, thatha lezi zibalo ezilandelayo. Unyaka wesifazane uneminyaka engama-25, kanti owesilisa uneminyaka engu-27 ubudala. Ake sihlukanise iminyaka yomuntu ngamunye ngenani elithile (ngamantombazane angama-3, kubafana abane). 25: 3 = 8.3. 27: 4 = 6.75. Kulokhu, kuvela ukuthi indoda incane, ngoba inombolo ayitholile incane. Lokhu kusho ukuthi lo mbhangqwana uzoba nomfana. Kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuphazamiseka ukuthi ukubuyekezwa kuthinteka ekulahlekelweni kwegazi ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ngesikhathi sokuhlinzwa, ngenxa yokunikela noma ukumpontshelwa igazi. Uma lokhu kwakukhona empilweni yomuntu, khona-ke i-countdown kufanele iqale kusukela ngesikhathi esenzekile, hhayi ekuzalweni.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthola ukuthi ucansi lomntwana ngokuvuselela igazi ngaphandle kosuku lokukhulelwa?
Akuwona wonke umuntu ongaqamba usuku oluqondile lokuzala, ngakho-ke izindlela zokunquma ubulili okudingekayo azifanelekile. Kulesi simo, le ndlela ifanelekile. Ikuvumela ukuba wazi ubulili ngokubuyekeza igazi ngaphandle kosuku lokukhulelwa. Ukuze ubale, udinga kuphela ukwazi iminyaka yobuzali bakho, nokuthi ngabe babenemisebenzi, ukubeletha nokumpontshelwa empilweni yabo.
Le ndlela, nakuba ayinembile kakhulu, kodwa elula futhi engabizi kuwo wonke umuntu. Ngosizo lomama nobaba kunoma yisiphi isikhathi ukunikeza isikweletu kubani abazalelwe. Futhi ngokunemba okukhulu, ungaya kwi-ultrasound.