Njengoba wazi, bonke ubudlelwane ekuqaleni kwabo bahlanganiswe emanzini amancane emizwelo, imizwa, intshisekelo kanye nenjabulo. Esigabeni sokuqala, wonke umuntu uyajabula futhi ufuna nje ukuba nomunye nomunye. Futhi azikho izinkinga nhlobo - ukhumbula usuku lwakho lokuzalwa, izingcingo, cishe zonke ihora, futhi zonke izinsuku zigcwele imizwa yothando. Ngamanye amazwi: azikho izikhalazo ngokumelene nomunye futhi konke kuqhubeka, "njenge-clockwork." Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi okungenakwenzeka kungenzeka, futhi uzobuka umthandi wakho ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi ushintshile, futhi imizwa yakhe ikhulile. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, amadoda ngokuvamile aqala ukubiza ngokungavamile, futhi avumele lokhu ngokuntuleka kwesikhathi noma ukukhathala emsebenzini. Uma uzama ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekani, le ndoda izovame ukuthatha "isimo sokulwa" futhi ifomu lezinzwa lizokuchazela ukuthi akanalo isikhathi ngisho naye, engakhulumi ngawe. Ngendlela, ukusola ngokungaqondi kahle, sicela, kodwa ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zakho noma ukuthi yini ehlupha ngempela "akuyona ibhizinisi lomuntu". Okuzosho, njengoba uyazi, indoda ethanda, ihlale ifuna ukukhuluma nomfazi wayo othandekayo ngokuthi "yimfihlakalo" yakhe futhi ibuhlungu. Kodwa, uma ehoxise kuye, kunamathuba onke ukuthi imizwa yakhe ngawe ikhulile. Yini okufanele uyenze uma umuzwa womuntu usuhlile nokuthi ungaziphatha kanjani kuleso simo kumuntu wesifazane?
Okokuqala, akudingekile ukuthi udwebe iziphetho ezikhawulwayo eziholela ekudleni okuyisiphukuphuku kanye nokuphazamiseka okuphelele emphefumulweni. Vele uzame ukuthola isikhathi esifanele bese ukhuluma nomthandi wakho. Ngendlela, ngenkathi ingxoxo awudingi ukubeka ingcindezi kumthandi wakho bese uzama ukuthola impendulo evela kuye kumbuzo obuzwe nguwe. Khumbula ukuthi amadoda awawuthandi uma echotshoziwe, ngakho-ke ngeke ukwazi ukufeza noma yini ngokumemeza nokuhlaziya. Uma kwenzeka indoda igwema ukuxhumana futhi ingaxhumani nawe, yeka ukuziphoqa. Amadoda njalo abalekela kulabo besifazane abazama "ukuphoqelela" ukuziphoqa. Nje ukuziqhenya futhi wazi ngokwakho intengo. Cabanga ukuthi le ndoda "ayiyena owokuqala nowokugcina" empilweni yakho nakakhulu kakhulu emhlabeni. Ngakho hlazisa futhi uthandazele ingxoxo - akuyona ibhizinisi labesifazane. Futhi noma kunjalo, uma egwema ingxoxo, mnike isikhathi. Masihlale isikhashana ekhaya, acabange, aziqonde yena nemicabango yakhe, bese ubheka futhi uzophuma "enkambeni yakhe" yokuxoxa ngokukhululekile nawe. Misa okwesikhashana - lena enye indlela ephumelelayo yokuziqonda yona, khumbula imizwa edlule futhi, lokho okungaqediwe nakanjani, kuthukuthele.
Ngendlela, ngenkathi umuntu ecabanga ngokuthi "ukuba noma angabi khona," akudingeki ukuthi ulingise isithombe somfazi onesizungu futhi ongenakujabula ngalesi sikhathi. Zama ukuhola indlela yakho yokuphila evamile. Umsebenzi, abangani, ukuzilibazisa okuthandayo yizo zonke ezokusiza ukuthi uphazamise umuzwa ongajabulisayo wokulinda. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isoka lakho ngokuqinisekile, ngokuzihlanganisa nabo, kufanele ube nesithakazelo endleleni ohlala ngayo ngesikhathi "sokuthula kobudlelwane bakho". Futhi uma ufunde ukuthi uphumelela kanjani kuzo zonke izinkomba nezenzo, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwamanye abantu, lokhu kuzomshaya ngokuphila. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi imizwa yendoda ingabuyiselwa, ivusa kuye umzwelo nomhawu wokukulwela. Mnike leli thuba, futhi umphumela ngeke uthathe isikhathi eside.
Enye imininingwane ebalulekile ukubonakala kwakho. Zama ukuyishintsha ngokugcwele kakhulu. Vakashela i-beauty salon engcono kakhulu, i-solarium, i-boutique ebiza kakhulu futhi uphumule kwimihla ngemihla. Kungenzeka ukuthi isithombe sakho esisha sizoveza umuzwa enhliziyweni yomuntu onomlilo oqine kakhulu.
Futhi manje amazwi ambalwa ngokushaya ucingo. Zama ukumshayela futhi ungakhathazeki ngemibuzo ejwayelekile mayelana nokuthi yena nokuthi kwenzekani ngokulandelayo. Ufuna - uzobiza! Uma eqala ukuzibiza njalo, ngakho konke kwavela kahle, futhi isikhathi sakhe esibucayi empilweni yakhe sidlula. Kodwa lesi sinyathelo kumele sisuke kuye. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile ukuba ugijime ngokushesha bese ugijima entanyeni yakhe. Mema ukuba ahlangane nendawo ethile ensimini engathathi hlangothi noma, isibonelo, ipaki lapho uhlala khona ubambe isandla sakho futhi ubheke isibhakabhaka sezinkanyezi. Izindawo ezinjalo ziyakwazi ukuqeda konke ukungabaza, uma lezo ziyiqiniso zihlala nale ndoda futhi zimenzele isinyathelo esisodwa eduze kwakho.
Futhi into yokugcina, uma imizwa yomuntu wakho ikhulile kuwe ngoba wayenomunye owesifazane ekhanda lakhe, futhi uvele edidekile futhi engazi ukuthi kufanele ahlale nobani. Iseluleko sethu: sigijime kumuntu onjalo lapho ude futhi ungacabangi ngalokhu "kodwa ngokuzumayo uzokukhetha ...". Kuyinto eyodwa uma umfana eyazi ukuthi ufunani ngempela empilweni, kanti enye, uma ehlupheka futhi engakwazi ukukhetha. Ngamanye amazwi, lokhu akuyona indoda. Yeka isiqinisekiso sokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngisho noma ebuyela kuwe, imizwa yakhe ngeke ilahlekelwe incazelo yayo ngenxa yowesifazane omusha. Ngakho faka iziphetho, madodakazi othandekayo.
Ukudweba umugqa ngaphansi kwazo zonke ezingenhla, ngifuna ukukutshela ukuthi ukuze imizwa yakho ibe namandla futhi ingapheli ngaso sonke isikhathi, zama njalo ukunakekelana, ungesabi ukushintsha, ukuzama futhi njalo ngangokunokwenzeka ukusho amagama ngothando. Kuphela kulokhu kunesiqinisekiso esigcwele sokuthi phakathi kwakho "akukho" okungeke kusebenze, futhi uzogcina imizwa yakho iminyaka eminingi. Uthando futhi uthandeke, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, uyakwazisa indoda yakho nomthandekayo wakho ngokuqinisekile uyophendula okufanayo, okwenza ube umuntu ojabule kakhulu emhlabeni. Inhlanhla kuwe!