Indlela yokuphonsa imicabango yakhe ekhanda lami?


Ubudlelwano bungabe buhlukile - buphumelele futhi abude kakhulu futhi bufushane, njengobusuku behlobo. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokucabanga - "ukuthandana" okunjalo okuthulile nomuntu osebenza nabo noma inkanyezi ye-TV kudlulela iminyaka.

Futhi, uma lo mbhangqwana ungasebenzi, ngemuva kokuphumula, amantombazane nabesifazane abaningi basakhumbula "ngaye" isikhathi eside. "Uthiwa" ngezimfanelo zobuciko, bakhumbula izinto ezinhle kuphela ... Kodwa ukuphila kuqhubeka, okusho ukuthi yisikhathi sokucabanga ngendlela yokuphonsa imicabango "ngaye."

Ukuphila kusha

Kunoma yikuphi ubudlelwane, abesifazane basebenzisa imali yabo. "Ubulili nje" noma "ukuhlangana, ukuhlangana, nokuhlukaniswa" akunakwenzeka. Futhi kanjani ukuphonsa imicabango yakhe ekhanda lakhe, uma izinto eziningi zihlobene naye, othandekayo nabathandekayo, kokubili okuhle nokubi?

Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi kunezinhlobo eziningi zempilo - umsebenzi, umsebenzi, abangane, izinto zokuzilibazisa, izihlobo - kodwa yonke imicabango ekhanda lami iyingxenye eyodwa kuphela, eyathandekayo ngaphambili. Akukona nje "ukukhishwa" - le "baobab" ayiyikukhululeka isuka emphefumulweni wesifazane ozwelayo.

Ukuphila okusha, ngaphandle kwalo kuzodingeka ufunde, mhlawumbe - ubuhlungu futhi isikhathi eside. Futhi kanjani ukuphonsa imicabango yakhe ekhanda lakhe, isayithi lizokutshela.

"Izinkokhelo", lapho thina sibambelele khona

Abesifazane akuyona nje uthando, kodwa futhi nomphumela wayo. Amazwi akhulunywa emzuzwaneni ofanayo, "izinsuku ezikhethekile", ezikhunjulwa ngokumnandi ngisho neminyaka kamuva. Umculo owamlalela ndawonye, ​​izindawo oye kuzo. Konke lokhu akukhona kodwa okubangela ukukhumbuza izinkumbulo. Futhi ngaphambi kokuba ukhohlwe ngaye, udinga ukunakekela "ukuhlanza jikelele".

Ngemuva kwesigaba sokuqala sokulila - ukulahlekelwa nokulahlekelwa kwayo - kuzodlula, qala ukucabanga kancane, ukukhumbula. Ungangezeli ezinkumbulo zobuthi obumnandi - vele uvule ekhanda lakho konke njengoba kwakunjalo. Baphiphi, bathini. Futhi kancane kancane uzoqala ukuqaphela ama-subtexts amasha, izincazelo, imibala. Uzoqonda ukuthi yini eyashukumisa le ndoda. Yini eyenzeka ngesikhathi uthanda ngothando.

Ubufakazi obuningi bokuthi ukuphumelela kwalesi sigaba kuwukuthula, ngisho nesimo sengqondo sokuthi "ingoma yakho", lapho udansa khona. Awusaphinde ubuhlungu ebuhlungu obukhulu kakhulu, ukuvakashela izindawo lapho uchithe khona isikhathi.

Ukuzibuyisa thina

Ekuqaleni, othandana ("candy-bouquet") isigaba sobuhlobo, kuyilapho lo mbhangqwana engabhekana nezinkinga nokuphikisana, okhethiwe ubonakala enhle kithi. Futhi siyajabula ngokuqhakazila kule nhle - siyazilahleka. Yingakho ukuzindla, ukuphonsa imicabango yakhe ekhanda, kube buhlungu kakhulu.

Vele ukhumbuze ukuthi emva kweyombukiso enomnandi kunomkhuhlane omkhulu.

Buyela ezithakazelweni zakho zakudala, izifundo, noma uthole ezintsha.

Buyela kancane-ngokwakho-ngokwakho. Funda okuthandayo, imikhuba, okunamathiselwe. Yini oyithandayo - i-hockey noma i-ballet? Izingoma zomculo noma isiteji sangaphandle? Yini oyiphuza ekuseni - itiye noma ikhofi? Futhi, ekugcineni, uthanda ukuvuka ngantoni?

"Izinto ezincane", okuyizindlela zethu ezincane ezincane, ziyakwazi ukusibuyisela esimweni sethu, ukubuyela ekubalukeni kobuntu bethu obuyingqayizivele nobuhlukile.

Uma uqhubeka nokuqhathanisa, ke lesi sigaba sifana nomklamo wendlu yakho noma indlu. Kufanele kube kanjani, ukuthi ukhetha ukuhlala kanjani, ukuthi uzokwenzani ngezindonga ezine kuxhomeke kuwe.

Ziyini - imicabango mayelana naye?

Ngemuva kokubuyiselwa kwamalungelo obunikazi bakho, qaphela isigaba sokugcina "sokuhlanza". Ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi awulahli okuthile okuwusizo, kubalulekile, kufanele ucabange ngokucophelela futhi, mhlawumbe, ukukhipha "umfutho wengqondo" okhishiwe.

Kodwa lokhu kuyiqiniso.

Konke kwenzeka empilweni yakho ndawonye "ngesizathu esithile". Konke kwakungeyona ize. Kwakukhona umuzwa wenjabulo, injabulo, injabulo - ngiyabonga. Kwakuyinkinga, kwakunzima - futhi ngiyabonga. Khipha isimo. Futhi cabanga ngalokhu.

Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ukhumbule, unombono ophethwe kuphela - umbono wesinye icala. Ngesikhathi uhamba ezulwini ngokumanga noma ukukhanyisa kusuka othintweni, umthandi wakho kungenzeka ukuthi wacabanga nge-pizza noma mayelana nokuhamba nabangani ebhajini ukubuka ukusakaza kwebhola. Noma ngokuphambene nalokho - uma ushukukuthele, wahlushwa ukunganeliseki futhi ukholelwa ukuthi "uyakwenza ngenhloso" - lo muntu ukholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi uyakukhathalela futhi uyayinakekela imizwa yakho.

Awukwazi ukuphikisa ukuthi izinhloso zakhe nemicabango kwakunjengokucabanga kwakho.

Futhi emva kokuhlaziywa ngokucophelela nangokucophelela, okuyinto ekugcineni ihlukanisa wena "naye", ungaba mahhala okwangempela. Manje awudingi ukuhlola kabusha "imicabango mayelana nayo." Ngaphezu kwalokho - cishe ngeke uyithande.

Ngokubuyela ezweni langempela!