Ukuzikhethela nokuhlukile kwabanye kungethuba noma isijeziso? Yiba engxenyeni yabangane nezintombi, ukuxhumana, ukusebenza ...
Nomaphi lapho sibhekana khona nomphakathi, kufanele sithande "ukugqoka imaski", okungenani kuze kube yisikhathi. Sithola kuloluhlobo oluthile lwenjabulo, indawo, ubuciko. Kodwa empeleni kube yinto ekhethekile kakhulu kubalulekile kulowo wesifazane ngamunye ...
Njalo isimo sengqondo esihle, ukumomotheka "kweHollywood", isibalo esihle kakhulu nesigqi esiphezulu sokuphila - konke lokhu kubonakala kufana nencazelo ye heroine yefilimu kunowesifazane wangempela. Sinezinkinga eziningi nokuhlupheka, amaphupho angeke agcwaliseke, kanye nokumangala. Ikusasa lesiphetho siyaphoqeleka ukuba sihlangabezane nokumomotheka, futhi ngisho nabangane abasondelene nabo sinawo ukungabaza kwethu okwehlisiwe kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi thina sivame kakhulu ukuhlala sisodwa nathi, cishe, akukho nabangane, ngisho nezihlobo. Ngempela, ukuze kube okukhethekile, okuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke abesifazane, kunzima - udinga ukuhambisana.
Kusobala ukuthi kwezinye izikhathi zokuphila kulula kakhulu ukukhipha "i-halo," susa isikhulu esiphezulu futhi ujoyine umhlambi. Ikakhulu uma kufika isikhathi sokushintsha nokungabaza, ukungabaza nokungaqiniseki. "Sonke siyajabula kakhulu," sicabanga. "Wonke umuntu akakwazi ukungahambi kahle," sithi ngokwethu, njengephepha lokukopela ngekhanda. Futhi siyahamba ngokuthula, cishe emlenzeni. Okokuqala esikoleni, ukuzama ukuhambisana nemikhuba yefeshini - sihlangana futhi siyamanga, sigqoka i-pantyhose, okubizwa ngokuthi umama engiyibiza ngokufanelekayo kuphela kwabesifazane besisebenzi somlando wasendulo ...
Siyizodwa kakhulu, kodwa zifanayo ...
Khona-ke izintombi ziya ekolishi, nawe. Ngoba kuyadingeka. Yebo, futhi abazali bathi: "Yenzani, ndodakazi!" Futhi lapha uchitha iminyaka emihlanu, ufunda umsebenzi ongaqapheli futhi uthola imfundo efunayo. Futhi ephuma ezindongeni zesitatimende, ngesibindi siyaqaphela ukuthi manje yilo msebenzi wakho wokuphila! Futhi empeleni kube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubalulekile kumfazi ngamunye - kepha siyaqhubeka nokusabalalisa endaweni yomsebenzi ongeyona indawo ehloniphekile noma sifuna indawo kambhali ojwayelekile kulo wesifazane. Yini esingayisho ngobunqunu lapho umphefumulo ubuza, ukukhala, ukukhala - futhi silandela isixuku?
"Uzophendula kanjani," akunakwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthola lokho okuthandayo kakhulu! "Yebo, bambalwa abantu abathola ukukhwabanisa noma ukukhuphula i-petunias. Kodwa-ke yizona eziyisibonelo sokuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuthi wonke owesifazane abe okhethekile! Uma labo abambalwa beye baphikisana - futhi awuthandi lokhu okufundiwe, isithombe esiphelile, le nxenye yecebo lesibili ngokubuyisela "i-prima" engaba yiyo!
Owesifazane, naphezu kwamalungelo akhe amakhulu futhi, ngisho nangaphezulu, imithwalo yemfanelo ethathwa, iyaqhubeka ikhona ohlelweni lwezinzalamizi. Esikhathini lapho kungadingeki khona ukuba kube okhethekile, lapho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba "njengabo bonke abanye," wonke owesifazane kumele aqhudelane nabanye. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sokutadisha, shada "labo bantu" (abafana nabangani noma abazali), ngesikhathi sokubeletha izingane, noma ngabe kunesinye sezikhalo zabo uphonsa kusuka kulamula.
Akuwona wonke umuntu owazalwa u-Mozart, hhayi wonke umuntu ongaba yiCurie-Warehouse noma uGeorge Sandy. Kodwa ungathola okuhlukile kwakho, thola indlela yokuphila oyithandayo. Ngempela, ukulandela indlela yakho ephikisana no-cha, hhayi isiphetho, kodwa umbono womphakathi kuphela - ngamandla onke owesifazane, futhi kube ngokukhethekile ukugcina impilo yengqondo yakho.
Ode ukuze ube nenjabulo
Injabulo - hhayi indlu hhayi umyeni, hhayi impilo noma izingane. Injabulo ayitholakali. Injabulo kuyisimo esivakashela ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi injabulo enkulu ukukwazi ukuyizwa. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nasebuphofu obungenakulinganiswa, ukudabuka, ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka, i-ray enkulu yenjabulo esivame ukuyikhumbula iwukuzama! Ngakho-ke, esikhathini sethu esinzima, iningi lizihlela ngokwabo "ukuthunjwa"?
Umphumela walokho "impumelelo" yezenhlalakahle ukuthi kulandelwa ukudumazeka kanye nezinkinga, ukuhlupheka kuyimfihlo, futhi intombazane enhle kakhulu ngokuzumayo iba umqubu. Ukuzwa ngokwakho, izwi lakho langaphakathi libaluleke kakhulu! Ungazivumeli ukuba "njengabantu bonke," ngoba kubaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke abesifazane. Umphakathi ubeka izindinganiso zawo njalo - kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi zihlinzeka kuphela ngokusinda.
Ufuna okungaphezulu?
Uma ufuna ukuphila okuthile okungaphezu nje kokuthi "bukhoma" (futhi yilokhu okushiwo ama-maximimalists asetsheni), uma ungafuni nje ubuhlobo - kodwa isimangaliso esincane nsuku zonke - kukhona njalo ithuba. Zonke izindlela nazo zonke izindlela zokupheka zilungele ukuhlinzeka ngokuphila ngokwayo - kufanelekile ukuyeka okwesikhashana, uyeke ukushisa. Vala i-footestal, susa mask, hamba eceleni. Lapho, lapho ukukhanya kwama-soffits kungabonakali khona, ungakwazi ukuzindla ngawe kancane.
Ukuze udlale indima, ukwenza ngokuhlakanipha kuhle. Ukuzethula ezweni langempela kuyingozi nje - kungenjalo kuyoba yi-monster engalahleki elelekile ehlobisa i-varnish ezinzikhonweni zayo. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uvumele ukuba ube wangempela, okhethekile, hhayi ukulandela indlela efanayo nabanye abantu. Hamba ngendlela yakho. Futhi uma isiqondiso sicacile, ungakhetha kusuka ezicathulweni eziyizintandokazi ukuthi izingubo esibhekene nazo. "Umphathi" oqinile futhi ozimele noma obala "imbali ebomvu", okuthandwa ngumuntu othandekayo - ukukhetha wena kuphela.
AbamaMama bayeluleka, abakhulukazi bacebisa, osebenza nabo kanye nabesilisa, abaqashi kanye nama-apothecaries - bonke banombono ku-akhawunti yethu. Kodwa iqiniso ngalokhu esingathanda, singaphila ngenjabulo - kuphela esiyazi, ekhethekile futhi ehlukile. Futhi kulokhu sifanayo - ngendlela ehlukile.
Futhi-ke ubudlelwano namadoda buyasungulwa, emphefumulweni womphefumulo, indlu - indebe egcwele. Emva kwakho konke, uma wazi ukuthi yini oyifunayo emhlabeni - izwe lilungele ukusinika lesi sandla esivulekile.