Abantu abaningi banombono wokuthi uma owesifazane enesizungu, khona-ke kumelwe ukuthi uyazonda abantu futhi azigweme. Eqinisweni, lesi sitatimende asikho iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi manje sizokhuluma ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zabesifazane abangashadile nobuhlobo babo namadoda.
Kunqatshelwe izwe lonke
Lolu hlobo lwabesifazane ngeke luphuthelwe ithuba lokuxoxa nge-muzhchin, futhi utshele ukuthi yiziphi izimbuzi nezikhwama. Laba besifazane bayazonda ngempela abameleli bobulili obuqinile. Ngenxa yokuhluleka kwabo ngaphambili, amantombazane afika esiphethweni sokuthi bonke abantu bastards, abakwazi ukuthembela, ngempela ukukhaphela nokuphonsa. Laba besifazane bayamzonda wonke umuntu ngaphandle kokuhlaziywa. Babona wonke umuntu njengesitha futhi bazama ukufakazela kubo bonke abangane nabangane babo ukuthi abayeni babo bazobaphaphela ngokuqinisekile uma sebevele benza lokhu. Kodwa, ngenhlanhla, azikho eziningi kangaka abesifazane abanobuhlanga.
Abesifazane
Akunakusho ukuthi abesifazane abanjalo banzonda abantu. Kunalokho, bayadelelwa. Izisebenzi ezizimele eziye zazuza okuningi empilweni, kodwa zingakafundi ukuthi zingakha kanjani ubudlelwane namadoda, zihlale zikulungele ukukhamuluka ukuthi la madoda angabameleli bobulili obuqinile, njenge-aslaboy, ngakho-ke akusizi ngalutho ngokuphelele. Abesifazane abanjalo abakwazi ukushaywa noma ukuthathwa. Baphendula noma yikuphi ukubonisa okuhle komuntu: "Ngenze kangcono" futhi ngivumela abantu ababuthakathaka nabangenazimpumputhe ukuba bahambe kimi, bese bonke babhekisela kubo njengokuqinisekisa kwamazwi abo mayelana nokuhluleka kwemibhangqwana ukwenza noma yini. Laba besifazane bahlale bebodwa futhi bedelela amadoda, ngoba bona ngokwabo banamandla kakhulu emvelo futhi abafuni ukunikeza umuntu.
Ubuhle bokuqala
Laba besifazane abakwazi ukuthola i-pair, ngoba banomqondo ophakeme kakhulu ngokwabo. Kulowo nalowo muntu, owesifazane onjalo ubona ukwehluleka futhi kusuka kulowo nalowo udinga ukulalela nokuhlonipha okuphelele. Uma lokhu kungeke kwenzeke, noma ucansi omelelayo ngokuzumayo "ulwa", le nkosikazi iqala ukuvutha inzondo kubo bonke abantu futhi ithi imbali edingeka ukuba ihlotshwe futhi ihlonishwe, futhi, izidalwa ezimbi, azifuni ukumnakekela, ngakho-ke ngisho akafaneleki ukubiza igama lakhe. Kodwa lokhu kuyaqhubeka kuze kube umzuzwana lapho ubuhle bethola ukuhlonishwa okusha. Lapho ezwa ukuthi uhle futhi engathandeki kumuntu oyimpumputhe ngobuhle futhi engaqapheli inhlanhla yendodakazi, owesifazane onjalo ngaleso sikhathi uyancipha futhi aqale ukuthanda amadoda, kuze kufike umzuzwana, kuwo futhi ngeke aphele.
Ukuzimela ngokuzimela
Lesi sigaba sabesifazane, njengabaqala, sishiswe ebuhlotsheni. Kodwa esikhundleni sokumemeza emhlabeni wonke ukuthi bonke abesilisa bezimbuzi, abesifazane abanjalo bazenza sengathi bayaphakeme ukudlula ukucasuka nokudumazeka. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane aziphathe kahle nalaba bantu kahle futhi ngokuthula. Ekuboneni kuqala, nabesifazane abanjalo, indoda inhle kakhulu ukuxhumana nayo. Kodwa lokhu kuwukuqala kokuqala. Abesifazane balesi sigaba banamathemba amadoda ngisho nangaphezulu kunabo bonke abanye. Ngenxa yokuthi bazama ukubonakala behlukile, imizwa ibadla ngaphakathi. Ngakho-ke, uma uqaphela lo mfana uhlobo oluthile lwesiphambeko, intombazane enjalo, eqhubeka ehleka, iyoqala ukumenza umonakalo futhi ivele imelane nabanye abesifazane. Indlu enjalo ayisoze yavuma ukuthi isizungu sibacindezela. Bayohlala bebethelwe esiphambanweni nxazonke ngoba banqobe umklomelo wangempela, ngoba abakhokhwa lutho kunoma ubani. Kodwa empeleni, ngokujulile banomhawu omkhulu kubo bonke abangane abaye basuka ekamelweni noma bahlangana nje. Abesifazane abanjalo bakhala ebusuku ngobunzima hhayi ngosizi, bese beqhubeka bemomotheka, bazama ukuphazamisa impilo kwabanye, bakhuthaze ngokuthi benze kahle. Lezi zintombazane azizondanga kuphela i-muzhchin. Bazonda bonke labo abaphila kangcono futhi bajabule, futhi balungele ukwenza konke ukubhubhisa izimpilo zabanye.
Umngane wami
Kodwa ungacabangi ukuthi bonke abesifazane abangabodwa abanokulinganisela. Kunalokho, yilabo kuphela abangazi ukuthi bangasabela kanjani ngokuvumelana nezifundo zesikhathi esizayo, benze izinqumo zabo futhi benze izinqumo zabo, abaziphathe ngendlela engafanele futhi ebabazayo, ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yibo bonke umthwalo wokuphelela. Ngokwesibonelo, kunabesifazane abahlala bengabangane namadoda. Nsuku zonke baphendukela eqenjini lamadoda, balalela izindaba zabafana bese bethola iziphetho. Kulaba besifazane, amadoda awafihli lutho, ngoba, okokuqala, abona intombazane, okungukuthi umngane. Ngakho-ke, la madoda aphumula futhi abonise lokho abafihlayo nabanye abamele besifazane. Ngokuvamile, baziphathe bengaphilile, bahlale bekhononda ngabathandekayo babo, abangaziwa ngenxa yalokho abakwenzayo njengomuntu ohlambalaza, bephupha ngokuphinga noma bakhuluma ngezifiso zabo zobulili ohlangothini. Ukulalela konke lokhu, intombazane iqala ukucabanga ukuthi ufuna yini ukuthi omunye akhulume ngaye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indoda ifuna ukudlala indima ebusweni phambi kwamehlo akhe, khona-ke ukukhala kubangani, ukuthi kuye kwaba kanjani ukuthi uyinto yakhe njalo ukusola futhi ufuna ukushintsha. Ngokuvamile, ukhetha isizungu, la makantombazane akwenzi lokhu ngoba aqala ukuzonda i-muzhchin. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kunalokho benza lokho ngoba bafunda ukuyiqonda. Umngane-intombazane uyazi ukuthi abantu bangubani ngempela, futhi yiziphi ngempela lezi, ezingokoqobo, zilula futhi zijabulisa kakhulu. Futhi bangaba abangane abaphelele, ngoba ubungane besilisa, kaningi, buqotho futhi bunamandla kunabesifazane. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, noma yini ethi ukuyeka umngane akusho ukuhlehlisa isoka lakhe. Futhi uma wazi ngokwakho ukuthi ucabangani njalo lapho uhlambalaza, khona-ke kufika umqondo wokuthi kungcono ukuba wedwa kunokuba uphazamise impilo yakhe nowembili. Amantombazane anjalo ngeke aphuze abantu ngodaka. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukwazi i-psychology yabesifazane bobabili, bayakwazi ukunikeza abanye abesifazane izinkomba ezifanele ukuze bangabhubhisi abantu kakhulu. Futhi la madoda, achaza ukuthi angasabela kanjani kumahlaya azayo womkakhe nokuthi yini engalungile embonweni wakhe.
Uhlangenwe nakho futhi ukhathele
Futhi esinye isigaba sabesifazane abangashadile abahlobene kahle nabesilisa kukhona abesifazane abanolwazi. Ngokuvamile, banezinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zobudlelwane obuhlukahlukene ngemuva kweminyango yabo, bayazi izinhlobo ezahlukene zesimo somuntu futhi bahlale bekulungele ukusho ukuthi yini umuntu ayifunayo nokuthi uzokwenza kanjani. Laba besifazane bayaqonda ukuthi ayikho imigomo, futhi ulwazi kanye nokwaneliseka akubavumeli ukuba nomunye umuntu. Ngakho-ke, ukhathele yizo zonke izinto ezishintshayo futhi ziphenduka, zisehlukanisweni ngokuhle kakhulu. Kuwo wonke amadoda, abesifazane abanjalo banakekelwa njengezingane ezingenangqondo, ngezinga lokuzijabulisa. Uma umfana olandelayo ezama ukuzithokozisa le ntombazane, uhleka ngokumangalisayo, umtshele konke azokwenza emahoreni alandelayo, bese ephakamisa insizwa emangalisa ukuthi ingasichitha isikhathi sakhe noma ukuyisebenzisa ngendlela engacabangi futhi ingenakho ukulinganisa okungenangqondo (uma imthanda futhi ingakhathazeki ngendlela, lokhu akusiyo njalo emzimbeni, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuxoxa ngengxoxo evamile). Abesifazane abanjalo abasoli muntu ngokuthi bayedwa, ngoba bathanda lesi sizungu. Bavele babheke ukuphila njengechungechunge ezithakazelisayo futhi bacabange icebo.