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Eqinisweni, inhlanganisela enjalo, kodwa inkulu-ukuhamba ngokuphelele. Yiziphi izinkinga, nje eziphuma emamame amaningi emhlabeni jikelele? Iqiniso lokuthi udinga ukuhlala njalo nomntwana, ungahambi noma yikuphi, ungenzi lutho, ungahlangabezane nanoma ubani. Abantu abasha banamathele enhlobo yombuthano: indlu - indawo yokudlala yezingane - indlu. Lokhu kungabangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu, ngisho nasesithandweni esikhulu kunazo zonke nokuzinikela emsebenzini womama wesifazane. Ukulinganisa kunika into esemqoka - inkululeko yesenzo. Ingane ihlala njalo nawe - ngesikhathi esifanayo ungenza noma yini oyifunayo. Ungakwazi ukugeza izitsha, ukupheka, ukuya ezitolo noma ukuhlangabezana nabangani. Futhi umntwana uzobe ezolile, ekhululekile futhi ejabule, ezwa ukufudumala komama nokukhathalela.
Enye kanye nalabo abancancisayo. Ingane ingadliwa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, ngokushesha nje lapho ebuza. Uzoncelisa ubisi lwakhe, futhi umama uzoba lula ukusebenza ezindabeni zabo siqu. Azikho izibalo, imibuso, ukukhethwa kwamathuba okudla nokwesaba ukuthi ubisi luncane futhi alanele ingane. Oomama abaningi abakhethile ukufaka izingubo zokugqoka ezinganeni njalo kufanele bakwazi ukondla ngisho nasemgwaqweni, ngesikhathi esifanele sokuhamba.
Yiqiniso, kuphela ehlobo. Kodwa ngisho nokuhlala elula eduze kwesifuba sekuvele kumdonsela phambili, futhi ukukhishwa kwe-lactation kusuka kulokhu kuyathuthukisa kuphela. Ngalokhu, ngisho nodokotela abaphikisi.
Akuyona ingozi ecacile
Ukuthi umntwana uhlala eduze nawe, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuyamangalisa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngenkathi ingane isencane kakhulu, omama bayavuma ukuthi bayathula, abaphazamisi, bangakwazi ukubekezelela kangcono ama-colic, amazinyo nezinye izinkinga. Ngemuva kwalokho, umama uzoduduza njalo, ahambe, aphuze. Kodwa lapho ingane ikhula, umama uyaqaphela ukuthi ngaphandle kokushiya ukushiya nje embhedeni ngomzuzu - lokhu kakade kuyinkinga. Ingane ayifuni ukuhlukanisa nomama wakhe eminyakeni emithathu noma emine, iya engadini - ukuhlolwa okuphelele, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ithomeke Lokhu kubonakalisiwe: abantwana abachitha isikhathi esitokisini bancike kakhulu kunina, kepha kuhle noma kubi - wonke umuntu uyazikhethela yena.
Manje sizoshiya i-psychology bese siya emithi. Ukuzithandela ingane njalo kungumthwalo. Ngokukhula kwengane, lo mthwalo wanda futhi. Futhi umgogodla uqina, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uqeqeshe kangakanani. Unomkhawulo wakhe wemvelo wamandla, futhi "ezinhlelweni" zakhe zokucindezela amahora angu-24 ngosuku ngaphansi kwesisindo se-chadaug ekhulayo, nakanjani akufakiwe. Yini umama othembekayo wokuthungatha? Abaphiki ukuthi emuva "ama-aches" okungaba nzima kakhulu ukuwagqoka, ikakhulukazi uma izingane ziqala ukugxilisa futhi zifinyelele esitokisini, kodwa zonke zithatha lezi zinkinga, njengesipho. Njengaye, ngingumama-kumele ngimkhuthazele. Kodwa kukhona ubuhlungu? Kukhona. Futhi izinkinga nge-sopina, ama-humeral joints kanye nezinyawo emathunjini nazo-azikwazi ukuphikiswa. Kukhona idatha esemthethweni odokotela ngalesi sikole, noma ngabe yini ongayisho.
Manje ukuvinjezelwa komncane. Ingabe ilula kakhulu futhi iphephile kuye? Yilokho ochwepheshe bathi: ukugqoka ingane kunoma yikuphi ukudonsa kuze kube yizinyanga ezingu-3-4 kuyingozi empilweni yakhe! Kungcono kuwe ukuthi unqume ukuthi ungayenza yini noma cha. Kodwa akukhona nje ukuthi odokotela benina bayaqaphela kangaka? Yini ekugcineni, ingabe kunengqondo ukuqamba amanga nokugqweba? Ingane yakho - yebo uyenzile, ithi, ukuthi yini oyifunayo! Futhi bathi kuyingozi. Futhi yingakho. Ukuhlala isikhathi eside komuntu omncane esimweni esiphoqelekile kuphazamisa ukusakaza kwegazi lakhe le-cerebral. Futhi ukuthwala umntwana ongakakwazi ukubeka ikhanda, ngokuqondile - akuvumelekile neze. Inhloko izobuyela emuva, ezovimba ukujikeleza kwegazi ngaphakathi komshini we-vertebral, futhi lokhu kuwukufa okuqinisekile. Kodwa kufanele sivume - uma wenza ngokuphumelelayo, thatha isithuthuthu ngokudala nobukhulu bendodana, uyibeke kahle bese uyibeka khona lapho, khona-ke ngeke kube khona izinkinga. Okungukuthi, ingozi ayikho esitokisini ngokwayo, kodwa kuphela ekusebenziseni kwayo okungalungile. Ingane enekhono elifanayo lingakwazi ukugubha esikhwameni sabakhubazekile, esikhungweni somkhumbi, ngisho nangomlenze wesondo lomama (okuvame ukwenzeka), uma umuntu engakhathaleli ngendaba yokuphepha.
Ngombono ofanayo ochwepheshe
Izinto ezintathu azikhumbuki: ukuthungula kunciphisa omama ukucindezeleka ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuhlala impilo egcwele, kunika ingane ingqondo ehlala njalo yokuzola nokukhathalela, yenza kube lula ukuxhumana okungokomqondo phakathi komama nengane. Futhi noma yikuphi abaphikisana nalesi sesekeli samanje esikhombisayo eshoyo, abasekeli bayo baqhubeka beqhubeka. Ukuthungatha, uma kusetshenziswe kahle, kungakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga eziningi zamama angafuni "ukuphuma" empilweni ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Emva kwakho konke, lokhu kusungulwa kwesikhathi sobuphakade, ngakho-ke, njengokungathi akukho okunye okubonakalayo kokunakekela izingane, kuhlolwe isikhathi. Futhi kuvunywe amama wamanje kanye nezingane zabo.