Ukuhlukanisa kanjani impahla ngokufanele uma kunesahlukaniso?

Ukuphila kwe-conjugal kugcwele izinto ezimangazayo. Labo owezolo bethandana kakhulu namuhla bafaka isicelo sokuhlukanisa. Futhi kulo mzuzu into esemqoka akukona ukwenza iphutha. Ngemuva kwakho konke, njengoba uyazi, thanda njengoba ifika ukuze ihambe, kodwa njalo ufuna ukudla. Umbuzo uvela: "Indlela yokuhlukanisa kahle impahla ngokuhlukana?" Ngizozama ukuphendula lo mbuzo kulesi sihloko.
Into yokuqala okudingeka uyiqonde ukuthi lesi sigaba sigxile kuphela kwisakhiwo esitholakalayo phakathi kobudlelwane obhalisiwe ngokusemthethweni. Okutholwe ngaphambi komshado futhi noma ngabe utshale imali kulesi sabelo, awuhambisani nokuhlukaniswa. Futhi kuhlu lwahlulo aluhlanganisiwe ukuthi impahla eyamukelwe ngesipho noma ifa lomunye womlingani. Ngokufanayo, ukuhlukaniswa kwempahla kungase kungabi ngobulili. Izizathu zingaba: ukwenqaba ukukhokhela i-alimony noma inombolo encane yazo, izingane noma izingane ezikhubazekile. Inkantolo nayo inelungelo lokunquma ukuthi bangakanani abazokwamukela uma kungabonakala ukuthi omunye wabo akakhathaleli ukuphepha, ukufihlwa, ukubhujiswa noma ukulimala, futhi wasebenzisa impahla ejwayelekile ekulimazeni umndeni.

Kodwa kukhona inketho enjalo. Cabanga ukuthi ngesikhathi somshado uthola isipho esivela kubazali bakho imali, owathenga nayo indlu. Kubonakala sengathi lena yindawo yakho siqu futhi ungumnikazi wayo ogcwele. Ayikho into enjalo. Indlu yathengwa ngesikhathi sokushada futhi lapho indawo ihlukaniswe yona idlula njengenhlangano evamile, okungukuthi, omunye oshade naye unamalungelo afanayo efulethini elinikeziwe njengoba wena. Kwakudingeka ukunikeza imali, kodwa ngokushesha indlu, khona-ke bekuyoba impahla yakho ngempela.

Esinye isibonelo. Indlu yathengwa ngesikweletu. Izimali zokukhokha zivame ukukhishwa bobabili bomshado, njengoba imali yomunye wabo ingavamile. Amabhange ayaqonda ukuthi kule minyaka engu-20-30, kanti isivumelwano sesibopho sivumelekile, umndeni ungahle uhlakazeke. Futhi ngakho amabhange aphikelela ekukwenzeni imali yokuboleka imali yomshado. Kulesi simo, indawo yokuhlala izohlukaniswa ngokulinganayo.

Iphuzu elilandelayo liyigunya. Ngaphambilini, amacala okuhlukaniswa kwempahla anqunywa ngamantshi, kodwa manje konke kushintshile. Ngamazwi anjalo kufanelekile ukufaka isicelo enkantolo yesifunda endaweni yokuhlala yommangalelwa. Futhi, uma kukhona ifulethi esakhiweni sokwahlukana, isicelo kumele sithunyelwe enkantolo yesifunda lapho indawo yokuhlala khona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indawo yomhlali uhlalaphi. Kwenzeka ukuthi kukhona izindlu eziningana ezingabonakali. Kulesi simo, ungafaka isicelo enkantolo yesifunda yendawo lapho kutholakala khona enye indawo yokuhlala. Ngokufanayo, icala lokuhlukaniswa kwempahla lingase lihlangane, okungukuthi, lifake isicelo sesahlukaniso.

Kukhona into enjalo njengokunciphisa izenzo. Imithi yesimiso esungulwe ngumthetho iminyaka emithathu kusukela ekuqothulweni komthetho. Futhi uma usuphuzile, futhi indawo ibhaliswe egameni lomunye oshade naye, zibeke icala. Kodwa isikhathi sokunciphisa singabuyiselwa. Izizathu ezihloniphekile zalokhu ukugula okukhulu (izihlobo) noma ukungabi nethuba lokuya enkantolo. Futhi izizathu ezifana nokuthi "Angazi ukuthi kunemikhawulo enjalo yezenzo" noma into enjalo ayihloniphi.

Futhi umzuzwana wokugcina. Lesi sigaba sibhekene kuphela nomhlaba ongowabo abashadile. Uma wakha ngesikhathi somshado, yiluphi uhlobo lwesakhiwo esingagunyaziwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi igaraji, inqolobane, njll. akukho inkantolo ezoyichitha. Izakhiwo ezinjalo zingaphansi kokubhujiswa noma ukugunyazwa.
Kodwa-ke ngifisa sengathi ngabe usuhlala isikhathi eside emshadweni, nokuthi ngeke ubhekane nale nkinga. Inhlanhla kuwe!

UTatyana Martynova , ikakhulukazi isayithi