Njalo ngonyaka, inani labomama abangashadile landa kakhulu futhi liyesaba ngezinombolo zabo. Ukwethusa nezinombolo zokuhlukanisa, ngoba ngezinye izikhathi ziphindwe kabili, noma ngisho kathathu ngaphezu kwenani lemishado ngonyaka. Kodwa iqiniso elibi kunawo wonke kuzo zonke zombili izimo kuphela into eyodwa: ingane ikhuliswe ngaphandle kobaba. Futhi ungikholelwe, kwakungenandaba naye ukuthi ubaba wayesekho noma ushiye yini kamuva, iqiniso, njengoba likusho, lihlala liyiqiniso. Akukhona nje ukuphela kwezifiso zabantu, kodwa nezinhloso zezingane, ezingaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo abadala.
Phela, owesifazane ohlala ezandleni zakhe ngokucindezeleka okuhlangenwe nakho kwengane futhi uzizwa ukuvela kwezinkinga ezintsha - impahla, izindlu kanye nokuziphatha. Kodwa konke lokhu kuyisiqhathaniswa uma kuqhathaniswa nalokho ingane ezwayo futhi ezwayo. Uma ingane encane, mhlawumbe akaqondi ngokushesha ukuthi isimo siyingozi kangakanani, kodwa ingane endala ihlangabezana nokucindezeleka kwangempela, futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile izwa unecala kulokhu. Ngokusho kwengqondo yabantwana, ingane ekhulela emndenini ophelele isuka ekuhlangenwe nakho kobudlelwane kwabazali kanye nesibonelo sokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane babo emndenini wakhe ozayo. Ingane enjalo kulula ukuyijwayela emphakathini. Ngomntwana ongenayo ubaba, kuyisici sokuhlukaniswa, ukuhlukaniswa nokulungiswa okungalungile eqenjini.
Ukukhulisa ingane ngaphandle kobaba kuyinto enzima kakhulu, ikakhulukazi kumama. Kodwa uma ufuna nokutholakala kolwazi oluthile namakhono, ungakwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga.
Izici zemfundo yabantwana emindenini eyodwa yabazali
Uma ukhulisa indodana, khona-ke umsebenzi wakho uzoba ukulungisa izibonelo ezifanele ezinganeni zakho. Lezi zingaba amaqhawe e-movie, amaqhawe ezincwadi, futhi mhlawumbe abameli beqiniso besilisa phakathi kwezihlobo zakho eziseduze. Awudingi ukuqala ukusebenza "ukugqoka" ingane. Ngale ndlela, mqhubekele esimweni sesisulu noma ophukile. Akudingeki ukuba umntanakho angenakucabangela, kodwa kunalokho uzame ukumdonsa kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi, ukushayela i-nail banal ukuhlanza indlu, ukugeza izitsha nezinye izinhlobo zomsebenzi. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ukudumisa ingane nokuhlala umtshela ukuthi uyindoda ebaluleke kakhulu emndenini wabo nokuthi ngaphandle kosizo kuyoba nzima. Ngokuziphatha kwayo, umama kufanele, njengokungathi, aphakamise ingane ezenzweni ezithile, futhi ikakhulukazi ukumsiza, ngisho noma engakutholi konke okokuqala okokuqala. Lokhu kuzodinga ukubekezela nokunaka okuningi kuwe. Uma indodana yakho encane iqaphela ukuthi usizo lwakhe luyadingeka kakhulu futhi olufiselekayo kuwe, uzothatha isinyathelo futhi uthole injabulo enkulu kuyo. Phela, uzoqala ukuzizwa njengomuntu - ithemba nethemba lomama wakhe nomndeni wonke. Futhi kamuva ukuxilongwa kwakhula, "ingane engenayo ubaba" ngokujwayelekile izolahlekelwa ngokubaluleka kwayo.
Uma ukhulisa indodakazi, ekuboneni kuqala kubonakala sengathi isimo silula, ngoba intombazane isondelene njalo nomama wayo. Kodwa lapha kuvela izinkinga zokuqala. Ngentombazane, ukubaluleka kukababa kunkulu kakhulu kunomfana. Ubaba ngumuntu odlala indima yothisha obaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwendodakazi. Baba, lolu uhlobo lomuntu wokuqala ozovikela, uzwela futhi anikeze iseluleko esidingekayo futhi uzokwenza umqondo wokuthula nokuzethemba. Futhi ngokufanele, ukuhoxiswa noma ukungabi khona kukababa kungenza ukuthi ingane ibe yinkimbinkimbi noma ingabikho ukungafani ngokuphelele kobulili besilisa sonke. Kulezi zici udinga ukuvikela indodakazi yakho. Okokuqala, udinga ukutshela njalo indodakazi yakho ukuthi bonke abantu bahlukile futhi akubi neze, futhi kwenzekani kubo akusho neze ukuthi lokhu kuyiphutha labo - omama nabomama, ukuphila kwabantu abadala kuphela kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuvela ngezindlela ezahlukene kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izimo.
Ukukhulisa ingane kuyinkinga ehlala isikhathi eside, kodwa kusadingeka kunakekelwe nokuzinikezela ngokugcwele.