Ngakho-ke, ukukhulelwa kowesifazane eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu kuvame ukuhlelwa kunokuba kungavamile. Futhi ingane ingazalwa kokubili emndenini ophelele, futhi ngaphandle kobaba. Kulesi simo, owesifazane ubeletha umntwana, ngokuqaphela ngokugcwele. Ngakho-ke, akukho ukukhathazeka okuhlobene nobuhlobo emndenini, nomyeni wakhe, kule nkathi cishe akusoze kwenzeka. I-rationality yi-alpha ne-omega yalesi sizukulwane, izinzuzo zayo nokuqeda.
Inkinga
I-mummies yesikhathi esizayo yeminyaka engamashumi amathathu ivame ukukhohlwa ukuthi akuwona konke okusemandleni abo, ikakhulukazi imfihlakalo enjalo njengenkambo yokukhulelwa.
Isixazululo
Into esemqoka yokukhulelwa kowesifazane eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu ukuvusa inselele enhle. Izinhlelo kufanele zakhiwe ngesisekelo sezinzwa "lapha futhi manje", hhayi ngokuhlola iziqephu zamasonto onke noma zesayensi. Ukwazi ukuthi indlela enengqondo kunoma yiluphi ibhizinisi - ukukhathazeka komuntu wesifazane, izihlobo nabangani bangazama ukukuphatha, ukuthatha izinsolo zikahulumeni ezandleni zabo. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala kufanele wenze okuthandayo, hhayi ukuthi wonke umuntu uyeluleka. Uma ufuna ukusebenza, futhi akulimazi ngempela ingane, sebenza. Ngifuna ukuhamba-ngihamba, ngishayela imoto, ngidle ukudla okuthile - udle.
Inkinga
Ngeshwa, uma owesifazane ekhulelwe ngamashumi amathathu, kunzima kakhulu ukugcina intombazane engaphezu kwentombazane eneminyaka engu-20 ubudala. Kwabaningi besifazane, lokhu kuyisizathu esiyinkimbinkimbi sezinkinga. Futhi ngaphambi kwalokho le nkinga izovela. Futhi emisongweni yengozi yokuphucula ukwanda kuphela.
Isixazululo
Kulokhu, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi isisindo sibhalwe izinyanga ezingu-9 futhi "sishiya" ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ngesikhumbuzo sokuqala somntwana noma yikuphi owesifazane, uma efunwa, ufika ngendlela efanele ngokomzimba. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane akufanele ikhohlwe ngenhloso yakhe yokuba nesibalo esincane, hhayi ukuzidela yena futhi hhayi ukulungisa amakhilogremu engeziwe ngokuthi manje, njengoba usuvele ebeletha owesifazane, isekela lingakwenza.
Inkinga
Ukukhulelwa komfazi oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu kungaphenduka futhi kubi, izazi ze-psychologists, bakholelwa ukuthi uma beqoqa lonke ulwazi, isimo siyobe sesingaphansi kokulawula kwabo ngokuphelele - bayakwazisa futhi benze iziphetho akubi nakakhulu kunodokotela ochwepheshe. Ukwengeza emlandweni wezokwelapha wabangane bakhe, "ngomusa womphefumulo", akukho lutho olutshela ngokuzalwa, ngaphandle kokusabisa, umama ozayo uzoqala ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngokukhulelwa okuqhubekayo, kodwa ngomphumela wokubeletha. Futhi ekhanda lakhe elizwakalayo livuthwe izixazululo ezahlukene, isibonelo: "Ukubeletha ngaphansi kwe-anesthesia, futhi ngokusebenzisa i-cearean." Kunzima ukuthi odokotela baqede lokho kwaziswa, futhi lokhu kubangela izinkinga eziningi.
Isixazululo
Ukuqoqa ulwazi ngokuqinisekile kuyinto ewusizo. Kodwa udokotela usabonakala nakakhulu, ngoba isimo ngasinye sihlukile ngendlela yaso. Kungcono ukuthola udokotela ozothembeka ngokuphelele. Futhi eselulekweni sezintombi ezinolwazi akuzona iqiniso eyokugcina. Uma wenza lokhu, uzosebenzisa amangqamuzana amaningi anesisindo. Izintombi ezinokuhlangenwe nakho zingcono "ukusebenzisa" njengomthombo wolwazi mayelana nodokotela abahle.
Inkinga
Ngemva kokuhlela futhi "kwenziwe" ukukhulelwa komama eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu, ngokushesha baqala ukwakha engqondweni yabo impilo yonke yengane yabo engakazalwa.
Futhi njengoba umsebenzi oyinhloko womama wesikhathi esizayo eminyakeni yokugcina ihlala emkhakheni wezenhlalakahle, ikusasa lomntwana liphinde lifanekiselwe ukuphakama kwesiteleka somphakathi. Umama uhlela kusengaphambili amaphuzu wengane, izintshisekelo zakhe, izifiso zakhe, ukuzilibazisa, ukufuna inkulisa, isikole, isikhungo ngisho nomsebenzi. Amantombazane akhethwa ngokushesha yizigilamkhuba ezivela kubalingani abafanelekayo - amadodana amantombazane abo. Ukucabanga okunjalo nokukhulelwa komuntu wesifazane eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu kunamakhono angaphili kanye nezifiso zowesifazane uqobo. Ngokuzibeka phezu kwengane, ungakwazi ukuphulukisa impilo yakhe yonke, esikhundleni sokuzikhethela komntwana ngezinhloso zakhe.
Isixazululo
Ukuphupha ngekusasa kufanele kwenziwe ngendlela efanele. Uma nje uNkulunkulu eyazi ukuthi ingane izozalwa kanjani futhi ikhule - umfana noma intombazane, umculo noma ezemidlalo, amahloni noma amahloni, kuyafaneleka ukuveza izinguqulo ezahlukene zokuthuthukiswa kwezenzakalo. Isibonelo, namuhla ungaphupha, ukuthi impilo izokhula kanjani nentombazane enesizotha, futhi kusasa - enkundleni engenakulinganisela ehamba ngayo yonke ubuso bayo.
Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane izalwa kanjani, okokuqala udinga umama ofudumele, ngokomzwelo, ongokomzimba. Lezi zimfanelo azanele abesifazane abasha banamuhla, abahlala ngaphezulu benesizathu kunenhliziyo. Mhlawumbe amandla angabonakali maduzane azothatha umama osemncane ukuba asebenze.
Inkinga
Ukungazinaki isimo sakho siqu. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi umama olindelekile asetshenziselwa ukusebenza kanzima ukuthi angakulungeli (angeke) anciphise umthwalo. Uhlala ngasekupheleni kwikhompyutheni, iqhuma kuya komunye umkhawulo womhlaba ... Ukukhulelwa okuqinile - kuhle! Uma lona wesifazane engakhohlwa ukuzilalela yena futhi enganaki izifo ezivela, okungase kube yingozi kamuva.
Isixazululo
Ngezinye izikhathi kunezimo lapho kudingeka ukwazi ukushiya umsebenzi "uyeke" futhi unikeze kuqala empilweni.
Ukuzalwa komntwana
Owesifazane, ejwayele iqiniso lokuthi ukuphila kushaya isihluthulelo, kunzima ukuhlala ekhaya ngebheyi. Umsebenzi wakhe ngalesi sigaba ukuthola isikhathi sokukhulumisana ngokomzwelo nomntwana, ngokucacile uhlela isimiso somsebenzi wesikhathi esizayo.
Kubantwana bebhizinisi bamanga kuqala kokungabikho caress, ukuthinta, ukuxabana, ukuhlangana, okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangene okukhanyayo. Umama kufanele akhumbule lokhu njalo (ungabhalela ngisho nakumhleli), bese konke kuzokwenza kahle ngomntanakho.
Ungabonisi ingane ukuthi izidingo ezidlulele. Kufanele aqiniseke ukuthi awuyithandi impumelelo, kodwa njengawo, "ngokungavumelani." Uma umntwana womakhelwane eqala ukuhlala noma ekhuluma ngaphambili, akusho ukuthi uqobo lwakho luyiziphukuphuku, luya lubi kakhulu, futhi alusebenzi okuningi naye. Izinga lentuthuko ezinganeni ngabanye, futhi lihlukile eminyakeni eminingi yokuphila. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi isikhathi esiningi sokuvuka ingane kufanele idlale, futhi ungavakashele ukuphishekela okungapheli kokuthuthukiswa.
Ungasivumeli ukuba sidlale ku-rationality yethu!
Ungaqhubeki mayelana nomyeni, owakhohlisa ukuba ushiye umsebenzi, ephikisana ngokuthi uma owesifazane ekhulelwe ngamashumi amathathu, udinga ukuphumula ngaphezulu. Ukubamba usuku lonke eduze kwefulethi ngembatho yokugqoka akunakwenzeka ukukulethela impilo eningi nenjabulo. Nguwe kuphela onquma ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ukukhulelwa kwakho. Uma uyeka ukuba ngokwakho, futhi uthola iseluleko sabanye, usengozini yokuthukuthela nokukhathazeka.