Abesifazane abaningi banesithakazelo embuzweni wokukhulelwa eminyakeni engu-40 futhi kuyingozi kangakanani?
Ochwepheshe abafanelekile bacabanga ukuthi iminyaka engcono kakhulu futhi ephephile yokukhulelwa kwengane, ineminyaka engama-20 kuya kwengu-24. Kodwa ngalesi sikhathi abesifazane abaningi abakulungele ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo wokuba umama. Abanye besifazane, ababengabantwana beminyaka engama-50-60-yeyikhulu leminyaka elidlule phakathi nalesi sikhathi, babezizwa befana nentsha, hhayi owesifazane ogcwele. Lolu shintsho engqondweni yomfazi lusho ukuthi abesifazane bafinyelela ekuvuthweni ngokomzwelo eminyakeni eyishumi kuphela emva kokufinyelela ekufikeni kwenani lokukhulelwa. Kuze kube manje, kungashiwo ngokuqiniseka ukuthi owesifazane owakhulelwa okokuqala eneminyaka engama-35 akasengozini.
Ososayensi bathi owesifazane oye wahlala enempilo enempilo eneminyaka engama-40, uma engakaze ahlaselwe isisu futhi akayena wesifazane ongeyinyumba, khona-ke unekhono eliphakeme lokuthi umntwana ozayo uzobe enempilo, njengowesifazane obeletha eneminyaka engu-20.
Ukukhulelwa eneminyaka engama-40 akukwazi ukuphepheka ngokuphelele futhi kuphelele, kodwa ingozi ayikho kakhulu njengoba abesifazane becabanga ngakho, futhi ezimweni eziningi ingozi ingancishiswa. Kule minyaka, kunengozi yezinkinga ezihlobene ne-fibroids ne-endometriosis.
Kodwa-ke, zonke lezi zingozi zingancishiswa uma uhlela ukukhulelwa esikhathini esizayo, lungiselela ifomu elijwayelekile ngokomzimba, uzilungiselele noma uzivocavoca, njll.
Phakathi namasonto okuqala angu-12 okukhulelwa, ikusasa lomntwana lihlanganisa zonke izitho eziyisisekelo. Ochwepheshe abafanelekile bakholelwa ukuthi phakathi nalesi sikhathi lapho ingane ezayo izobe isengozini kakhulu futhi uma phakathi nalesi sikhathi owesifazane okhulelwe eyokudla kahle, ungathathi utshwala, ungabhemi, usebenzise imishini yokuzivocavoca, uthathe isisindo samavithamini adingekayo kumama olindelekile, khona-ke amathuba inkambo yokukhulelwa okujwayelekile kanye nokuzalwa kwengane enempilo kuzokwandisa izikhathi eziningana. Kodwa kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kunezinamba zokuphikisana eziningana zokuzivocavoca kwezokwelapha.
Uma owesifazane ehlola kahle izinga lokubeka ingozi, kuzosiza kakhulu owesifazane oneminyaka engu-40 ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka, okungaholela ezinkingeni ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Uma owesifazane okhulelwe ekhumbula njalo ukuthi uyagula noma uzogula, khona-ke angakwazi ukugula, ngoba imizwelo eqinile ingabangela ushintsho lwezinto eziphilayo emzimbeni wethu. Uma owesifazane oneminyaka engu-40 eqala ukukhetha ukubeletha ingane, uma ngabe kuvela izinkinga zokuqala zokuthuthukiswa kokukhulelwa, kufanele abonisane nodokotela ngokushesha.
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zezinzuzo zokukhulelwa ekuphileni kwamuva. Abesifazane abanquma ukuba umama yizona ezilungele ukukhulelwa, ukubeletha nokukhulisa umntwana.
Kukhona nobufakazi besayense bokuthi abesifazane asebekhulile abaxhomeke ekuziphatheni kwengqondo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa futhi bevame ukubhekana nezingxabano zangaphakathi. Esikhathini seminyaka engamashumi amane, abesifazane baqeqeshwa kakhulu futhi impilo yabo ihlelekile.