"Akunjalo!" - Abesifazane abahlakaniphile bayokuphendula, ngubani olula futhi odlalayo, ngisho nangaphandle kokuhle, athola uthando nokunakekelwa kwamadoda.
"Akunjalo!" - nezengqondo zezokwelapha, ezibhekene nezinkinga zokuhluka kobulili ...
Thina, besifazane, siyazi njalo ukuthi indoda kufanele ibe yiphi: ukuqina, ukuzimela nokuzimela. Ngakho-ke, akukho lutho lokukhuluma ngalo, ukwakha ukuncoma nokudumisa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lapha siphutha ... Abesifazane abahlomile ngokulandela ukuthi indlela eya enhliziyweni yabo yilezi kuphela "ezindlebeni," okungukuthi, ngokubonga, ngesizathu esithile siqinisekile ukuthi emadodeni lolu hlobo lokunaka alunamsebenzi ngokuphelele. Eqinisweni, amadoda angama-99 kwabangu-100, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi angazethemba kanjani, ezingeni elingenakuqhathaniswa abalambile ukuvuma kwethu.
Kodwa, uma kubongwa ngokubambisana kuyisizathu esengeziwe sokubonisa, ukunambitha amagama ambalwa aphathayo ngokuthandwa kwakho, bese kuba amadoda lokhu kuyisisusa sokwenza. Futhi lapha ukuncoma kuthola amandla emilingo ngempela. Awudingi noma yiziphi izinkondlo nezothando: ukunconywa okwesikhathi esifanele futhi kuhlelwe kahle kunokwenza i-uvolnya yokugcina i-Terminator kanye ne-inveterate kakhulu uDon Juan kuze kube phakade ubophe isiketi esisodwa kuphela. Futhi konke ngoba amadoda ethu anamandla angeke aphile ngaphandle kokuthi "adle" ukuvunywa kwethu nokuhlonishwa kwethu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuncoma akuyona amanga. Kuyinto nje ukugqama okuncane kwamagugu. Noma iqiniso elibukhali, litshela ngesikhathi.
Ngokuncintisana tshela ukuncoma - uhlobo lwesayensi. Ake sithi ingane yakho ayikwazi ukuxazulula inkinga elula kumfizikiki nganoma iyiphi indlela. Usabela kanjani? Ngokuqinisekile kunjalo: "Kungani uyisiwula kangaka, awukwazi ukwenza lutho wena ngokwakho!". Futhi ungasho ngokungafani: "Ukudumisa, ungumuntu ohlakaniphile kimi, le nkinga ingumfana nje." Zama futhi, kufanele uphumelele. " Futhi empeleni kuvela. Okufanayo namadoda. Noma uthi: "Awu, kufanele, uqale ucabange phansi ekhishini ukuwageza" noma "Yebo, umfana onjani omuhle kimi, ngicabanga nje, futhi usuvele uyenzile!" Ingabe uzizwa umehluko?
Okubaluleke kakhulu ithoni oyibonga. Ukulalela izingane ngokwemvelo kuyakwazisa kakhulu amadoda kunalokho, isibonelo, izwi eliphansi eliphansi lihloselwe yena yedwa.
Akusikho into engavumelekile futhi ukucasula lapho thina besifazane singaqondi ukuthi kungani sivame ukufakazela udumo olubhekiswe kubathandekayo. "Ngiyaxolisa, angikusoli ukuthi uhle kakhulu ekusingatheni imishini yokudoba: udonga luphelele futhi umgodi ukhona futhi iminwe isuke iqinile!". Ungathanda yini ukuncoma okunjalo? Vumelana ukuthi kuleli fomu selivele lifana nento ethile ngokuphambene ngqo.
Esinye iphutha elivamile: abesifazane abaningi bayahamba ngokuncoma ngokuncoma, bewashayela ngaphandle nangaphandle. Mhlawumbe, ziqondiswa enye yezimiso ezimbili: noma "awukwazi ukulimaza iphalishi ngamafutha", noma "umhlobiso omuhle womuntu yiziphuphutheki ezindlebeni". Zomi zombili lezi zikhundla, mhlawumbe, ziyiqiniso ngamunye ngamunye, kodwa kuphela akusebenzi ekunconyeni. Kufanele zikhulunywe kuphela ngesizathu. Uma kungenjalo, othandekayo (uma, eqinisweni, engeyena oyisiwula) maduze uzoyeka ukukholelwa futhi udumo luzolahlekelwa amandla akhe omlingo.
Ukubonga "okusebenzayo" akulimazi ukwazi isimo nemikhuba yomuntu okuhloswe kuyo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzinqumela wena, ukuhlola ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo ezibaluleke kakhulu kule ndoda ethile. Mhlawumbe, ukubopha isilenge - kuye okuvamile kanye nesiko. Kodwa ekuklanyweni kwezwe, akukabi kakhulu, futhi ukuthi uqaphele impumelelo yakhe kule ndawo kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Kodwa kukhona amaphethini jikelele. Isibonelo, kunoma yimuphi umuntu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlola izimfanelo zakhe zobuchwepheshe. Noma ucansi (kodwa lokhu, bonga uNkulunkulu, abesifazane ngokwabo futhi baqagele!). Futhi, bathi, ikhono lokupheka kahle - cha. Ngakho kungani udumise ngenxa yokuthi awuketshezi amaqanda, uma ungathola enye incomo. Isibonelo, ukuthi uhlakaniphile kangakanani, uhlobo luni lwezandla onegolide, njll.
Ngokuvamile amadoda athi ukuncoma owesifazane ngobuhle bakhe, ikhono lakhe lokupheka, ukwamukela izivakashi, izimbali ezibelethayo, okungukuthi, kumdumise ngezimfanelo zezimfazi. Ngakho-ke, thina, besifazane, kufanele sikhumbule: ukuncoma komuntu kufanele kwenziwe kuphela ngokuhlola izimfanelo zakhe zomzimba kuphela. Lokho okujwayelekile kubhekwe njengendoda. Ngendlela, ukuncoma kungenziwa ngaphandle kwamagama, ngokungenasisekelo. Kwanele ngesikhathi esifanele nje ukuthinta izandla zothandekayo wakho noma ukubheka ngendlela ekhethekile, ukumamatheka ... Kulungile, le arsenal ingcono kwabesifazane, akunjalo?
Ingabe ufuna ukuhlola ukuthi yini oyithandayo? Khona-ke menze abe ukuncoma okungamanga. Indoda engavamile, enhle ngokuzihlekisa, mhlawumbe uphendule imali efanayo. Uma ephuthumayo, eqondile futhi ebona impilo emnyama nangomhlophe, khona-ke ngokuqinisekile uzothukuthela ngokuthi "uyiphutha ngesiphukuphuku." Uma umthandi wakho ejabula ngokuthokoza ngokubonga kwakho, ke ... Kuneziphetho eziningana, ziqoqe noma yiziphi zazo.
Kodwa ngokungathí sina: empilweni kunezikhathi eziningi ongayenza futhi kufanele udumise othandekayo wakho. Futhi into eyinhloko ukuthi awudingi ukusungula noma yini, kwanele nje ukwenza kube mnandi! ..