Lapho ingxoxo ikhuluma ngomuntu ongekho omuhle, ngokushesha emicabangweni yakho uthi: "Angikwazi ukummisa!". Kulokhu, sikhuluma ngokungahambisani kwengqondo. Kodwa-ke, kuthiwani uma wena nomlingani wakho behamba kahle kakhulu ohlelweni olungokomoya, kodwa umzimba awukwazi ukwamukela lo muntu othandekayo, ngenkathi usabela ngokubuhlungu futhi ube nobuhlobo obuseduze?
Phakathi neminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye kwakukhona amacala lapho abesifazane bebhekene nezinto ezingezansi ezidakamizweni ezitholakala kumuntu wesilisa. Ngokuvamile, ezikhathini zanamuhla, lezi zimo zikhula ngokushesha. Uma ukwanda kwenani lezinkinga zomzimba, kokubili imvelo engalungile kanye nokuwohloka kwempilo yesizwe kwakungathonywa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iziqu ze-allergists, nazo, azimeli endaweni efanayo, ngoba manje zihlolisisa izifo ezithathelwanayo kulezo zimo lapho ngaphambili kwakuyi-malaise encane evamile. Ngokusho kwezibalo, owesifazane wesithathu wesifazane akazwa kahle kakhulu ngemva kokusondelana, nakuba ezwa kabi, okukhulunywa ngevolumu , ukuthi unomdlavuza kuye. Yini okufanele uyenze uma kunenkinga phakathi kwakho nomthande wakho?
"Ukungahambi kahle" kokungalingani okulula
Ngokuvamile, ukusabela okweqile kumuntu kubonakala ngokubuyiswa kwezidakamizwa emva kokusondelana kocansi, ukushisa nokushaywa. Kodwa kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi kungase kube nemiphumela ebuhlungu: kusuka emkhunjini nase-urticaria kuze kulahlekelwe ukwazi nokukhukhumeza. Uma sikhuluma mayelana nokusabela kokungezwani komzimba ku-nasperm, khona-ke akufani nezezinye izinhlobo ze-allergies nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kungathuthuka kancane kancane, kancane kancane kuholele emiphumeleni enzima kanye nezinkinga.
Lapha, isici esicasulayo singenza noma yini - kungaba amaprotheni aqukethwe kumuntu wesilisa, futhi mhlawumbe imithi ayithathayo, nokudla okudlayo okukudlayo. Akunakwenzeka ukusho ukuthi nini, nini futhi hlobo luni wesifazane inkinga yalolu hlobo luyovela. Kodwa-ke, uma i-swami isivele isenzekile, ke ungaphelelwa ithemba.
Ikhondomu akuyona ikhambi
- EMelika, odokotela bayelulekwa ngisho nangaphambi kokushada ukuthi bahlole ukubambisana kokuhambisana. Yiqiniso, lokhu akukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi indlela yokuphuma kwalesimo, ngoba ukushintsha inqwaba yabalingani ukuze uthole ukuhambisana ngokomzimba akusizi lutho. Kubalulekile futhi ungabheka izinketho ezizokusiza ukuba uhambisane nomuntu osondelene ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
- Indlela elula ukusebenzisa ikhondomu. Kodwa kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi uma ukungezwani komzimba kuphawulwe uma sekuvele kakade, khona-ke ubuhlobo obunqunu obungasondelene bobulili buzoholela ekufanayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma i-sperm ifika kwezinye izingxenye zomzimba, i-urticaria ingase ikhule ukuvuvukala. Ungase ube ne-allergy to izinwele nesikhumba somlingani. Ngakho-ke, kusadingeka ukuya kudokotela futhi ngandlela-thile silwe nalesi sifo.
- Uma une-itch noma ukushisa kwesenzo esenzweni sokuqala socansi, khona-ke thumela ngokushesha ehhovisi labesifazane. Yiqiniso, lokhu kungase kungabi ukusabela kumuntu wesilisa, lezi zimpawu ziyizifo zezifo eziningi, kodwa udinga ukuya kudokotela noma kunjalo. Ukuze uthole ukuxilongwa okunembile, vakashela i-allergen no-urologist.
- Ngokuvamile, udokotela ubeka i-jelly enjengokubonakaliswa okujwayelekile kwemizimba: uxwayisa ukuba ayeke ukuxhumana ne-allergen isikhathi esithile, thatha ama-antihistamine njalonjalo. Ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ukwelashwa okungahambi kahle kunesidoda sowesilisa, udokotela angakuthumela ukuba uqhube uvivinyo lwe-allergen.
- Kukhona indlela eyodwa ebizwa nge-ISGC, ukuthi owesifazane wenza okuthiwa i-immunotherapy ethize. Amahora amaningana (amabili kuya kwabathathu) njalo ngemva kwemizuzu engamashumi amabili, owesifazane osesiswini ubeka umlingani othile wesilisa ngobulili, kanti kancane kancane ukwandisa ukuhlushwa kanye nenani le-spermatozoa.
Ukungahambisani kunganqotshwa
Uhlobo oluvame kakhulu lokuhlukunyezwa kwamadoda ukubhujiswa kwe-spermatozoa engena ngesiswini. Lokhu kwenzeka ngesizathu esilula ukuthi i-"scapegoat" ithatha owesifazane into yangaphandle, ngenkathi ikhiqiza izinto ze-antisperm, uma umuntu engakusho kanjalo, ngaphambi kokufinyelela esibelethweni, i-sperm iyafa, kanti owesifazane akakwazi ukukhulelwa.
Uma owesifazane ekhulelwe, kodwa engaboni, khona-ke lo mbhangqwana udinga ukubhekana nokuhlolwa kokuhambisana: amahora ambalwa emva kokusondelana, owesifazane uthatha isitibungu sezitho zangasese, ukucacisa i-spermatozoa ephilayo kuyo. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, ezincane i-spermatozoids, kungenzeka ukuthi le mibhangqwana ayihambisani ne-immunoassay.
Owesifazane ophupha ngokukhulelwa kufanele avikelwe izinyanga eziyisithupha (njengoba odokotela bethi), ukuze ama-antibodies ayeke ukwakha noma ukusebenzisa i-insemination, lapho i-sperm ifakwa ngqo ngaphakathi kwesibeletho. Uma, emva kwalokhu, owesifazane engaphumelelanga ukukhulelwa, abesebenzisa i-in vitro fertilization, okuyinto leyo insikazi exhunyiwe ku-imbulunga ku-tube yokuhlola kanti umbungu usuvele usekwe esibelethweni.
Ngeshwa, abesifazane abaningi abakhulelwe ngale ndlela bahlangabezana nokuphazanyiswa kokukhulelwa ezinkathini zokuqala. Uma odokotela bengatholi ezinye izimbangela zokukhulelwa kwesisu, khona-ke owesifazane uthola ukuthi unesifo "sokukhulelwa kwesisu". Ukuze ulondoloze ukukhulelwa nokungalingani kwamangqamuzana omyeni, odokotela basebenzisa izijovo ze-leukocyte ezigxile kumyeni, kanti umzimba uqala ukulwa nabo ngokuqinile futhi isimiso somzimba sokuzivikela sisaphazamiseka embryo, esivele isathuthuka. Njengomthetho, esimweni esinjalo, ungavame ukuthwala futhi ubelethe umntwana.
Usho ukuthini isazi sengqondo?
Akunakwenzeka ukuqeda imithi ngaphandle kokuthola imbangela yangempela. Uma umzimba uphenduka ngobuqotho, bese ungaphakathi, kunombhikisho, okuvame ukungazi lutho. Imvelo ayikwazi ukukhohliswa: ukusabela kokwenqatshwa kunoma yikuphi ukubonakala kubonakala ngaphandle. Ngokuvamile, uma owesifazane ethatha isenzo sembewu yomuntu, khona-ke nguye lo muntu ongezingeni elingathandeki elimjabulisayo (mhlawumbe ngelinye ilanga wakukhubekisa, likulimaza ngokwengqondo), ukulahla ubuhlobo bobulili naye ngokuyisisekelo, icala ngamadoda. Ngezizathu zeqiniso, kukhona ubuhlobo obubi phakathi kwabazali, icala elibangelwa amadoda asebekhulile ebuntwaneni noma ebusheni. Esikhathini sokugcina, owesifazane akafuni ukwenza ucansi, kodwa engaboni.
Futhi lona wesifazane angamthanda futhi amthande indoda yakhe, kodwa umzimba uzokhuluma ngenye into, kuyilapho uchitheka ngokumangalisa ebuhlotsheni obuseduze, uthathe njengenqubo yokubhujiswa.
Noma yikuphi ukusabela okuphawulekayo kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi "ayeke" emzimbeni wesifazane. Umzimba ubonakala uthi: "Ungenzi lokhu, yeka, cabanga ngakho!". Ngakho-ke, ukubhekana nale nkinga, udinga ukwethembeka nawe bese uphendula imibuzo elandelayo: ngiphatha kanjani? Ngabe ngithembela indoda yami nobuhlobo bethu? Ngenzani ngaleya mlingani? Uma ubucabangele ngempela futhi ufike esiphethweni sokuthi akuzona zonke izinto ezibushelelezi njengoba wena - okungenani umbuzo owodwa uphendule kabi, mhlawumbe mhlawumbe yilapho inkinga yakho ikhona khona, sebenze kuyo.
Ukuze uziqonde kangcono wena futhi uqonde konke, thintana nodokotela. Njengomthetho, lapho ukhuluma nomuntu wezokwelapha, izimo ezinjalo ziphakama ukuthi usukhohliwe isikhathi eside, ubuyisane nazo, futhi awuzange wazi ukuthi yilokho okwakususa inkinga yokuphendula okweqile. Uma usususa ukwesaba ukusebenzelana nendoda, xolela abantu abakulimazayo, uqonde imizwa yakho kumlingani wakho, ungakwazi ukukhohlwa kuze kube phakade ukuthi unesizathu semithi yesisu, ngokuphambene nalokho, uzothola injabulo kwezocansi nomthandekayo wakho .