Okwesibili umuntu oyinqaba ngokungazelelwe waba umngane nomngane wakhe. Akukhathaleki ukuthi lokhu akulona uhlobo lwakho: akukho ukubukeka noma ukuziphatha kudlala indima ekhethekile ...
Ukuba khona kothando ekuqaleni kokubona kuyinkinga engxabano. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi emasekhondini ambalwa okuqala kunomdlandla kanye nokukhanga kuphela, futhi uthando - umqondo ojulile, ovivinywa isikhathi. Kodwa-ke, njengoba kuvele, azikho abaningi abazongabaza. Ngokwenhlolovo eyenziwe yi-All-Russian Center for the Study of Public Opinion, abantu abangama-59% baseRussia bakholelwa ukuthi kukhona uthando ekuqaleni, kanti u-45% bathandana okwamanje. Iningi lazo zonke izidakamizwa phakathi kwabasha nabashadile futhi, ngokumangalisayo, abantu abaneminyaka engama-45 kuya ku-59 ubudala. Abantu abaningi bavame ukukholelwa ukuthi uthando yilokho abesifazane abavame ukucabanga ngakho. Vumelana, wonke amafilimu, ama-serials, athandwa yizocansi ezifanele, asekelwe ezindabeni zothando. Kodwa, njengoba kwenzeka, amadoda ethu ahlukumezayo avame ukuthandana, futhi abangaphezu kwesigamu sabesifazane (52%) bathi bangabomuzwa lo mzwa. Noma kunjalo, ukuba khona kothando ekuqaleni kokubona kubonakala ngenani elilinganayo labesifazane nabesilisa.
Lokhu kungokwethu. Futhi bacabangani ngalolu daba kwamanye amazwe? Eyaziwa ngenxa yokuqina nokucindezela kwabo, abaseBrithani, abavame ukukholelwa ukuthi abesifazane nabangempela bangabonakali imizwa yabo, yebo, bayaqiniseka ukuthi uthando ekuboneni kokuqala alukho. Bacwaninga imibhangqwana engaphezu kuka-100 eBrithani futhi bamemezela ngokuzibophezela ngokugcwele ukuthi esikhathini sokuqala somhlangano kukhona isihawu noma isifiso. Ngokombono wabo, uthando luyisikhathi sokuvivinywa futhi luvele kuphela uma abashadile bezanazana kahle. Lokhu kufanele kuthathe okungenani ngonyaka. Kodwa amaNgisi abuye aqiniseke ukuthi amadoda angakwazi uthando olunamandla nangaphezulu kunabesifazane.
I-American "dream factory" ihlale ijabulela amafilimu lapho umndeni ujabule khona futhi "ipharadesi endlini". Kubonakala sengathi alukho isizwe sothando nesithando. Kodwa, akusona imfihlo ukuthi izwe le-cinema nezwe langempela azivamile ukufana. Kodwa baseMelika bangabantu abathandekayo, kanti u-51% wabo bayaqiniseka ukuthi alukho uthando ekuqaleni kokubona. Kukholelwa ukuthi lokhu kungenzeka, 47%, futhi wazizwa lo mzwelo kuphela ngo-28%. IWashington Post ibike ukuthi amadoda aseMelika, njengathi, athambekele kakhulu ekucabangeni ukuthi uthando olunjalo lukhona, ikakhulukazi isizukulwane esidala - kusukela eminyakeni engu-45 kuya kwengama-54. Yebo, abantu abasha okungenani kunabo bonke bakholelwa ekusenzeni okusheshayo kwemizwelo enjalo. Kodwa ososayensi kuleli zwe baye bakwazi ukuveza ngokwesayensi ukuthi uthando lukhona ngempela ekuboneni kuqala. Abacwaningi baseChicago bayaqiniseka ukuthi imizuzwana embalwa yanele ukuba umuntu ahambe othandweni olujulile. Futhi lo mzwa awusizo isikhathi esincane, futhi nakuba wawuzalwa ngezikhathi ezimbalwa, ungahlala iminyaka eminingi.
Vumelanisa, uthando luyinto encane kakhulu ebophezelekayo ekuloleni. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi imishado yenziwa ezulwini. Kwenzeka ukuthi abantu iminyaka eminingi bazibonakalisa bona ngokwabo kanye nabanye ukuthi uthando luyi-whim, isingeniso sabafelokazi abanesithukuthezi. Kodwa, ngelinye ilanga balahlekelwa amakhanda abo, futhi abakwazi ukuphika ukuthi ukhona. Uthando ekuboneni kokuqala yisipho esivela ezulwini, hhayi abantu abaningi abakwazi ukukuzwa. Ngakho-ke, ukubamba amehlo komunye umuntu, ungasheshi ukugijima uphinde ufihle. Mhlawumbe yilokho owake wawufuna, lowo ohloselwe ukuyisebenzisa yonke impilo yakho. Mhlawumbe uthando luyinto ngaphandle komuntu okungeke aphile. Uma kungenjalo, kungani izincwadi eziningi nezingoma zilotshwe ngakho, kungani zonke amafilimu ezitshela ngothando, futhi abesifazane abaningi bazizwa benesizungu uma kungekho muntu onothando noqondayo oseduze. Iqiniso lokuthi uthando lukhona ngempela uma uqala kuqala lunikeza ilungelo lokuba nethemba ukuthi ngolunye usuku ngeke kube khona umuntu oyedwa onesizungu, nhlobo, ukuze uthole umphefumulo wakho, ngezinye izikhathi kuthatha okwesibili.