Okokuqala, kunengqondo ukuqonda ukuthi yisiphi isizathu sesiyaluyalu nokuthi kungani usuvele usenqabeni yesahlukaniso. Ngokuvamile, umbhangqwana uxabana ngoba into ayifaneleki komunye nomunye. Kunezinhlobo eziningana zamadoda ezibangela ukukhathazeka okubi kumuntu wesifazane, ngakho-ke emndenini nasezingxabano eziningi, ukungqubuzana ngisho nesiphakamiso sokuhlukanisa.
- Abayeni abashisayo abanelisekile nganoma yisiphi isizathu, bavame ukwehla kumkakhe, bamemeza, bafunga, ngezinye izikhathi bangakwazi ukushaya itafula ngezibhamu zabo;
- abakwa-brawlers bayakwazi ukuhlela indawo kusukela ekuqaleni. Umsebenzi wabo oyinhloko ukuphonsa imizwelo emibi, ukuthola amandla komunye umuntu. Ngokuvamile abafazi bamadoda anjalo, bezama ukugcina umndeni, bonke behlupheka, bevumela ukuthonya;
- Abayeni abahlambalaza bathambekele ekuhlazululeni abesifazane, bebiza amagama angenakuqhathanisa, okwehlisa ukuzethemba;
- omanizer kungaba ukudlala ngothando namantombazane akho phambi kwamehlo akho, futhi kusukela emehlweni owesifazane ohlotshiswe kahle futhi omuhle balala. Mhlawumbe, ngokwenza lokhu, bafuna ukukukhombisa futhi ukuthi ukhokhele umyeni wakho kancane.
Ngokwezengqondo ze-psychologists, nanoma yibaphi amadoda ungathola ulimi oluvamile futhi ubuyele ubuhlobo obuseduze, udale ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe eduze kwesahlukaniso, ulondoloze umndeni, futhi unikeze izincomo ezilandelayo:
1. Ngokuvamile udumise oshade naye, ikakhulukazi emphakathini. Uyothokozisa ukuzwa ukuncoma, ikakhulukazi endaweni ebaluleke kakhulu kuye.
2. Njengoba uyazi, ukuhleka kuyindlela engcono yokucindezeleka. Thola izimo nezinto ongahle uhlale ngazo ndawonye. Ngendlela yokuhlekisa, phatha izimo eziyinkimbinkimbi nezinkinga.
3. Thola isikhathi nendawo yokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Akudingeki ukuba kube nokuphumula olwandle. Kwanele ukuya endaweni yokudlela noma ngezimpelasonto e-cottage. Into esemqoka ukuthi ube yedwa.
4. Ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho ubona ukukhwabanisa komlingani wakho, smile. Futhi njalo njalo uma ufuna ukususa lesi simo futhi uthuthukise isimo.
5. Zama ukuthinta umyeni wakho kaningi, ngengozi, ngengozi, ngokungabandakanyeki. Ukuthinta okungu-10 kuphela ngosuku kuzosiza ekuthuthukiseni isimo esinamandla.
6. Zama ukukhuluma okuningi, ikakhulukazi ezihlokweni ezikukhathazayo. Vumela lowo muntu aqaphele ukuthi ukunakwa kwakhe nemibono kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Musa ukufihla imizwa yakho, lokhu kuzokwenyusa futhi kuhoxise isimo.
7. Bhala uhlu lwezinto ozithandayo kumlingani wakho. Futhi gxila kulezi zimfanelo. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba ukhumbule ukuqala kobudlelwane bakho, ngenkathi lezi zici zobuntu zivusa imizwa emihle.
8. Amasiko omndeni kaningi kakhulu asindisa inyunyana. Cabanga ndawonye noma uhlele nomlingani umkhuba womndeni, okufanele ube umkhuba futhi ube njalo. Ngakho ungachitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye bese ukhuluma okuningi.
9. Yenza lokho umyeni wakho ayekulindele kuwe. Futhi nguwe kuphela owaziyo ngakho.
Uma wenza okungenani ezinye izincomo zingakapheli amahora angu-72, umphumela osheshayo uqinisekisiwe.
Ukulinganisela ngokomzwelo kungenye ingxenye ebalulekile yobudlelwane bomndeni. Ngesinye isikhathi, omunye wabangane bomshado uqala ukungabaza imizwa yokukhulumisana, naphezu kokuthi umndeni ulungile. Lokhu kubangelwa umehluko emandleni akhangayo ama-halves.
Ngamunye wethu unezici ezithile zezimfanelo ezibangelwa ukuzwelana kwabanye. Futhi siyazi kahle ngabo futhi singabandisa izikhathi eziningi. Kule minyaka, siyaqonda ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo okufanele zingaboniswa, nokuthi yikuphi, ngokuphambene nalokho, okubonisa. Ngisho nokukhwabanisa nokuhaha lapho kuxoxisana kuzama ukuphana ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuthi kunenzuzo.
Imibhangqwana eminingi yakha ubuhlobo babo esimisweni sokulingana kokukhangwa. Yingakho imishado eminingi engalingani ihlaselwa ezimweni eziningi: ekuqaleni ukungalingani. Futhi-ke umlingisi owaziwayo, owaziwayo, uthola esinye isifiso esinamandla angokomzwelo ofanayo, ngoba umkakhe wangaphambili ngokumelene nesizinda sakhe iba igundane elimpunga.
Imibhangqwana ekhushulwayo, ngenkathi kubusa ubuhlobo bayo, iyafana kokubili, kanye nezimfanelo zangaphakathi. Futhi uma ukufana kungekho, khona-ke amandla akhangayo ahlawuliswa ngenye into.
Kodwa yini okufanele uyenze lapho imizwelo iphuma, indlela yokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe, indlela yokuziphatha?
Kukhona ezinye izincomo ukuthi wonke umuntu kudingeka azi.
1. Qiniseka nomyeni wakho. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele usho masinyane zonke izimfihlo ezafihliwe ngaphambili, kodwa ukuzithoba kungasiza ukuzwa ubuhlobo obungokomoya futhi uqondane.
2. Ngokuvamile lapho uqala ubuhlobo, uthando ludidekile ngothando. Funda ukuqaphela le mizwa.
3. Cabanga ngokucacile ukuthi ubona kanjani umshado wakho nokuthi yini oyifunayo kumlingani wakho. Futhi mtshele ngakho, kufaka phakathi isici socansi.
4. Yibani! Phela, unomgomo ofanayo - ukulondoloza umndeni.
5. Yamukela umlingani wakho njengoba ekhona. Hlonipha umbono wakhe.
6. Khuthaza futhi uvume zonke izinguquko ezingcono kumlingani wakho, ubonise ngobumnene ukuhluleka kwawo nokusiza ukuzilungisa.
7. Sombulula izinkinga njengoba zivela. Ungabhubhisi ukubukeka kwabo futhi ungahlehlisi isinqumo sabo.
8. Izinkinga zixazulula ngokuthula, kaningi ziya ekunciphiseni.
9. Lalela umlingani wakho futhi uzwe!
10. Hlela impilo yakho yesikhathi esizayo ndawonye.
11. Ziqaphele, zikhangele!
12. Ubulili - enye yezinto ezibalulekile zokuphila komndeni. Ungabe umphika umlingani wakho ngokungenakuphika kulokhu.
13. Ukwazi ukucela intethelelo ngamaphutha akho bese uthethelela umlingani wakho.
14. Zama ukuzimela ngombono womunye umuntu, kuhlanganise nombono womlingani wakho. Ungamthobeli kuye.
15. Thola okungenani isifundo esisodwa esisodwa bese wenza isiko lomndeni.
16. Ukuze ubuhlobo obuvumelanayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqapha impilo yakho.
Ukungqubuzana phakathi kwabashadile kuyinkinga emndenini. Futhi ingaxazululwa kuphela uma kukhona imizwa yokukhulumisana futhi kukhona isifiso esifanayo sokulondoloza umndeni. Bheka ukuziphatha kwakho okuvela ngaphandle, hlaziya izenzakalo zakamuva ezenzeka emndenini. Mhlawumbe, nguwe owenza okuthile okungalungile. Ukubuyisela isimo sengqondo kuzosiza uthando, inhlonipho nokubekezela.
Ungadlala lo mdlalo: ukushintshana kwemizwelo emihle, isimo sengqondo esihle. Wena unikeza, kodwa ngokubuyisela kufanele uthole lokho okufunayo. Umndeni uyinkqubo enzima yomsebenzi, ukugcinwa kokulinganisela kudinga amandla amaningi, amandla, nokuhlakanipha. Futhi khumbula, isehlukaniso ngeke isixazulule izinkinga zakho. Ungashada futhi uhlukanise kaningi, kodwa ungatholi injabulo yomndeni. Kuye kumuntu futhi ukuyiqonda ngezimfanelo zakhe. Manje uyazi ukuthi ungasungula kanjani ubuhlobo nomyeni wakho eduze kwesahlukaniso, ukuze ulondoloze umndeni.