Kuphi?
Ngakho-ke, zonke izindiza, ezidluliselwa emuva, i-suitcase ivuliwe, ihhotela kanye nensimu eseduze kufundwe, ungaqala "ukuzingela". Uma ungowesibalo sabantu abasebenzayo nabangenamahloni besifazane, khona-ke ungathatha isinyathelo ezandleni zakho. Phela, unesikhathi esincane sokuthandana kweholidi. Uyabona, etafuleni elilandelayo kukhona umuntu othobekile? Noma mhlawumbe uzoba ngumlingisi oyinhloko eholidini lakho?
Kholelwa ukuthi amahloni kanye nomthetho wokuthi "umuntu uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala" angashiywa naye, futhi angene "ngokulimazayo" ngokuphepha. Umuntu ohlala eholidini wedwa uzojabula ngenkampani. Ikakhulukazi nentombazane enhle nenengqondo enjengawe. Uma yena, eqinisweni, engeyona inkulumo yakhe. Kodwa asithandi ngokweqile.
Uma ungumuntu othobekile, futhi, noma yini ongeke wenze isinyathelo sokuqala, ke, thatha "ukukhohlisa" futhi ulinde umuntu wamaphupho akho ukuba akufinyelele. Kulesi simo, ngeke kube okungcono kakhulu "ukudlala ngamehlo". Ukubona kwentombazane enesizungu, enhle futhi enesithukuthezi, kuyakudonsela ukunakwa kobulili obunamandla.
Ngakho-ke, ungajwayela noma yikuphi: ehotela, ogwini, ekuphumeni, e-cafe, epakini nakuyo yonke indawo, lapho ungaxhumana khona kuphela. Indawo enhle yokuhlangana iyinkampani yasebusuku. Umkhathi otholile futhi ojabulisayo kunokuzijwayeza kanye nokuzijabulisa okujabulisayo. Uma ufika enkampanini yamantombazane angama-gay, kuzokwenza ukuthi inqubo yokuqhathaniswa nobulili obuhlukile.
Kanjani?
Ngakho, into ekhethiwe (noma ukhethwe), isinyathelo sokuqala senziwe. Yini elandelayo? Futhi-ke, njengalesiveli esivamile, kodwa kuphela kwimodi esheshayo. Isibonelo, ubusuku bokuqala uchitha, uphuza ama-cocktails ambalwa, ukhuluma nganoma yini. Uyakunikela enombolweni, ngokungahambisani (noma, ngokuphambene, ngokumangalela) kisses esihlathini. Ngakusasa uchitha ndawonye. Hamba uhambo, ulele nje ogwini, njll. noma yisiphi isenzo esihlangene esizokusiza ukuba wazi kangcono kangcono.
Kusihlwa, isidlo sokuthandana, ukudansa okuncane futhi isimemo ekamelweni lakho (okwenu noma kuye, ukubheka ukuthi ubani osebenzayo futhi ozimisele kakhulu) ubheke izibani zedolobha lasebusuku noma olwandle ebusuku. Futhi-ke wena ngokwakho uyazi kahle ukuthi kwenzekani ngokulandelayo.
Into esemqoka encwadini yendawo yokubhuka yinto elula yokuba khona. Uyazi kahle, uhle (akukho ingxoxo yezinkinga ezinkulu, inselele yomhlaba, izinkinga emsebenzini), nesikhathi esihle futhi usebenzise kalula.
Uma kusetshenziselwa ukuxhumana, uyaqonda ukuthi umuntu unzima, futhi ufuna "i-adventure elula," awulandeli indlela. Ngokushesha uma umisa ukukhulumisana kwakho, kungcono, uma kungenjalo uzochitha iholide lakho enkampanini enhle. Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi sekuzungezile usuvele uhamba namadoda angamahle aphuziwe, ephupha ukukwazi kangcono.
Inkaba yendawo yokubhuka inezinzuzo zayo: ukungabi nokuzibophezela, ithuba lokuba yilowo nalowo, ithuba lokuphumula ukuze abe namanoveli amaningana. Uma, ungahle uhlele ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo nomuntu oyithandayo, ungabonakala phambi kwakhe ngesimo somfundisi oqinile ovela edolobhaneni lesifundazwe noma ngesimo sekhanda lesifazane elikhathele.
Kubalulekile ukulandelela lokho okushoyo. Ikakhulukazi, uma "udlala indima yomunye umuntu." Ungatshele umthandi wakho indaba ezoba okungafani nesithombe sakho. Futhi ungase uzithole usesimweni esingathandeki. Vumela lo muntu athi okungaphezu kwakho. Ngakho uzoba nethuba lokumazi umlingani wakho kangcono, ugcine imfihlakalo kuye.
Ungathembisi lutho! Ukuthi uzokuza kumvakashela, ukuthi uzoxhumana, futhi ube "nobuhlobo obunzima". Isikhathi sizobeka konke endaweni yaso. Kuphela emva kwesikhashana wena, futhi angaqonda, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyadingeka yini ukuthi ukhulume ngokuqhubekayo.
Encwadini yendawo yokuvakasha kukhona enye inkulu enkulu: ithuba lokubona izifiso zabo zobulili futhi zikhululiwe. Khumbula izithombe ezingcolile zamafilimu e-pornography, zicabange wena wesifazane otholakale kalula, ungakhathazeki futhi uthandeke. Ikakhulukazi kusukela isimo sesimo: ubusuku, ulwandle, izinkanyezi noma idolobha elingajwayelekile, ihhotela elihle. Kuyindawo eholidini ukuthi silahle konke okukhathazayo kwansuku zonke kanye nokukhathazeka nokumomotheka, ukujabulela usuku nosuku.
Yiqiniso, ukuthandana kwezintambo nakho kunezici ezimbi. Uma omunye wabalingani eqala ukuzwa imizwa yangempela, kanti owesibili - ukudlala nje, bese ukuhlukanisa kungaba nzima futhi buhlungu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, wonke umuntu uyazikhethela, "Ingabe uthando lwamahhotela luhle noma lungalungile?"