Ngokuvamile abazali banokungavumelani okuningi mayelana nezindlela zokukhulisa izingane. Kulula kakhulu ukubona amaphutha omlingani wakho, bese ubatshela, kunokuba uzinake iziphambeko zabo bese uzilungisa. Ngamunye wethu unomthwalo wemfanelo kubantwana bethu, ngokukhuliselwa kwabo, ngalokho abakufundile nokuthi yiziphi izindinganiso ezizobe ziyinhloko yazo. Konke okwenzayo emanzini akho manje, kuyothinta impilo yabo eqhubekayo. Ukuze ulungiselele izingane ekuphileni kwazo ezweni lethu elinzima, udinga nje ukuba nesineke, nothando, ukuqonda. Ngakho-ke, namuhla sinomhlangano omncane wabazali - indlela yokusiza abazali ukukhulisa ingane enempilo.
Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kakhulu kubazali ukuthola indlela efanele yokufundisa nokufinyelela ezinganeni zabo. Wonke umuntu uyaqonda ukuthi imfundo ihlanganisa ubunqunu nobubele, isijeziso nesikhuthazo nokunye okuningi okukuqonda okukuphela kwenqubo yokuphila. Ngokushesha ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, abazali kumele bavumelane phakathi kwabo ukuthi bazoziphatha kanjani nezingane kuzo zonke izimpilo zabo, baxoxe ngemigomo yokukhuliswa. Udinga nje ukuthola iphuzu elivamile lokubuka. Cabanga ukuthi le nsizwa ikhula ngokushesha futhi ngokushesha uzoba nemibono yakhe emibuthanweni eminingi. Uzodinga ukuzama ukukuhola ngendlela efanele ekuphileni, ngenkathi ungaphuli uhlamvu, uthuthukise ukuzethemba.
Kubaluleke kakhulu emfundweni ukudala iqembu elilodwa elihlanganisa upapa, umama nezingane. Umndeni udinga nje ukuthembela phakathi kwabantwana nabazali. Kusukela esemncane kakhulu, zama ukuxhumana ngangokunokwenzeka komunye nomunye, uxoxe ngezenzakalo zosuku ngalunye, izinkinga kanye nemizuzu ejabulisayo. Ukukhuluma okuqondile kuletha abantwana eduze, okwenza ube abangane. Kufanele baqiniseke ukuthi abazali bazoziqonda njalo futhi bazisize, bacebisa futhi bazame ukuzisindisa ezinkingeni.
Dumisani izingane ngempumelelo encane, bajabule uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka. Ngokuvamile zicindezele wena, uhlasele ikhanda futhi ukhulume ngothando lwakho. Uma ingane ingalungile, ungasheshi ukumemeza, noma ukushaya upapa. Zama ukuchaza ukuthi yiliphi iphutha. Yiqiniso, kanengi kuzodingeka uphindze kaningi, njengoba izingane ezincane zingacabangeli futhi zinezinkani. Kodwa kholwa kimi, ngokushesha noma kamuva bazoqonda ukuthi kanjani nokuthi kanjani. Futhi uma ungenakukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokujeziswa, khumbula ukuthi amandla angokwenyama akuyona engcono kakhulu kubo. Awukwazi ukuthenga amaswidi, ungabuki ku-cartoon yakho oyikhonzile, noma ubeke isikhashana ekhoneni. Khumbula into eyodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungamthukutheli kangakanani ingane yakho, ungalokothi utshele uthando noma ungamthandi. Lokhu kufanele kube yinto engokoqobo yophiko nomama. Izingane kufanele zingesabi ukulahlekelwa uthando lwabazali bakhe. Ukugqugquzela kufanele kuthathe indawo ebalulekile ezindleleni zemfundo, ukuze ingane ikwazi ukuthi uma yenza okuthile okuhle, okungenani kuzodunyiswa. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuyisisusa esiqine kakhulu.
Ungathengi uthando lwezingane ngezipho ezibizayo, ungafezi konke okushiwo. Izingane ngokushesha zijwayele futhi ziyeke ukuqonda. Futhi ukulalela nemikhuba emihle akufaki kulokhu. Ziyabonakala futhi zingalawulwa, ezingeke ziholele kunoma yini enhle. Uthando nokwethemba kwezingane kufanele zithathwe njalo, ukwenza konke ukuze zihloniphe wena. Lo mzwa uzokwenziwa yizingane ezimpilweni zabo zonke.
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bangakhohlwa ukuthi izingane zakho zingabantu abanemiqondo yabo, okumele ihlonishwe. Uma ubona ngokucacile ukuthi ingane ingalungile, khona-ke mkhombise ukuthi unamandla, izimpendulo ezihlakaniphile.
Kuningi okungashiwo ngalokho okudingeka kwenziwe futhi okungekho. Emndenini ngamunye, lokhu kunqunywe ndawonye. Into esemqoka ukuyikhumbula ukuthi isisekelo sobuhlobo bakho kufanele sibe uthando, inhlonipho, ukuqonda. Futhi intukuthelo, ukuhlukunyezwa nokuhlukumezeka kufanele kuqedwe. Ngezenzo zethu ezinhle futhi ezilungile sinikeza isibonelo kubantwana abavame ukuzama ukukopisha ukuziphatha kwethu. Futhi ukholelwa ezinganeni zakho, zingcono kakhulu ezingaba khona ekuphileni. Futhi uthando luzokutshela indlela yokwenza kahle.