Ukuziphatha okulungile emphakathini nasezindaweni zomphakathi

Ukuziphatha okulungile nokuhloniphekile emphakathini kuyisibonakaliso esiyinhloko sokukhuliswa kwakho, imfundo kanye nesimo sangaphakathi. Uma ubheka ukuziphatha kwakho, ikhono lokuziphatha, ngokuzithoba ukuziphatha nokudlulisela kahle, noma yimuphi umuntu uzoba nomuzwa omuhle kuwe. Kodwa, ngeshwa, abaningi abazi ukuthi benzeni emphakathini futhi bavame ukulahlekelwa ezingxoxweni noma ngisho nakakhulu, baqale ukwenza ngokungahambisani ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ukuze uvimbele amaphutha anjalo esikhathini esizayo, udinga ukwazi futhi uhambisane nemithetho eyisisekelo yokuziphatha.


Into yokuqala engayikulimaza ukufunda, ikakhulukazi abantu baseRussia - ukuphatha ngokucophelela abantu abakuzungezile futhi bacatshangelwe lo mbono, ngaphandle kwalokho uzofaka konke ukuhlazeka, futhi okokuqala uziphendulele. Uma uthi konke okufika engqondweni yakho - uzokhipha umuntu ongekho emthethweni, omubi futhi ngeke umeke. Emphakathini kufanele uhlale ukhululekile, ngakho-ke kufanele ube nokuthuthukiswa okujwayelekile (ukuze ube nentuthuko evamile, udinga ukuxhumana kabanzi, ufunde, uvakashele amashayetha, ubukele amafilimu anokwazi ukucabanga, njll.) Kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlale njalo kunoma yisiphi isimo, isibonelo, thola okuthakazelisayo isihloko sezingxoxo, sisekela ingxoxo futhi uphendule ngokufanele noma yimiphi imibuzo.

Abantu abaningi banomkhuba wokukhumbula izimphambeko zabanye noma ukuqalekisa labo abanesizathu esithile (ngokuvamile okubangelwa imbango evamile) akujabulisi. Futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi izingxoxo ezinjalo kunoma yikuphi okungeke zikwazi ukusekelwa, noma ngabe isihloko oxoxa ngazo sibuye si-nenravitsya. Noma yikuphi ingxoxo yakho nokuhleba kungadluliselwa ngokushesha kumuntu wesithathu ngumuntu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangendlela ephikisayo nangomqondo ohlukile. Kodwa akwanele ukuyeka ukuthuka ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi wonke amahemuhemu azofinyelela umuntu oxoxwe ngaye. Kubalulekile ukuqonda futhi uqaphele ukuthi ukuhleba kuyisimo senhliziyo. Futhi ungahle uye kulelozinga.

Kunoma yimuphi umphakathi bathanda abantu "abakhanyayo" nabangcolile, ngakho-ke uma uthanda ukuhleka usulu, zama ukukwenza ngendlela enjalo ukuze ungaziqhenya ngokuzethemba nokuzizwa (ungahleki usulu amafutha noma abantu abancane, ungahleki usulu amagama, amagama egama, njll).

Engxoxweni, ungalokothi uphazamise umxhumanisi, qale uvumele ukuqedela umcabango wakhe, ulalele umusho wakhe kuze kube sekupheleni bese ucela imibuzo noma into yokuphendula. Kodwa uma kwenzeka ukuthi bakuphazamise ngaphandle kwesizathu esihle, ke ungasheshi ukukhamuluka bese usabela ngendlela engafanele, ulalele ngokulinganayo nangokuthula ngokugxeka nokugxeka, wazi ukuthi uhola ingxoxo nomuntu ophethwe kahle. Futhi, uma uzama ukukhuluma, zama ukubiza labo abangenalutho "yena" noma "yena", abize ngamagama abo. Ekukhulumisaneni ngaso sonke isikhathi kucabangela iminyaka, isikhundla, izithakazelo, izimiso zokuphila kanye nomlingiswa we-interlocutor. Kumuntu noma ubani, kumele njalo aphathwe ngenhlonipho futhi acatshangelwe.

Umuntu ohloniphekile akasoze akhohlwa ukuthi abe ngowokuqala ukuvuma, ukuhambisana nanoma yisiphi isicelo ngamagama athi "sicela", "yiba mnandi", njll, ngiyabonga ngesevisi noma uxolise ngokuphazamiseka komuntu.

I-tactical (umqondo wokulinganisa) iyingxenye yomuntu okhuliswe, ofundiswe futhi ofundisiwe. Lokhu kuyinzuzo yokuthola uhlobo lokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu bomhlaba, ukuzizwa bezwela futhi ukucabanga nabo, ngokucabangela izici zabalingiswa babo.

Ikhono lokuziphatha hhayi kwelinye inkampani, kodwa ezindaweni zomphakathi akuyona inkomba engabaluleki phansi yezinga lakho lokukhulisa, ukuthuthukiswa kanye namasiko.

Uma unquma ukuya emidlalo, kufanele ufunde imithetho embalwa eyisisekelo yokuziphatha. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukubonakala: abesifazane batuswa ukuba bagqoke izingubo zangokuhlwa (ngamadoda - i-tailcoat noma i-tuxedo), izingubo ezingenacala noma ezingavamile kuleli cala zizodlala ngokumelene nawe (lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokunambitheka okubi). Ebusika, kunconywa ukuthi kufike izicathulo ezithathelwanayo. Izicathulo ezishintshayo zifakwa esigqebeni kanye nezingubo zangaphandle. Ikhanda elikhishiwe lisusiwe kuze kube phakade, futhi likhanda izinwele namafutha anempepho eningi kakhulu - akufanelekile. Kuyinto ehloniphekile ukuphuthuma ukusebenza. Owokuqala ukungena ehholo uhlale engumuntu, ekhombisa amathikithi. U-Wade endaweni yakhe kufanele abhekane nokuhlezi eceleni komugqa. Uma uhlezi usalokhu, khona-ke yimani futhi unikeze umakhelwane ngokulandelana. Enkundleni yemidlalo, awukwazi ukukhala futhi udinga ukuvala wonke amafoni omakhalekhukhwini. Ukuze ukhulume, yenza umsindo, udoti, udle ngesikhathi sokusebenza akunakwenzeka (ngoba lokhu kune-buffet nokuphuma). Kuyinto evamile ukubonisa ukuzwakalisa (ngaphandle kokumemeza nokushaya) ngezikhathi ezithile, ngokuvamile emva kokuphela kwesenzo ngasinye (noma ekugcineni kwezithombe eziphumelelayo ikakhulukazi) nasekupheleni kwalo lonke umdlalo.

Uma uhamba emgwaqweni noma uya endaweni ethile ebhizinisini, gcina imithetho yokuhamba ngezinyawo, ngoba lokhu akuyona nje uphawu lokuhlonipha, kodwa futhi kuyadingeka. Endleleni yomgwaqo, kuyisiko ukuhamba ngakwesokudla, ngaphandle kokuqhuma umgwaqo (uma kungekho indlela yokuhamba, kufanele uhambe uye emgwaqeni). Ukuwela emgwaqweni, ukuqaphela umuntu osekhulile noma ongavumelekile, mnike usizo lwakhe. Akulungile ukushaya ekhaleni lakho ngokuzwakalayo emgwaqeni, sneeze, ukhethe ekhaleni lakho, i-yawn. Ungalokothi ulahle udoti emgwaqeni noma emgwaqweni, ngoba lokhu kunamaminithi akhethekile.

Ngaphambi kokungena ekhemisi noma esitolo, kuqala ukuphuma kuwo, kuyasiza kakhulu ukwazi lokhu kubantu bakithi, ngoba lo mthetho uphulwa nsuku zonke. Uma uqaphela ukuthi eduze komuntu osekhulile, owesifazane okhulelwe noma umuntu okhubazekile, weqa phambili. Ukuthatha izilwane nabo akunconywa. Ngogwayi okhanyisiwe noma efriziwe esitolo futhi awufaki.

Uma usebenzisa izithuthi zomphakathi, zama ukulandela imithetho elandelayo yokuziphatha. Ekungeneni kwebhasi (metro, trolley, tram, njll) ekuqaleni, unike ithuba lokuhamba kwabanye abagibeli. Awukwazi ukuhlala emnyango (kunconywa ukuba uye e-salon). Ngaso sonke isikhathi udinga ukunikeza abantu abadala, abesifazane abakhulelwe, omama abancane nabantu abakhubazekile. Uphawu lwemikhuba embi nokungahloniphi kahle ingxoxo enkulu nokuhleka kokuthutha komphakathi.

Uma umenyiwe ukuthi uvakashele, akunconywa ukuphuza. Uma kusenakwenzeka ukufika ngesikhathi, qiniseka ukuxwayisa abanikazi ngakho. Akufanelekile ukucabangela ngokucophelela ifenisha yefulethi kanye nezinye izimfanelo zangaphakathi, kanye nokubuza imibuzo ngokubaluleka kwazo, kungenjalo, uzobonisa ukungazi kwakho.