Ukusinda kusihluthulelo kusho ukuthi ukwazi ukuhamba ngendlela ende ukwamukela ukulahlekelwa nokubuyisela isimo esivamile ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama.
Kulesi simo, umuntu ubhekene nemizwa enzima:
- ukudabuka kanye nesizungu - kulukhuni ikakhulu ngemva kokulahlekelwa yisihlobo;
- Intukuthelo - ivela emqondweni wokukhungatheka, nokungabi namandla ukushintsha noma yini;
- umuzwa wecala nokuzifakaza-kuvela eqinisweni lokuthi umuntu uqala ukucabanga ukuthi akakusho lutho kumuntu oshonile, akazange enze okuthile;
- ukukhathazeka nokwesaba - kubonakala ngenxa yedwa, ukwesaba ukungahambisani nesimo, ukubhekwa;
-Getness - ingathatha uhlobo lokunganakwa noma ukungahambi kahle, ukungathandi ukwenza noma yini;
- ukuphelelwa yithemba - uhlobo olubi lwesimo esingasuswa isikhathi eside;
- ukushaqeka - isimo se-numbness, ukudideka, ukunyakaza; ihlangene nabantu emaminithini wokuqala emva kwezindaba ezibuhlungu.
Eminye imibono ivame kakhulu ezindaweni zokuqala zokulila futhi ngokuvamile ilahleka ngemva kwesikhathi esithile. Uma zihlala, zingabangela ukuphosa nokucindezeleka, okudinga ukwelashwa okungathí sina.
Ungalokothi uqale ukusabela emva kwezindaba zokufa. Ukwehluleka ukukholelwa okwenzekile kungadlulela isikhathi esithile.
Ukudideka - ukungakwazi ukugxila, ukusabalalisa imicabango, ukukhohlwa kanye namasosha.
Ukukhathazeka ukukhathazeka ngemicabango yomuntu oshonile, ukudweba kwezithombe zokufa. Khumbula izithombe zomufi.
Umzwelo wokuba khona - imicabango ehlala njalo engxenyeni efile, ayihambanga noma yikuphi.
Ama-hallucinations (okubukwayo nokuhlolwa) -kwenzeka njalo. Umuntu uzwa izwi lokubiza lomuntu oshonile, ubona isithombe sakhe. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ngaphakathi kwamasonto ambalwa emva kokulahlekelwa.
Ukudabuka okungaphezu nje kwemizwelo, kuyathinta kakhulu izinqubo zokucabanga. Umuntu ocindezelekile kakhulu akakholelwa ekufeni komuntu othandekayo, uhlale ecabanga ngaye, ephepheni emicabangweni yakhe ebalulekile kuye, kunzima ukuba agxile kunoma yini enye, uvale yena.
Ngaphandle kwenkathi yomzwelo, usizi lubuye luphendule ngokomzimba emzimbeni. Ukuphazamisa ukuqina komphimbo, ubunzima esifubeni, ubuhlungu enhliziyweni, ukuphazamiseka kwezinsi. Izinsizwa ezinokwenzeka, ugozi, ukushisa okushisayo noma amahlumela abandayo.
Ngokucindezeleka okude isikhathi eside, izinkinga zempilo ezinzima, ukuthuthukiswa kwezifo ze-psychosomatic kungavela.
Abaningi belele bahlala bengenasiphelo, okuphakathi, ukulala, ukulala. Kumele siqonde ukuthi abantu babona ukufa ngezindlela ezahlukene, abanye bahlukaniswe ngokwabo futhi bafuna ukuhlala bodwa, kanti abanye bekulungele ukukhuluma ngosuku olufile futhi bangathukuthela uma kubonakala sengathi abanye abakalila futhi bekhala ngokwanele. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungafaki umuntu, kodwa umsize ukuba abhekane nakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe.
Umuntu kumele aqonde ukuthi ukulahlekelwa yingxenye enkulu yomjikelezo wethu wokuphila. Wonke umuntu ozelwe kufanele afe - lo ngumthetho. Konke esikubona okusizungezile, ngolunye usuku luzophela - umhlaba, ilanga, abantu, imizi. Konke endaweni yonke yenyama yesikhashana.
Ukufa komuntu othandekayo kusishukumisela ukuba sizibuze ukuthi "Iyini impilo?", "Iyini injongo yokuphila?". Izimpendulo zale mibuzo zingashukumisela ukushintsha indlela yokuphila, zenze kube nenjongo nakakhulu, zisize ukuguqula umlingiswa wakho, wenze uthando kwabanye abantu.
Izincomo zokunqoba usizi.
Yamukela isimo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi umuntu ushiye futhi ukuhlangana naye, okungenani kulokhu kuphila, ngeke kwenzeke.
Sebenza ngokusebenzisa ubuhlungu. Ukuvumela ukukhala nokuthukuthela, izinyembezi nentukuthelo yingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokuphulukisa.
Ukuguqula umhlaba ngaphandle kwalo. Akekho ozoyithatha isikhundla somuntu othandekayo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungahlala kanjani esimweni esibukiwe.
Buyisela amandla angokomzwelo ebuhlotsheni obunye. Vumela ukuthi uhlanganyele futhi wakhe ubuhlobo nabanye abantu. Ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu kuyongcolisa imemori yomuntu oshonile.
Ukubuyisela ukholo, izinkolelo nezindinganiso. Emva kwesikhathi esithile umuntu ehlushwa ubuhlungu nokuhlukunyezwa, ubuyela ekuphileni. Lesi yisigaba esibalulekile ngemuva kokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.
Okufanele ukwenze nokuthi ungasiza kanjani ukusinda ekulahlekelweni komuntu othandekayo.
1. Yiba umlaleli omuhle. Abantu kufanele bakhulume okuningi ngokufa komuntu othandekayo. Lapho bekhuluma kakhulu, ngokushesha baqaphela iqiniso.
2. Ungesabi ukukhuluma ngomuntu oshonile.
3. Hlala emgqeni. Zibize noma uvakashele umlili. Esimweni esinjalo, umuntu akakwazi ukugcina ngokuzimela oxhumana nabo nabangani.
4. Ungasebenzisi izifanekiso, ukhulume ngobuqotho.
5. Usizo lweProtjanite. Kungasiza ekuphekeni, ekuthengeni, ekuhlanzeni.
6. Yiba nesihawu - ikhono lokuzwelana nabathandekayo.
Yilokho abakwa-psychologists abakhuthaza ukuziphatha uma othandekayo eshonile nokuthi ungaphila kanjani emva kokulahlekelwa.