Kunombono wokuthi indoda yanoma yisiphi isikhathi ikhetha umngane omncane, futhi owesifazane - onolwazi oluthe xaxa, ngakho-ke ungumlingani ophakeme kakhulu. Kodwa ngokwezifundo ezenziwa e-US, bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bangathanda ubudlelwano bobulili nabalingani abasebasha, uma lokhu kungabangeli ukulahla okunjalo kwabanye.
Kodwa sekuye kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ikhulile kunengxenye yesibili noma ubudala bayo. Umehluko omkhulu weminyaka yobuhlobo bobulili awunakuqondwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ngokuvamile ulahlwe abanye. Futhi okwamanje, ngisho noHippocrates wethula umqondo we "gerecomia", echaza impilo yezocansi yomuntu ovuthiwe onentombazane encane, enomphumela wokuvuselela indoda.
Ezinkolweni eziningi, ukwehlukana okukhulu kobudlelwane bocansi kubhekwe njengendlela yokuvuselela amadoda. Emlandweni, kube khona amacala lapho ngisho namapapa eminwe yabo bebukela ubulili besilisa abanamantombazane amancane, ikakhulukazi izintombi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, iRoma njalo yaletha izintombi ukukhonza emizini yabamakhosi abakhulu.
EGreece lasendulo, amamoni amaningi acebile ahambisana nemibono efanayo. Banikezwa abafana abaneminyaka engu-12 kuya ku-14 ababengakaze bahlanganyele ngokobulili, kungaba ngabesilisa ocansini noma ubungqingili, okwakungavamile ngesikhathi esisodwa eGrisi. Kwacatshangwa ukuthi umfana angasebenza "njengokwelashwa ukuguga" ezinsukwini eziyishumi zokuqala ngemuva kokulahlekelwa ubuntombi bakhe kumuntu owaziwa ngokocansi. Ngenkathi izinsuku ezingu-10 ingane isiphelile, ilayishwe izipho eziningi, idedelwe ekhaya. Lezi zintombi zazihlonishwa kakhulu kangangokuthi abazali abazange bazihlaziye ukunikeza umfana endlini yendoda enothile izinsuku ezingu-10.
Uma eYurophu owesifazane wayengacatshangwa ngokobulili futhi kaningi ebanjwe ekubonweni ukuthi uyindoda yomuntu kuphela, khona-ke eMpumalanga, imfundiso yenkolo engaqondakaliyo okuthiwa iTao (okusho ukuthi "indlela") ifundisa ukuthi umehluko omkhulu weminyaka yobulili ubudlelwane bungathatha isikhathi eside, kuhle ukuphazamisa inhlalakahle nokukhulisa impilo. Abalandeli bakaTao bahlala eChina naseJapane.
Isilinganiso sobuTaobuli ukuya ocansini asinengqondo: impilo yokuziphatha ngokocansi iyakwazi ukuvuselela umuntu, futhi okungaphumelelanga isizathu sokunciphisa amandla akhe. Lesi siphetho sasendulo sasiqinisekiswa ngokuphindaphindiwe ngomuthi waseYurophu, kanye nesipiliyoni somuntu ngamunye kithi.
Omunye wemigomo ephakathi kweTaoism ubuhlobo buka-Okthoba no-May, okusho ubudlelwane bobulili bozakwethu abanobudala obukhulu kakhulu. Futhi lokhu kuhluka kweminyaka kungaba iminyaka engama-50 noma ngaphezulu, ku-dao ungagxila ebulili bomlingani owaziwayo.
Ngokusho kweTaoism, kulesibili "indoda evuthiwe - intombazane encane", indoda iyazama ukutshela owesifazane isipiliyoni sakhe ngocansi, futhi inethonya elihle kwamakhono akhe ngocansi olusencane, ukunakekelwa kanye ne-caresses. Kulababili "owesifazane ovuthiwe - insizwa", owesifazane ufundisa umlingani ikhono lobulili, futhi ngenxa yemisebenzi ende yesikhathi socansi, unelisa umlingani. Ngakho-ke, umehluko eminyakeni yobudala uyakwazi ukujabulisa bonke abalingani.
Isimo sokuphela kobudlelwane bukaMeyi-Okthoba kufanele kube ukukhanga kanye nokuzithandela kwezobudlelwano bocansi. Ngokusho kweTaoism, ngokuzikhethela okuzithandela, amandla amancane nabesilisa ahlangene, uJan no-Yin, onomphumela omuhle kubo bobabili abalingani. Umahluko omkhulu eminyakeni, amandla angenawo amandla, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, lapho umuntu engalahlekelwa amandla angeke abuyiselwe, uma owesifazane engenelisekile ngokwanele, ushiye enganelisekile noma engenele ekuziphatheni kocansi okuphoqelekile. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ubudlelwane obunjalo buyiyona eyinhloko yokuphelela kobulili, ikakhulukazi ingxenye yesilisa.
Namuhla, lapho isimo sengqondo sezindaba ezisondelene sikhululekile futhi sikhululekile, umehluko wabashadisi abaneminyaka embalwa yabantu kuyamangaza noma kubangela ukulahlwa. Ngakho, isibonelo, uCharlie Chaplin washada u-Une O'Neal oneminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalombili ubudala eneminyaka engu-58. Naphezu kokuhlukana kweminyaka engu-40 ubudala, babethandana ngobuqotho futhi babe nabantwana.
Amacala okuhlukana kweminyaka yobudala, lapho oshade naye eneminyaka eminingi emdala kunomyeni wakhe, ajwayelekile, futhi kunzima ukubiza izibonelo zemishado enjalo phakathi kwabesifazane abadumile. Kodwa empilweni yethu yansuku zonke, umuntu anganikeza izibonelo zemishado lapho umfazi ekhulile iminyaka embalwa kunesiqingatha sakhe sesibili. Mina, ngokwesibonelo, ngiba nabajwayelene nabashadile iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-15, kanti umfazi uneminyaka engu-17 ubudala kunomyeni wakhe.
Kodwa kusukela kulokhu okungenhla, umuntu akufanele aphethe ngokuthi kubalulekile ukusungula ubuhlobo bobulili obukhulu nabantu bezizukulwane ezahlukene. Umehluko weminyaka engaba ngu-10 emkhatsini womlingani ungahle ukhohlwe phansi kuze kube neminyaka engama-50, lapho usuqala ukuphuma esikhathini, uzobe usabonakala. Khona-ke izithakazelo ezihlukene zingaba yisithiyo esingenakunqunywa ebuhlotsheni bomshado, ngoba iminyaka yobudala nayo ihlosisa kakhulu izithakazelo zomuntu. Ngakho-ke, umndeni unamandla, izithakazelo zomshadisi lapho, uma zingavumelani ngokuphelele, ziseduze.
Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukwakha umndeni onomuntu oneminyaka engalingana nawe, kanti ubudlelwano boMeyi-Okthoba buzohlala kubakhethiweyo. Kodwa-ke, uma umthanda ngempela umuntu - thatha izingozi. Yenza konke okuzuzisa kwakho njalo uvumelane futhi udale umndeni ojabulisayo naphezu kwakho konke ongakuvimbela.