Ukumaketha.
Ukulinganisa umkhosi womshado, okubandakanya ukunikeza umakoti wenhliziyo nesandla somkhwenyana, abazali bomakoti kumele babe khona emcimbini. Kulo mkhosi, umuntu oyinhloko ungumkhwenyana. Kodwa kuvunyelwe ukuthumela abadlali bomdlalo kubazali bomakoti esikhundleni sabo. Ngokuvamile, abakwa-matchmakers bangama-godmothers noma izihlobo eziseduze zomkhwenyana uqobo. Masinyane ngaphambi komkhosi, abazali bezingane bavumelana ngokumemeza.
Ngalo mkhosi umkhwenyana ugqoke, njengomthetho, i-suti futhi uletha izimbali ezimbili zezimbali. Omunye wabo uveza umama womakoti (umkhwekazi), nomunye-umakoti osemusha. Insizwa iyitshela abazali bomakoti ukuthi uyamthanda futhi icela izandla zayo. Uma abazali bomakoti bevumelana, ubaba womakoti uthatha indodakazi yakhe ngesandla sakhe sokunene bese uyifaka esandleni somkhwenyana.
Ama-Lookouts.
Omunye umzuzu obophezelayo wemikhosi yomshado waseRussia yibo abashadile, lapho abazali bomkhwenyana, umlingisi nomkhwenyana bahlola futhi bacabange ukufaneleka komakoti. Ngokujwayelekile, ukuqhuma kwakubanjwe ngemuva komdlalo ngaphambi kokubamba ngesandla. Futhi, ukushada komshado kubonisa nokuthi abazali bomakoti bahlola ukuthi kukhona umlimi epulazini lomkhwenyana, lapha baqaphela ukutholakala kwesinkwa, izinkomo, izingubo nezitsha.
Ngemva komkhosi, ekugcineni abazali baxoxela zonke izinhlobo ze-nuances zomshado ozayo: izindleko, usuku nesikhathi, i-dowry nezipho. Ngesikhathi i-rukobitiya isakaza imithwalo emishadweni. Umphumela wokugcina we-hand-knap wawuyisandla sokuzithandela sokhokho emaceleni omabili.
Eminyakeni eyalandela, umkhosi wokukhwabanisa wawujoyina umkhosi womakoti.
Ukukhipha.
Ukukhipha, noma uhlobo lokumemeza, kwaqhutshwa izihlobo zomlobokazi. Lokhu kusho ukuhlukanisana nabazali bakhe nabangane bakhe. Umlobokazi wayegqoke uhlobo lwendwangu ekhanda lakhe, okwakufanele afihle umbono wakhe, nezihlobo zakhe zahamba naye. Uma umakoti ekhishwa, wawa.
Iqembu lezinkukhu.
Uphethe iqembu le-bachelorette njalo izinsuku ezingu-2-3 ngaphambi komshado noma ezinsukwini ezilandelayo emva kokubulawa. Emgodini wokugqoka, owawubanjwe kumakoti, abangane beza, bahlabelela izingoma zomshado futhi bathengisa izipho zakhe zomkhwenyana nezihlobo zakhe. Ngalo mkhosi, umakoti kumele ukuba akhale, akhonwe futhi agwetshwe, okwakusho ukuthi ahlukane nokuphila kwentombazane, ngoba ngaphambi kwakhe kwakukhona impilo engashadile.
Enye into ebaluleke kakhulu ebantwini bamantombazane kwakuyizinkolelo zaseRashiya zokuqeda umkhonto womlobokazi, okwenziwa yizintombi zakhe. Lokhu kusho ukuthi impilo yakhe yangaphambili yayiphelile.
Okulandelayo kwalandela umkhosi wokungcola komlobokazi osemncane ekugeza. Kwenzelwe ngaphambi komshado noma ekuseni kakhulu ngaphambi kokuqala komkhosi. Uhambo oluya endlini yokugeza lwaluhambisana nezinhlobonhlobo nezinhlobonhlobo, kwakukhona imikhosi yemilingo.
Dowry.
Ngomshado, le ntombazane kwakudingeka iqoqe i-dowry ecebile. Futhi nalapha, abangane bakhe bafika ekuhlanguleni. Isikhathi sokuqoqa i-dowry sinqunywa ngesonto. I-dowry yayinezinto ezenziwe ngezandla: ingubo, i-featherbed, imithwalo, kanye namathayila, amahembe, amabhande nezinhlamvu.
Usuku lokuqala lomshado.
Usuku oluyinhloko noma lokuqala lomshado lwaluhlanganisa ukufika komkhwenyana, ukuhamba ngaphansi komqhele, ukudluliswa kwedayari, ukudluliselwa komakoti endlini yomkhwenyana, isibusiso sabazali kanye nomkhosi womshado ngokwawo.
Druzhko.
UDruzhko, noma umngane, wayebhekwa njengomuntu obalulekile emshadweni, ngoba wayephethe umkhosi womshado. Umngane wakhethwa njengomngane oseduze noma isihlobo somkhwenyana. Ngokuvamile wayeboshiwe ehlombe lakhe ngendwangu eluhle kakhulu.
Ukufika komkhwenyana.
Kwezinye izindawo ngosuku lomshado wayenomusa endlini yomlobokazi futhi wazibuza ukuthi usekulungele ukwamukela umkhwenyana. Ngalesi sikhathi, umakoti kwakudingeka alungele ngokuphelele, okungukuthi, egqoke izingubo zomshado futhi ehlezi ekhoneni elibomvu.
Ukuhlengwa.
Lapho umyeni efika ngokwakhe, umkhosi onjalo womshado wawuqhutshwa njengesihlengo. Kwaqedelwa ukuthi umkhwenyana kufanele akhokhele ukudluliselwa kumakoti. Lo mkhosi wehlele ezinsukwini zethu. Bathengisa umakoti, njengombuso, kubazali nabangane bakhe.
Wedding.
Ngaphambi kokuba abantu abasha bahambe esontweni, uyise nonina womakoti babusisa ngesinkwa nesithonjana. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi komshado, umakoti wakha umkhonto wakhe futhi wayeboshiwe ngamabhande amabili, bese izinwele zakhe zimbozwe kahle ngekhanda noma i-anvil.
Ukufika endlini yomkhwenyana.
Ngemva komkhosi womshado, umlobokazi walethwa kumkhwenyana, lapho abazali bakhe sebebabusisile khona kakade. Abanye abantu banomkhuba wokutshala umakoti nomkhwenyana emboshweni obomvu, okwenza njenge-amulet yabo. Phakathi nesibusiso, kufanele ugcine isinkwa ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi, njengokubusa, isithonjana. Umakoti nomkhwenyana kufanele balume lesi sinkwa.
Idili lomshado.
Ngokomthetho ngosuku lokuqala lomshado, abazali bomlobokazi akufanele bahlale etafuleni lomshado, kwakukhona umkhosi okuthiwa "shayela abaqhoshayo." Ngokuyinhloko lo mkhosi wenziwa ngabangcweti abavela eceleni komakoti nomkhwenyana. Isixuku esikhulu, bafika endlini yabazali bomlobokazi bababiza etafuleni. Ngemva komkhosi womshado, ukukhala komlobokazi kwaphela futhi izingxenye ezijabulisayo nezenjabulo zomshado wamaRussia womshado waqala. Ekupheleni kwalokhu, abantu abasha baya endlini yomakoti ngezipho, bese beya kumkhwenyana, lapho konke kwakulungele khona umshado. Phakathi nomshado, bahlabelela njalo izingoma zomkhwenyana nomkhwenyana, kanye nabazali babo. Ekhaya labazali bomakoti bagubha usuku lwesibili lomshado. Uma idili lihlala izinsuku ezintathu, ngosuku lwesithathu lwagubha futhi endlini yabazali bomyeni.
"Ukuphanga" noku "ukugaya."
"Ukubeka" labo abasanda kushada ebusuku baveza ama-matchmaker, noma okuthiwa ukulala, okwakulungiselela umbhede omncane. Ngoba lo mkhwenyana osemusha wayezokhokha isihlengo. Ekuseni bavuka bavusa abangane abasha, abafana nabamamekazi noma umkhwekazi. Ngokusho kwemithetho, kwakukhona umkhosi wokulenga amashidi ngezingxube zegazi, ezibonisa udumo lomlobokazi.
Usuku lwesibili lomshado.
Ngosuku lwesibili, isenzo esiyinhloko kwakuwukufuna umakoti, noma "ukucinga isidakamizwa." Okubaluleke kakhulu ekufuneni umkhwenyana - "umalusi" - nezihlobo zakhe 'zesiphambeko' sakhe - umakoti, owayefihla endaweni ethile endlini.