Izimbangela
Ngokuvamile owesifazane ushada nendoda encane kakhulu kunaye, lapho engekho nentshisekelo yocansi lobuhlobo. Njengomthetho, abesifazane abanjalo babanjwe emkhakheni wezemisebenzi, onikezwe izindlu nezinzuzo ezizinzile. Ukusekelwa kumfazi osemusha akubalulekile kakhulu.
Esinye imbangela evamile ubuhlobo obuseduze. Abesifazane abanomdlandla omkhulu bangenakunakekelwa ngokwanele kontanga yabo, ufuna okuthile okunye, abathandekayo ebusuku, njengobusheni bakhe. Akuwona wonke umuntu oneminyaka engamashumi amane oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala onamandla okwenza isiteleka sezocansi, kodwa insizwa impela. Futhi lokhu kuyaqondakala - emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, abesifazane baqala ukucubungula umsebenzi wezocansi, kuyilapho amadoda ehamba ngokwezomnotho, ngakho-ke abalingani abasha badonsela oontanga abaningi, njengoba bengakwazi ukwanelisa zonke izidingo zowesifazane olele embhedeni.
Futhi, ekugcineni, indima ebalulekile idlala ngomqondo wokuzethemba nokuphepha. Ngokuvamile lokhu kulindeleke kumadoda, kodwa umshado ongalingani, lapho umuntu esencane, umbeka esimweni somuntu ofuna ukuvikelwa kunokuba anikeze. Njengomthetho, abesifazane abadala abakudingi ukusekelwa, bayakwazi ukuhlonipha abathandekayo babo. Lokhu kubangelwa ngokuyingxenye kumvelo wesibeletho somama okhulelwe.
Izindlela zokugcina ubuhlobo
Umshado ongalingani lapho owesifazane ekhulile uncike ekulahlweni okukhulu emphakathini. Abashadayo kumele babe namandla ukunqoba zonke izithiyo futhi bangabi nhlobo.
Okokuqala, izidingo ezihluke ngokuphelele zifakwe phambili ekubukeni kwesifazane. Kumele ahlale ezingeni lokuncintisana namantombazane amancane. Emshadweni ongalingani, abesifazane bavame ukuzizwa benomona, ngakho bazama ukugcina ubusha isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka, ngoba ukubukeka kubaluleke kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthando lukhulu kangakanani.
Okwesibili, akukho cala ongabeka umlingani esikhundleni somntanakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungenalwazi kangakanani. Amadoda kanye neminyaka engu-20 bazizwa isidingo sokuba umholi, ngakho kubalulekile ukukhuthaza izimfanelo zobuholi, hhayi i-infantilism. Uma owesifazane echoboza umlingani negunya lakhe, ngomqondo wangempela wezwi uthatha izinsolo zikahulumeni ezandleni zakhe, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umuntu uzothola umthandi omncintisayo.
Okwesithathu, ungaphumuli. Ukushada akuqinisekisi ukuphila okude ndawonye, futhi umshado ongalingani unamathuba amaningi okuhlukana eminyakeni emithathu yokuqala yokuphila. Izinzuzo zobudlelwane obunjalo zisesimweni sabo esizinzile, ukungabi khona kwemvelo, izinsolo nokusola. Ungabi nomhawu ngomlingani ngoba nje usemncane futhi unjengamantombazane eneminyaka engu-20 asekulungele ukwenza iphutha ngalutho. Ubudala bubeka isibopho sokuhlakanipha.
Futhi ekugcineni, imali kanye nobulili. Uma owesifazane omdala esinciphisa yonke incazelo yomshado kuphela yokuthi akahambisani nezindleko zomyeni osemusha, futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe ulinde ubulili, khona-ke indoda izobe ishaywa yisikhathi ngokuba yisitokisi. Ikhwalithi yezocansi ibaluleke kakhulu, inhlalakahle yezinto ezibonakalayo nayo ibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ngaphandle kokwethemba, ukwethembeka nokuqonda, ubuhlobo abuzohlala isikhathi eside.
Umshado ongalingani wenza abantu abaningi bajabule, kodwa kungabangela nokungajabuli. Abantu abakhetha ukugunyaza ubuhlobo obunjalo, ungayinaki inhlebo eyovela ngempela. Kubalulekile ukungavumeli ngisho nomcabango wokuthi lokhu kufike ezinkingeni zokuqala ezingathí sina. Eqinisweni, kunezibonelo ezanele lapho umshado ongalingani uhlala isikhathi eside kunokujwayelekile futhi ujabule. Abantu banezingane, bakha izinhlelo ezihlangene, balwela okuthile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubudala. Lapho kukhona uthando nesifiso sokuba ndawonye, ngeke kube khona isizathu sokuhlukanisa.