Abaningi besifazane baphupha ngomngane omuhle, othandekayo, indoda ongakwazi ukwahlukanisela okokuqala umlingo wesithando nothando. Ucwaningo lwaqhutshwa, imiphumela eyabonisa ukuthi abambalwa besifazane bakholelwa ukuthi umuntu ofanelekayo ukhona (1 ngonyaka ka 1000). Khona-ke kuvela ukuthi amathuba okuhlangana nomuntu ofanelekayo, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, ukushada naye kuncane futhi buthakathaka. Noma kunjalo, amadoda anjalo akhona. Kodwa ungamqaphela kanjani esixukwini samadoda angcolile nabagundane? Kufanele kube yimingcele yomthandi ohle?
Indoda yangempela ngeke iphoqe noma idonsa isifuba sowesifazane, ngoba uzwela esifubeni, ngaphandle kwalokho ulwa nodlame. Mhlawumbe, indoda enjalo izokwembesa isifuba sowesifazane ngokukhala nokukhanya kwe-tenderes.
Indoda ekahle ngesikhathi socansi ngeke iphazanyiswe ukushintsha isiteshi sethelevishini ngisho noma ifoni yakhe ikhala.
Umuntu ofanelekayo uyaqaphela ukuthi uthando lwakhe lusebuhlotsheni bakhe obuqotho kumfazi, hhayi ngobukhulu bomzimba wakhe oyinhloko.
Umthandi omuhle ngeke afune umlingani wakhe ahlukahlukene kakhulu futhi abe nobuciko kwezocansi, ngoba uyaqaphela ukuthi akayena udansa weciscus.
Indoda yangempela ngeke yenze uthando ebusuku, ngoba iyaqonda ukuthi owesifazane ukhathele emsebenzini nokuthi udinga ukuphumula ngokugcwele ebusuku. Ukukhetha okufanelekile ngokobulili kungukusa, ngoba ngobusuku obuningi umzimba wesifazane unesikhathi sokuphumula, ngaphandle kokushisa komzimba wakhe kuzwela kakhulu.
Indoda yangempela isineke, ilula futhi ilalele izifiso, amagama kanye nezenzo zomuntu wesifazane. Indoda enjalo izakhuluma amazwi amahle hhayi kuphela ngesikhathi socansi, kodwa ngaphambi nangemva kwayo. Uzobuka owesifazane wakhe njengokungathi nguye kuphela owesifazane eMhlabeni, lapho owesifazane eyobe efiseleka kakhulu futhi enhle kakhulu. Indoda enjalo izokubonga izembatho zakho zoboya, amadolo, iminwe, izinwele, intamo. Konke ukubukeka kwalowo muntu kunencazelo, okuvela kuyo inhliziyo yenkosikazi, amaphiko angabonakali avela phezulu emazulwini. Owesifazane ngeke akhathazeke ngendoda yangempela.
Lapho uDkt. Polovski elandela ukuhlukaniswa okuyisigxathu ezintathu nazo zonke izimfanelo "ezigunyazayo" kwafika umqondo wokubala imingcele yangempela "yindoda enhle nomthandi." Kulo mbono, odokotela babhala amazwi omfazi wokugcina, owathi lapho ehamba, wamemeza: "Uhlale uphakeme kakhulu kimi!" Odokotela, la mazwi ayenganqindi futhi akakwazanga ukuphendula kule nkulumo yowesifazane owayengumkakhe, ngoba wayekholelwa ukuthi wonke owesifazane wesifazane amaphupho omuntu omude (ukuphakama kwakhe kwakungamamitha amabili).
Lapho udokotela ehlaziya impilo yakhe yomshado, waqaphela ukuthi bonke abashade babephansi kakhulu kunabo. Ngenxa yalokho, laba bobabili abashade nabo bashada nabesifazane abashadile kakhulu kakhulu kuye ngokukhula.
Le ndlela engaqondakali ayinikezi udokotela ukuphumula ngakho-ke wafaka isicelo sokufunda eWroclaw University. Isiphathimandla seyunivesithi savuma lesi sicelo futhi savuma ngisho nokuyixhasa ngemali.
Ucwaningo kule ndawo ludlule eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-3, futhi nje nje nje kwafika ekupheleni kwalo okunengqondo. Umsebenzi wesayense we "mbhangqwana omuhle" owawuqhutshwa ososayensi basePoland, abesifazane abangaphezu kuka-600, abaneminyaka engu-19 kuya ku-50 ubudala, bahlanganyela kulolu cwaningo. Imiphumela yocwaningo idlula konke okulindelwe. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi amandla nobuhlobo besikhathi eside bethonywa ukwehluka kwesisindo nokukhula kwabalingani.
Ngokusho kukaB Boguslav Polovski, konke okusemandleni akugciwane - abantu bafuna abalingani ngokuzenzakalelayo, futhi ngemingcele ethile, ukuze izingane ezizayo ezinokuthi "zilungele" ukuphakama nesisindo zizalwa. Zonke lezi zenzo zenzeka ngokoqobo futhi azixhomeki esifisweni sangempela sokuba nezingane.
Imingcele yomthandi ibalwa ngokulandela izici ezilandelayo: ngokukhula - 1.09; isisindo - 1,4. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu ofanelekayo kufanele abe izikhathi ezingu-1.09 eziphakeme kunowesifazane futhi izikhathi ezingu-1.4 zilukhuni. Isibonelo, uma ukuphakama kowesifazane kungu-170 cm futhi kunesisindo esingama-60 kg, kuyinto enhle kumuntu okungenani amasentimitha angu-183 ubude futhi enesisindo esingaphansi kuka-84 kg.