Yiqiniso, kufanele sivume ukuthi ukuziphatha okungavamile nezenzo zesiqingatha sesibili akukwazi ukuqonda ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuchazwa. Futhi, ngendlela, hhayi abesifazane kuphela, kodwa futhi namadoda. Iyini isizathu sokuziphatha okungavamile kwamadoda? Yebo, konke kusemkhakheni owodwa ohlukumezeka ngokobulili, okwenzeka njalo ochwepheshe. Thatha okungenani ikhompyutha ye-computer ehlukile kobulili obuhlukile. Ukungezwani kusobala, noma kunjalo, akuwona wonke umuntu ongazichaza.
Sekuyisikhathi eside, isazi sefilosofi saseMelika nomeluleki womndeni uMichael Gurian (uMichael Gurian), umbhali wencwadi ethi "Ucabangani? "Ingqondo yomuntu isebenza kanjani ngempela?", Wafunda izingxenye ezihlukahlukene zobuchopho, ikakhulukazi, obhekene nesimo somzwelo womuntu, futhi wafika eziphethweni ezimangalisa. Kuvela ukuthi ubuchopho besilisa buveza ama-neurohormones amancane kunengqondo yesifazane. Inkulumo nge-oxytocin ne-serotonin, enomthwalo wemfanelo yokunamathisela, enye inomphumela wokunciphisa. Kuvela, ngubani ongabekwa icala lokuthi ngemuva komsebenzi, abantu abanamandla bezwe bangathanda ukulala embhedeni nge-remote control control, futhi bangabambi iqhaza kwingxoxo yokuthi usuku luhambe kanjani nokuthi yini yokupheka ukudla.
Uma abesifazane bengenakukwenza ngaphandle kokukhulumisana ngamazwi, khona-ke amadoda avame ukuphikisa futhi aqonde imizwelo. Yilezi zici ezinecala lokuthi ngezinye izikhathi zivele "zishaye", ngenkathi wabelana nabo okuthile okubalulekile futhi okubalulekile. Uyomangala, kodwa ngalesi sikhathi umngane wakho akacabangi empilweni, mayelana nobhiya noma isisebenzi esisha. Akacabangi ngalutho nhlobo. Kunzima ukukholelwa, kodwa kuyiqiniso. Ukuhamba ngobuqili nokushaya izitsha akufanelekile, akukaziwa ukuthi kungalungile ngempela - lokhu kuyindlela yakhe engajwayelekile. Ikhono "lokuvala" ngokuphelele futhi uphumule ekhaya, njengomthetho, kubangele ukukhiqiza okuphezulu emsebenzini. Ama-hormone, i-testosterone ne-vasopressin banesibopho sokuthi indoda isesho lokusebenza njalo futhi ifuna ukufakazela ubukhulu bayo. Ngokusho kososayensi, ezimweni eziningi lokhu kubonakala ngokucacile ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane.
Ukwakhiwa okhethekile kobuchopho nakho kungenxa yokuthi isigamu sesilisa sabantu asiqapheli imininingwane eminingi ethakazelisayo ku-yethu, owesifazane, bheka. Kulesi sigaba, njengomthetho, kufaka i-hairstyle entsha, i-manicure nekhaya lebhizinisi. Kubonakala sengathi ngeke iphumelele kakhulu. Ukuze uhlele ukukhwabanisa akusizi ngalutho, ubuchopho bomuntu ngeke buwuthathe, kepha buyele ezinkambisweni ezincane futhi, uma kwenzeka, ukubhekisela kulokho okuhlukile, okufakazelwe yizibani zesayensi, kungenzeka. Yiqiniso, kungcono ukungayithinti, kepha ukuzama ukuthola indlela efanele komunye nomunye nokulingana okufanelekile, ngakho-ke, ukuvumelana phakathi kobudlelwane kubaluleke kakhulu kunesivalo semoto yangasese evulekile noma i-tube evulekile yomuthi wokugcoba, kanti umehluko phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane inkulu kakhulu kunalokho okubonwe kwi-x-ray isifinyezo.
Futhi uma ungayinaki izimangalo eziqoqiwe futhi ubukeka ngokuqondile ngezinto, akubona wonke umuntu onelungelo lokuthola isikhathi sakhe nesithuba sakhe somuntu siqu? Ngempela, njengoba izazi ze-psychologists zithi, ukuhlala ndawonye kungukungqubuzana kwezwe elibili elenzelwe ukwakha isiko elivamile, hhayi ngokufanayo.