Ubudlelwane bubuthakathaka njenge-crystal vase. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi baqala ukuyiqonda lokhu kuphela lapho kube khona ukuhlukana ebuhlotsheni, lapho ehamba, mhlawumbe nakwezinye. Kuze kube manje, nakuba abesifazane bebona kahle, bezwa futhi beqonda ukusondela kokuwa, abakwenzi lutho, bavame ukuhlala futhi benze njengenhlamba ethembeni lomlumbi omuhle ozoshintsha konke okungcono, okuzobuyisela konke ezinsukwini zakudala bese ngeke kube khona ukuphila, kodwa inganekwane ... Kodwa lokhu kungukuphila! Uyaziqhenya ... Uphuthelwa isikhathi lapho usakwazi ukwenza okuthile.
Futhi okwenzekile kakhulu - washiya. Lokhu kushaqeka kakhulu kunoma yimuphi owesifazane. Kusobala ukuthi kunzima kangakanani kuwe manje. Ngokuvamile abesifazane abasesimeni bayeke ukucabanga, abakwazi ukwenza kahle ukuthatha izinyathelo ezakhayo.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Okokuqala, kufanele uqale ucabangisise futhi kuphela ungathola izindlela zokuxazulula lesi simo. Uma udinga, hamba kumngane noma kumpristi (isazi sezengqondo, njll), bazokuqonda futhi bakuzwele, bephule phansi futhi bakunike ukuqonda okuncane ukuze ukwazi ukwenza ngokuqondile futhi ngokuqondile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthole amandla ngaphakathi kwakho futhi ulungele ukuze uthathe izinyathelo ezifanele ukuze uziqonde wena futhi ugweme amaphutha owenzile, ungathola incazelo yokuphila, uthole ukunambitheka kwawo okusha. Kunoma yikuphi, ukuyibuyisela, kufanele uqale ukuzola bese usuvele ubheka izindlela ezakhayo zokuyibuyisela. Futhi uma usuvele uzinzile futhi uzimisele ukwenza konke ukuzama (ukuzama nje) ukuwubuyisela ukuze uthole injongo entsha yokuphila, bese ufunda njalo.Okwesibili, kufanele uqonde ukuthi awukwazi ukubuyisela okwedlule noma ukulungisa okuthile ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Okudlulile kuphelile kuze kube phakade, okwedlule kuyisiphambeko, emva kwalokho akusizi ngalutho ukuxosha ... Ungakhohlwa yonke into eyenzeka ngaphambili, futhi wakhe ukwakha okuhlukile, ngokuhluke kakhulu kwalawo ngaphambili. Ungaqala kuphela kusukela ekuqaleni, qala i-romance entsha kusukela ekuqaleni. Futhi kuye umlingisi oyinhloko kungaba nguye. Awukwazi ukubamba i-vase ephukile ... Ungenza kuphela i-vase entsha. Futhi kuzoxhomeka kuwe kuphela ukuthi ngabe kuyoba ngcono kunangaphambili, kodwa kunoma yikuphi ukuthi kuyobe sekukhona esinye isitsha, ezinye ubudlelwane. Futhi lokhu kushayisana okusha okumele kube khona kufanele kube okuhlukile, okuhlukile kokudala kunakho konke, kumininingwane encane kunazo zonke (khumbula lokho ayekufunayo kuwe, futhi umelane). Uma kungenjalo, izinkolelo zakho zakudala ngeke zisebenze, ezingeke zikuvumele ukuthi uphile ngendlela evamile, futhi noma ngabe uphatha ukuyibuyisela, konke kuzobuyela ekujwayelekile. Futhi uzobe ucabanga ukuthi ungayilahla kanjani ...
Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, udinga ukuziqonda wena, emaphutha akho. Khona-ke udinga ngempela ukuyihlola, kungakanani ukuthi kungenzeka ukwakha into ebalulekile naye futhi ujabule.
Kodwa lokhu kufanele kube inoveli nganoma isiphi isimo. Yini okudingayo ukuqala le novel entsha? Ubuhle bakho nenhle, okumele kube phezulu !!! Ungayinqoba okokugcina, futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, manje uyazi ubuthakathaka bayo nezidakamizwa futhi uma ukhona futhi ubonisa intshisekelo, ungayenza futhi. Ngakho-ke manje udinga into ebaluleke kakhulu - udinga ukuthola ukuthula kwengqondo ukuba uphinde uphinde uphinde ubheke.
Uzoqala kuphi? Ngami, othandekayo wami! Bheka wena ohlangothini. Bakubheka kanjani? Kumelwe ukuba waphawula futhi wazizwa ukuthi amadoda azungezile ezokuthutha, emgwaqweni nase esitolo ayeka ukunaka, nakuba kamuva nje ulokhu ubamba lezi zibukeka njalo. Ngakho into ishintshile kuwe, futhi ayizange ishintshe ukuze ibe ngcono. Kungani owesifazane onhle kangaka onjengawe ngokungazelelwe waba ongaphenduki? Kungani amadoda ayeke ukukwazisa? Isizathu esilula - ulahlekelwe ukukhangwa, okungukuthi, ukuzithemba kuphelile futhi ukuzihlonipha kwehle kakhulu.
Uma ufuna ukushintsha okuthile, mbuyise umuntu noma umkhohlwe futhi athole injabulo yakho komunye, ngakho-ke kumelwe siqale ngalokhu, kumelwe sibuyise ukukhangwa kwangaphambili futhi siyiqinise izikhathi eziyikhulu! Ngokuvamile, kumelwe sizenzele ukubonakala okumangalisayo. Awusengumfana omncane futhi wazi kahle futhi ukuqonda ukuthi ukuheha umuntu, okubaluleke kakhulu akuyona ubuhle, kodwa ukuheha, ukukhansela ngokobulili, okungukuthi, isimo sakho sangaphakathi sangqondo. Futhi ukuthi noma yimuphi umuntu (kufaka phakathi owokuqala) wakuqaphela, udinga ukuphinde ube mnandi, ukuthola ubulili obudlule nokuzethemba. Uma ekubona manje kulesi sizwe, kuzokwenza ukuthi isimo sakho esivele singenakukwazi ukukhulisa. Ngakho-ke, kuze kube yilapho usukwazi ukuqeda lesi simo esidabukisayo, gwema noma yimiphi imihlangano naye.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, manje usuke uvuselela imizwelo emibi ebusweni bokuqaphela, okumele kuguqulwe futhi kuwulahle. Ukuze ufeze lokhu, kufanele uqale ukhohlwe (ezingeni lokuqaphela) ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukhulule ikhanda lakho kulo, kusukela emibonweni yangaphambilini kanye nezinkohliso, ngoba ngenkathi ekhanda lakho (ngokuqondile, ebusweni bokuqaphela), imizwa emibi kuphela. Le mizwelo engalungile ngeke ikuvumele ukuba wenze ngendlela evamile, ibhubhise futhi udinga ukuyiqeda. Noma yikuphi ukuxhumana naye manje kuyandisa isimo sakho kuphela, yingakho kufanele uqale uphinde uthole amandla akho, ususe isimo sengqondo esibi kuye. Uma kungenjalo, ebuhlotsheni bakho buzophinde bakhelwe izindonga, hhayi amabhuloho.
Imizwelo emihle evela kuye noma kunjalo izohlala, ijulile engqondweni, ukuze ukwazi ukuzolalisa ngalokhu. Kungenxa nje kwemizwelo engaphezu kwamandla okwenzekile manje futhi engakuvumeli ukuba uphile ngendlela evamile futhi wenze kahle. Futhi manje udinga ukuzethemba wena, ngamandla akho nezintelezi kunanini ngaphambili, futhi uhlelo olucacile lwesenzo. Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi kufanele ugweme noma yikuphi ukuxhumana naye. Manje usulungiswe kuso futhi lesi simo kufanele sichithwe kuqala, sigxilwe ngokuqinisekiswa kokuphila, okujabulisayo, okujabulisayo nokwakhayo. Khona-ke ungakwazi yini ukufeza into ethile ngempela! Uma uthola ukuzethemba kwangaphambili, kuphela ngaleso sikhathi (hhayi ngaphambili!) Ungakwazi yini ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuhlanganisa, ukuhlanganiswa kwenveli entsha. Okokuqala, kufanele kube ngumhlangano odlula, obonakala sengathi uhlangene, emgwaqweni noma lapho kwenzeka khona, futhi kufanele akubone nje, futhi akufanele ubheke ngendlela aqondayo, kufanele aziphathe njengokungathi wayengamqapheli. Ngokusabela kwakhe, uzoqonda ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthandana nomuntu omusha. Uma engenandaba, ngeke kwenzeke lutho ... Uma ebonisa isithakazelo, umuntu angakwazi ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo ngesibindi futhi azakhele endaweni entsha. Kodwa sizoxoxa ngalokhu kuzigaba ezilandelayo ...
Ngakho, into yokuqala okufanele ukwenze yandisa ukuzethemba kwakho nokuheha kumuntu wangaphambili noma kangcono ezingeni eliphakeme. Lokhu kuzothatha isikhathi esithile. Omunye uyoba neviki, omunye uzodinga inyanga, kanti omunye umuntu unyaka. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi kubalulekile ukukhipha noma yikuphi oxhumana naye.
Ungakwenza kanjani lokhu? Isaga saseRussia sithi: umgodi udonswa umcengezi. Lokhu kungukuthi, le ndawo ekhanda lakho (ebusweni bokuqaphela), ephethe imicabango engalungile, kumele igcwaliswe ngenye into nomunye umuntu, kodwa ngemicabango emihle. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungazethemba ukuzethemba futhi uzothola ukuzethemba kuwe ukuze wenze okuqhubekayo. Ezahlukweni ezilandelayo, uzothola ukuzivocavoca, wenze ngokucophelela ukuthi uzokwazi yini ukuhamba ngendlela efanele futhi uphinde uzethembe.
Ukwandisa ukuzethemba
Ukwandisa ukuzethemba nokwenza ukuzithemba njengesinyathelo sokuqala, kufanele uhlale wenza umsebenzi owodwa owaziwayo ukwandisa ukukhangisa, lokhu okubizwa okuthiwa ukuzindla kumlingani ocabanga.
Njengoba wazi kahle, ukukhanga kuyisici sangaphakathi se-psyche yakho. Ngakho-ke, thatha njengento nje yokuzivocavoca, njengokuzivocavoca ekuseni noma ukugeza, njengokugqoka noma ukuxubha amazinyo akho, njengama-gymnastics engqondweni. Mhlawumbe, okokuqala kuzodingeka wenze umzamo, kodwa kancane kancane uma uqhubeka wenza, kuzoba lula kuwe. Futhi maduzane uzokwazi kalula ukubona izinguquko ezinhle kuwe. Yenza nje futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ubona futhi uzizwa umphumela.
Ngakho-ke, okuyisisekelo somsebenzi: ukuyikhohlwa, umuntu kufanele ahlale ecabanga ngomunye umuntu, ongaphandle kumuntu. Kudingeka ukhethe phakathi kwabantu abangajwayelekile (mhlawumbe ngisho nasesixukwini) kwanoma yimuphi umuntu othanda okuthile, wakhanga. Futhi-ke emcabangweni wakho uqale ukwakha uthando nazo zonke ezinye izinhlelo ezikuye, cabanga ukuthi uzohlala kanjani ndawonye kahle. Zama ukwenza lezi zithombe zigqamile ngangokunokwenzeka. Wonke umuntu uyathanda ukucabanga. Ngenhlanhla, ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi uzokwenza kahle, ngoba imfashini futhi, ikakhulukazi, ithandana inkolelo yabesifazane ithuthukiswe kahle kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, okunye okuhlangenwe nakho okuthandwayo, izimpawu zokunaka, ukuthandana, ubulili, ngisho nobulili obuqhumayo nemininingwane yobuhlobo obuseduze, izithakazelo ezivamile, ukuphila komndeni othulile, izingane ezihlangene - ngokujwayelekile, ukucabanga okuningi kanye nezithombe eziningi kusukela ekuphileni okuzayo kanye nalo muntu ongajwayelekile. Uma lesi sikhathi siphumelele ngokukhethekile, ngesikhathi esizayo udinga ukuthuthukisa okuqhubekayo isihloko esisodwa, umcabango ofanayo. Buyela ngokuphindaphindiwe kulokho okuye kwaphumelela ngokukhethekile esikhathini esidlule. Noma yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho okungafundwa kalula. Ukukhanya okucace futhi okuthakazelisayo okuyizinto, kusondelene nomphumela oyifunayo. Uma lo muntu engazi kangako kuwe (umsebenzi, imisebenzi ehlanganyelwe, imisebenzi yasendlini, njll), ngakho-ke lezi zithombe ezicatshangelwayo zizoxhaswa ngezenzo ezihlosiwe kuye, ngokumomotheka okuthakazelisayo, ukuthatha noma yiziphi izimpawu zokunakwa, ukuxhumana naye ngaphezulu futhi uqaphele ukusabela kwakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, qala ngenzalo ukubheka abantu abangaphandle. Yenza sonke isikhathi, yonke indawo - emgwaqweni, ezokuthutha, ezitolo, emsebenzini ... Uma uphuma, qaphela amadoda azungezile. Uma usenza isikhathi eside, kuzoba lula kuwe ukushintsha. Isikhathi esincane sokuqedela lo msebenzi yisiviki esisodwa, nakuba kungadingeka kumuntu nakakhulu. Ukuzivocavoca kufanele kwenziwe njalo, uma uneminithi yamahhala, yokudla, ezokuthutha, emgwaqweni, esitolo ... Uma uqhubeka nokujula ukucabanga, ngokushesha izinguquko ziyoba.
Uma yena, owokuqala, ngokuzumayo ebiza, ngakho-ke lokhu kunqoba kwakho kokuqala. BUT! Ngesikhathi uhamba naye unqatshelwe futhi ungamniki izithembiso. Ayikho imihlangano! Akukho ukucaciswa. Futhi uma unengqondo yokuziphindiselela, ukhohlwa ngabo. Kuwe manje, ubalulekile kuphela, cabanga wena ngokwakho, isimo sakho sengqondo, amandla akho angaphakathi. Manje wena kuqala kufanele ufunde ubuhlobo bakho ngokuthula futhi unqume ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani.
Yini okufanele uyenze?
Kuhle ukuthi ukuzivocavoca kokuqala kukusiza ukuba ukhulule kancane, kusize ukulikhohlwa, ukusikhipha endaweni yemizwelo yesikhashana. Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, kwandisa ukuzethemba nokuzihlonipha kwakho. Ukuqhubekisela phambili ukuthuthukisa ubuchopho bakho lo msebenzi, kufanele wenze enye eyodwa - umsebenzi wesibili. Ngokufanayo, ukubheja komunye umuntu, ukukhipha owake wangena kuhlu lwabaphathi bakhe abangekho. Kunoma yikuphi, ubuhlobo bakho buzohluka futhi buzohluka, ngakho-ke lokhu kusebenza ku-100% kungakhathaliseki ukuthi impilo yakho yesikhathi esizayo izokwakhiwa nobani. Lokhu kusiza ukwandisa ububanzi bemizwelo yakho emihle, kukwenza ube ngowesifazane ongenele ngaphakathi. Ngenxa yalokho, konke lokhu akusizi nje kuphela ukusinda noma yimuphi umphumela, kodwa futhi ukubuka impilo ngokuqiniseka futhi, kunoma yikuphi, kufanelekile ukuhlela impilo yakho esikhathini esizayo futhi, ekugcineni, ukuthola injabulo yakho.
Kulokhu kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi kungani futhi nonke nithandana. Ngokujwayelekile amantombazane kuleli zwe akholelwa ukuthi akakwazi ukuthanda omunye umuntu. Akunjalo. Yiqiniso, kubonakala manje futhi uma ungenzi imizamo noma ukuzivocavoca ngokwakho, lesi simo sokunganaki singahlala isikhathi eside, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangeminyaka eminingi ... Lezo amantombazane athembeke futhi alungile angabanamahloni, abakholelwa ukuthi ungenxa yalokhu uma - Noma ubani uzobuya kuye. Lona iphutha elikhulu kakhulu abesifazane abakwenzayo. Iqiniso liwukuthi kulowo owake waba khona, ngeke abuyele! Awudingi ngempela lolu hlobo lwezinto, okungaphezu kwalokho akudingayo omunye oye wazuza ulwazi, waziqonda, waqaphela amaphutha futhi wafunda ukuwagwema, owazi ukuthi yini engayenza futhi kufanele ihlatshelwe ngenxa yenjabulo yomuntu. Kodwa lo wesifazane ohluke ngokuphelele ... Futhi lo wesifazane, owesifazane ohlakaniphile, kufanele ube.
Ngakho-ke, manje usencike ekuthembekeni okuqinile kwengqondo kuye, okungafaniswa nokulutha izidakamizwa. Ngamanye amazwi, manje uthathe umthamo futhi waqala ukuphumula. Kulo mhlaba, umuntu uyakhala ngobuhlungu futhi akanandaba nokuthi ungathola kanjani umthamo (buyela othandekayo). Yingakho udinga ukuqeda lokhu kuncike ekutholeni - kukuvimbela ukuthi ungenzi kahle. Ingabe lezi zivivinyo nokuphumula kuzodlulela, uzokwazi "ukuphulukisa" ngokugcwele. Futhi-ke ungakwazi ukuphefumula ngokukhululekile futhi uhlole ubukhulu bezintambo ozilahlile. Ngoba ukuxhomeka kuhlale kunesineke. Ukuziguqula ngendlela efanele kufanele ubale futhi ulungiselele ukuthi ngeke abuyele, ukuthi kusukela manje uzohlala ngaphandle kwakhe. Ekugcineni, lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi ukhululeke ngokwakho ekuthembekeni kwayo futhi usuqale uqale omunye impilo noma ngaphandle kwayo, njengoba wena ngokwakho ufuna. Ungakwenza kanjani lokhu? Yenza umsebenzi wesibili.
Okubalulekile kwalokhu kuvivinya ukuthi uhlale uthola imizwa emihle. Babejwayele ukuba ngumthombo wabo, manje kufanele kube okunye, okutholakale kalula kuwe. Ukuze uzuze lokhu, zivuselele njalo ukuthi manje umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko ukuzijabulisa ekuphileni kwakho kuzo zonke izinto zayo ezincane - ekudleni, ezingutsheni, empilweni yamasiko, ezokungcebeleka, njll. Thenga wena izidlo zokudla ezithandayo, izinto ezinhle, hamba ukuphumula lapho uke waziphupha khona, hamba kudlalwayo owuthandayo noma ubuke ifilimu kumabhayisikobho owafuna ukuwabona. Ngokuvamile, gcwalisa impilo yakho ngenjabulo, uzitholele ngokwakho ezinjabulweni zakho ezincane futhi uyenze nsuku zonke! Ngokuvamile, umuntu akufanele aphile ngokulindela ukubuya kwakhe, kodwa aphile ngokujabula kwakhe, ujabulele ukuphila empilweni. Thola injabulo nokujabula kukho konke okukuzungezile, ugcwalise zonke izinsuku zokuphila kwakho nalezi zinjabulo ezincane nezinkulu. Konke lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uqhubeke nokuqinisa ukuheha kwakho, ekugcineni uzokhipha amanzi, okuzoheha abantu abakuzungezile. Ngokuqinisekile uyokubona, uzizwe futhi uyibone. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi wenze lesi sifundo ngokuphelele.
Indlela yokuziphatha?
Manje ake sibone ukuthi singaziphatha kanjani naye, uma ebuyela ngokuzumayo? Yiziphi amaphutha ezivame kakhulu abesifazane abazenzayo ekuqaleni kobuhlobo obusha naye?
Okokuqala, udinga ukwazi ngokucacile futhi uqonde ukuthi manje unemizwelo emibi efanayo - imithi, ukungafuni okuphelele noma ngisho nokuzonda. Ngisho noma manje unengxoxo, eqinisweni, ngeke neze akulalele, weqa ukunaka izindlebe zakho. Manje usuhlakulele ukucabanga okubi okuqhubekayo okunjengenja kaPavlov, lezi zizindlo zisebenza ngokuphelele kulokho okukade kuxhumeke khona. Ngakho-ke, akukho okumele kumkhumbuze ngobuhlobo bakho obudlule.
Ngakho-ke, iphutha elikhulu kuyoba ukuzama nokuvuselela ubuhlobo naye njengakuqala ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho obudlule, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi baqala kanjani amahle. Manje wonke ubuhlobo bakho obudlule, ngisho nezikhathi ezimnandi kakhulu, zihlotshaniswa nemizwelo emibi, ngakho kufanele uyikhohlwe ngokucophelela futhi kuyoba iphutha elikhulu uma umkhumbuza ezinye zezikhathi zakho zangaphambilini ngisho nezikhathi ezimnandi kakhulu! Konke lokhu kuyomcasula kuphela futhi kuthuthukise isimo ...
Ngakho-ke, umthetho wokuqala: kumele uzame ukukhohlwa KONKE okwakungaphambili futhi ugweme noma yikuphi ukuphawula kunoma yimiphi imicimbi esikhathini esedlule owaye wabhekana ndawonye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bejabula kangakanani !!! Kumele ugweme izindawo ezindala zokuhlangana, izindawo lapho uhamba khona. Kuyoba iphutha elikhulu uma uvuma ukuhlangana kwenye yezindawo zakho zangaphambili ozithandayo, ngisho noma yena ngokwakhe uyinikeza! Kuyoba iphutha elibulalayo uma uye embonini yezintandokazi ze-movie, yaseshashalazini noma ehholo lekhonsathi. Ngokuvamile, konke okwake wakubopha kufanele ukhohlwe! Kuze kube manje, kuyomcasula kuphela ezingeni elingenakuqondisisa, ngokungazi kahle imizwa emibi.
Okwesibili, umuntu kufanele afunde ukubhekana nezimpikiswano zakhe ezimbi ezenzelwe wena, okungeke ukwazi ukunqoba ebunzini. Kudingekile ukuthi wenze ngendlela encane kakhulu, kufanele ushintshe ngaphakathi kwakho (kuhle futhi ukushintsha isithombe sakho, isilenze, isitayela sezinwele, isitayela sezingubo, njll) kancane, ukuze angaboni kuwe lowo ayezondayo ukuze ukhohlise ukucabanga kwakhe kwangaphambili kuwe. Uma ungakwazi ukukhohlisa ukuqonda kwakhe, khona-ke uzobe nethuba lokuphinda uqale ubudlelwane obudlule, nakuba bekungayikuba khona futhi akufanele kube yilapho bekhona - kumele kube yi-OTHER !!!
Ngaphambi kokuba noma yini ingenziwa, kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu kusikhumbuza ubuhlobo obuseduze. Ekuqaleni kuyoba nzima, kuzodingeka uziqaphele futhi ulawule, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umkhuba uzokuthuthukisa futhi konke lokhu kuzovela ngokuzenzakalelayo, yebo, ngeke nje ucabange ngakho. Futhi lokhu kuzoba yindaba entsha nomuntu wangaphambili. Lena yindlela kuphela yokuvuselela ubudlelwano naye ezingeni elidlule noma eliphakeme. Usuvele uyamazi kahle, khumbula amaphutha akho, okwamanje kufanele agweme ngokucophelela ekusebenzelaneni naye.
Ngokuvamile, manje ebuhlotsheni naye konke kufanele kube okuhlukile, yonke imininingwane (ngokuqondile, ikakhulukazi ezintweni ezincane)! Eqinisweni, kuye kufanele kube uthando olusha nomunye wesifazane. Konke kuncike ekuthandekeni kwakho kulo muntu nokuthi yini ukulungele ukuya ngezinhloso zakho. Kuyoba nzima, ngoba lokhu kufanele uhambe ngaphezu kokuziqhenya kwakho. Yiqiniso, uma ungakakulungeli konke lokhu, kungcono ukukhohlwa ngakho ngokushesha futhi ubuke omunye umuntu, ukuze wakhe ubuhlobo obusha endaweni entsha, ucabange amaphutha wangaphambilini.