Bahlala bejabule njalo. Yena, ophupha olwandle kusukela ebuntwaneni, wakhonza emnyangweni wezempi futhi waphelelwa umsebenzi. Angitholanga umsebenzi ekukhethekile kwami, ngaphazanyiswa yimali engenayo engozini. Umkami waqala ukubona, bathi, akukho msebenzi ohloniphekile, akukho mali engathí sina. Kodwa, ngokuvamile, konke kwakungalungile. Indodakazi yami yayikhula. Ngesikhathi besalinde izivakashi. Bonke bahlanza futhi balungisa zonke izinhlobo zezinto. Futhi kwakukhona ukungabi nosawoti endlini. Wathatha izinto ezincane futhi wangena esitolo - ngokushesha, kwaze kwafika abangane bakhe ... Ngemva kwenyanga wathola iteklani evela kwezinye iziqhingi. Ezingxenyeni ezingenalutho okuqondakalayo okuqondakalayo kancane: Ngahlangana nomngane emkhunjini, ukuthi lowo owayesidinga usizo ngokushesha. Umkhumbi wasuka ngalobo busuku. Ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene, wayekwazi ukubuyela ekhaya kuphela ngonyaka kanye nengxenye kamuva. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, bajwayele ukusetshenziselana ngokulandelana. Babefuna ukuhlukanisa. Kodwa banquma ukulinda indlu entsha: ithembele emndenini wabantu abathathu, kodwa hhayi emibili. Ixulisiwe. Bese bahlanganyela. Futhi banquma ukungalokothi bahlukanise. Futhi bahlala kanjalo. Indaba ngokunyamalala kwakhe kungazelelwe yatshelwa njenge-anecdote - ngesiphetho esihle esingalindelekile. Kunezinqubo eziningi ezibaluleke kakhulu kumadoda kunomsebenzi, ukuzibophezela, uthando kowesifazane nalokho okubonakala kubonakala kunengqondo. Isibonelo, ukuziqhenya kwayo. Noma inkinga yobudala obuphakathi. Ngempela, ubugovu kanye nomqondo wokuzijabulisa wenjabulo. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi konke lokhu kubaluleke ngaphezu kothando lwakhe ngawe, kodwa aluyikukhansela. Angakuthanda kakhulu - ngokujulile nangendlela yakhe siqu. Endabeni mayelana nama-motifs ohamba ngomkhumbi ayahlanganiswa. Okuyinhloko yithuba elizenzekelayo lokuziqhenya, ngenxa yokuthi umuntu ukhohliwe konke emhlabeni. Kodwa endaweni yesibili nje isifiso sokujabulisa umkakhe-ukuthola imali, ukugwema ukuhlambalaza ... Futhi uthole ngisho nefulethi yefulethi ngaphezulu - yena nendodakazi yakhe. "Ngiyibona umgomo, angiboni izithiyo," - isenzo esivamile samadoda. Ukunyamalala okungazelelwe nokungazwakali kugxeka kakhulu. "Angithandi, kodwa akanaso isibindi sokukusho ngokuqondile!" - yinto yokuqala (futhi evamile kuphela) efika engqondweni yethu.
Ngeke ukholwe, kodwa kulula kakhulu ukuba umuntu ahambe empini noma asindise umuntu emlonyeni wesifuba sase-Afrika kunokukhuluma ngokuthembeka nentombazane. Lezi yizici zobungani bobuchopho: baneziko lokukhuluma elivame ukuthuthukiswa kancane kunalokhu esinalo. Isifiso sokuchaza nokwamukela izincazelo, ukuqondwa nokuqondwa yiyona impahla kuphela yebesifazane. Indoda evela kulezi zimo eziningi ikhululekile. Kubalulekile ukuba azi: lokho akwenzayo kulungile. Konke okunye - imininingwane, akufanelekile ukunakwa futhi igxume kule nkambo. Futhi, noma kunjalo, izizathu zezihluthulelo zesilisa ezingenalutho zihluke kakhulu kunokungazithandi nokwesaba izingxoxo. Futhi ezinye zazo zifinyeleleka ekuqondeni futhi zingaphansi kokuthethelelwa. Lapha, isibonelo ...
Qinisa amandla
Mhlawumbe akazange abalekele nhlobo. Futhi waya ukukuthenga izimbali futhi wangena emaphoyiseni ukuze alwe. Noma kulondolozwe ingane enja futhi manje ilele esibhedlela. Noma ulahlekelwe inkumbulo yakhe futhi walahlekelwa indlela yakhe. Noma yini engenzeka ... Okokuqala, mbize kumakhalekhukhwini. Akuyona iqiniso lokuthi uzoyithatha ifoni. Kodwa uma kunjalo, cishe uzoqiniseka ukuthi umuntu omthandayo uphila. Futhi uma engathathi noma ucingo luxhunyiwe, shayela isiteshi samaphoyisa, i-office yokubhalisa engozini, izibhedlela, izifo, abangane, izindawo zokuhlala kanye nokubonakala. Lo mcimbi we-banal-kinoshnogo awukwazi ukugwema. Ngokungazelelwe kwavela umonakalo othandekayo? Lokhu kungenzeka kufanele kukhishwe. Kusukela ekuqaleni.
Ukucabanga okuningi
Ngezinye izikhathi amadoda ayanyamalala ngaphandle kwencazelo, ngoba ... bacabanga ukuthi bayichazile konke. Asho ukuthi ngeminyaka umqondo wawuvuthiwe - isibonelo, ukuthi kuyadingeka ukulondoloza i-belka e-Antarctica noma ukuthi izindinganiso zomndeni zendabuko ziphelelwe yisikhathi. Inkhulumomphendvulwano yangaphakathi iqhubeka njalo. Ukhululekile futhi ungokoqobo ukuthi le ndoda kakade izwa ukuthi intombazane yakhe iyaqonda konke. Kodwa kungenjalo futhi uma ecabanga ngakho ngamahora angu-24 ngosuku? Ukuqina kwenkhulumomphendvulwano ethule kubeka inkhulumomphendvulwano yangempela. Ngesikhathi sokubilisa kwangaphakathi, lo muntu uzimisele ukuhamba. Kuye, ukukhululwa okulindelwe isikhathi eside, njengokungathi kusuka ekamelweni elithambile lomkhumbi, ekugcineni washiya umoya omusha. Akukho mingcele enjabulweni yakhe. Wacabanga ngalokhu isikhathi eside, elungiselelwe, ephupha, walinda. Futhi kwenzeka kanjalo! Wenze isinqumo. Ukhululekile. Uyaneliseka ngesinqumo. Uyathokoza. Ngingabheka kuphi ngempela umuntu engangihlala naye? Ngaphezu kwenjabulo, umuntu uhlala yedwa.
Ukuphuthuma okungazelelwe
Ngahlangana nomngane wami, ngiphuza isiphuzo, futhi ngaqala ukugijima. Akasakhumbula ukuthi kuphi nokuthi kungani ehamba, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu - ngubani nokuthi yini esele ngemuva. Ukusabela okunjalo kuvelele kubantu abanomzwelo ongapheli, ojabule kakhulu, ngokuntula kokuzithiba okucacile. I-violin yokuqala eqoqweni lomuntu onjalo udlalwa imizwelo. Bavame ukuhamba phambili, bethatha umnikazi wabo ngaphezu kwezifiso zakhe. Uma imizwelo ishisa, amathuba okuphakama ukuthi umuntu uzobuyela lapho ahamba khona. Uma kuphela yena kukho konke okunye akusikho inkani. Uma uhlala noma uhlangana neqhawe elinjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi awuboni izimpawu zesici. Noma kunjalo, izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zalolu hlobo lokuziphatha zitholakala kubuntu ekuboneni kokuqala hhayi ngokomzwelo kakhulu. Okusho ukuthi, ngokuphila okujwayelekile nabo bajwayelekile - abantu abathanda abantu. Kodwa noma yikuphi isimo esingavamile singabafaka ekupheleni kokufa, ukungena kwi-stupor. Khona-ke lo muntu ngokushesha ulahlekelwa intando yakhe kanye nemikhumbi ngokugeleza. Izizathu ziyinkimbinkimbi engokomzwelo engathuthuki, ukuzithiba okubuthakathaka, ukusabela okuphazamisayo. Ngesinye isikhathi, konke kwakunqunywa njalo umama-ugogo-ugogo, futhi lapho kungazelelwe kukhona uBorya noma uPetya, wamlandela ngaphandle komkhuba wokuhola phakade. Ngesikhathi nje naye ekulandelele, futhi kwakukuhle futhi kukuhlelela wena. Kodwa lokhu kuyindlela yakhe evamile yokuphendula, ngakho ungamangali.
Ukuziqhenya
Ukuphila okuvela esihlahleni esihlanzekile - akunjalo yini, ngempela? Akazange akwenze lokho isikhathi eside, akazange akhulume nalabo, akazange ahambe lapho. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka. Kukhona ithuba lokuguqula impilo nokwenza, ekugcineni, ukuthi yini eyadalwa. Angabe (lapho konke kuhlelwa) ukubiza nokuxhumana nawe, njengokungathi akukho okwenzekile. Ukuzizwa ngecala ngeke kuzwe, ngoba ngenye indlela wayengeke akwazi ukuzithokozisa (futhi lokhu kuyinto eyinhloko!), Wayengenaso indlela yokuphuma. Futhi akazange abalekele kuwe, kodwa evela emsebenzini osikhenayo nokuphila okungahambi kahle. Yini ehlambalazayo? Uyakuthanda. Futhi uthanda ukuzinza, njengabesifazane bonke, ngakho-ke ngeke usazise ukuphunyuka kwakhe.
Ukuchitheka
Yehla ubuntu. Ukukhathala okuvela emithwalweni kanye nendlela yokuphila evamile. Amahlombe awela ngaphansi kwesisindo sezinkinga zansuku zonke kanye nezikweleti, ukuphazamisa imicabango yokuphelelwa isikhathi nokungabi nalutho kokuthi umuntu ... Umuntu uphuma ngaphansi kwalo, njengokungaphansi kwesembozo, bese eqala impilo engenandaba nemifino. Ngokuvamile ngalezi zizathu, amadoda angenamakhaya noma aphuze ngokweqile. Kodwa hhayi njalo. Ngesinye isikhathi, ukuhlaselwa okwenyuka kakhulu namuhla kuyisici somyalelo ofanayo.
Inkinga yobudala
Amadoda aseneminyaka engamashumi amane abukeka eqinile futhi engumuntu. Kodwa-ke bayakwazi kangcono kakhulu kunezingane. Ngaphakathi - ukuxoxisana nokubuyekezwa kwamanani. Ngaphandle, izinwele ezimhlophe nemibimbi. Emphakathini - ukubonakala okubonakalayo kokuphakama kwezemisebenzi kanye nomhlalaphansi ozayo. Okungukuthi, inkinga iyathinta zonke izici zomuntu - ezomzimba, ezengqondo, ezenhlalakahle. Uma umuntu engumuntu omdala futhi ompofu, ungaphansi kokusekelwa kwesikhashana ngenkathi kunzima futhi kuyingozi kakhulu kulo mzuzu. Futhi, ngokuphambene, umahluko ohlukene kakhulu wokuxhumana nokuthandayo kumuntu, cishe uzothola okuthile okumele uzethembe lapho ezinye izici zokuphila zibuzwa. Kubantu abaningi, le nkinga ihambisana nengozi. Ushiya nje ngoba angazi ukuthi benzeni okulandelayo. Kudingeka bashintshe okuthile ngokuphuthumayo ukuze bangaphili. Ungashiya kanjani? Yebo, ngokuthula! Ukuphila kuyahlehla - ungadonseli eceleni kwakho ozithandayo (akukhathaleki ukuthi kungowomfazi ohlala naye iminyaka engama-20, noma mayelana nentombazane ahlangana nayo emasontweni ambalwa adlule). Kunamathuba okubuyisela uma ungamphuli ithuba elinjalo.
Buyisela
Ukungalahleki ukuphindiselela kubonakala kumadoda wezinombolo ezihlukahlukene ze-podkabluchnosti. Ucindezelekile ngumthandi okhanyayo, ophumelelayo noma onolwazi, noma isikhathi eside kuye ngokuthi (i-propiska, imali, ukuxhumana), indoda kufanele ikhuthaze okuningi. Futhi manje kufika isikhathi lapho enethuba lokuphuma ngaphandle kokunakekelwa. Inani lokunganeliseki okwanele kulo liya emkhakheni wezenzo. Esikhathini seshayela eziningi ze-toxin zamandla ziqoqiwe, ukuthi zifuna ukuziphonsa kumuntu ngesihluku futhi zibukhali, zibangele ubuhlungu babo bokuqala bokuzuza. Okudabukisayo kakhulu ukuthi wayengufakazi we-insolvency wakhe wesintu nowesilisa. Lolu hlobo lomuntu luncane, lugcwele izakhi zangaphakathi, umona onomona futhi othukuthelayo ngempela. Awubonanga kanjani lokhu ngaphambili?
Omunye wesifazane
Ukushiya omunye kuyinjabulo enkulu, engafuni ukugubha noma yini. Noma yikuphi ukukhuluma ngalokhu akujabulisi futhi kuyingozi ngisho nobuhle obuhlala kulo manje. Ukuzidla? Yebo! Ukududuzeka kungaba ukuthi naye, omunye, uzokwenza ekugcineni ngendlela efanayo. Kodwa ngeke kube nokunye okunye nawe.
I-Altruism
Ngezinye izikhathi amadoda ahloniphekile (njengoba acabanga) ayanyamalala, ukuze angabangela izinkinga kubantu besifazane. Isibonelo, ufunda ukuthi uyagula. Noma kuchithekile. Enye indlela yilezo zobugebengu inkosana yakho ehlanganisiwe futhi oqala ukusongela izihlobo zakhe. Futhi, amadoda asebekhulile abashadile abanezinsizwa ezincane, abayiziwula abangafika. Abanye ngokuzumayo bathola ukuthi baphazamisa impilo yabo encane yokuzifiso futhi baphela ngokuzumayo futhi ngaphandle kokulandelela, ethembeni lokuthi umsindo othukuthele uzokhohlwa ngokushesha futhi ngokunembile uma uzizwa ucasuke kakhulu.
Yini elandelayo?
Ukuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi ngezindlela eziningi kuxhomeke kumlingiswa wakho. Uma umphefumulo udinga isinyathelo esisebenzayo - funani, thola, zama ukukhuluma. Kodwa kusukela ekuqaleni, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi awukwenzi lokhu ukuze uyibuyise, kodwa ukuze uthole ukuthi konke kuhambisane. Esinye isisusa asikhohlisi futhi, cishe, siyokwenza ubuhlungu obukhulu. Uma uthola futhi kuvela ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kwakho kuphila futhi kuhle, ungazami ukuyibuyisela. Ukuhlambalaza, ukucindezela onembeza, ukushaywa indiva, izinyembezi (ngokulandelana, futhi nokubonakaliswa kobudlova) manje usizi ngeke lusize. Ungafaki amaphuzu okuphuthumayo nokugcina kule ndaba. Ithuba lokuthi lalahleka lizobuya cishe njalo. Ngenxa yokugqugquzela okuningi, indlela yokubuyiselwa iyatholakala - kuxhomeke ezimeni zobuntu, kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwesimo esifanayo. Futhi kulo mzuzu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungenzi izenzo futhi ungasho amagama angamnquma indlela yokubuya. Uma, ngempela, ufuna ukuba abuyele. Ukuze uqonde isizathu salokho okwenzekile kubalulekile okungenani ukuze ungahambisani nesigwebo esifanayo ngesinye isikhathi. Ngemva kokuqonda ukuziphatha nokugqugquzela okukhethekile kumlingisi oye waphuma, uzokwazi ukubona into engalungile ngesikhathi esizayo. Into esemqoka ukufunda ukuthi lokhu akuyona eyakho, kodwa inkinga yayo. Kuyafaneleka ukucabanga ngokujulile ngawe, uma abakhethiweyo bakho, ngokuthula, banyamalala ngamunye ngamunye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izinto zikhula kanjani, ukuzithiba kwakho nokwethemba kwakho kuzohlolwa noma ngabe ngubani obalekile noma abanye. Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ungalokothi ulahlekelwe inhlonipho ngokwakho. Ukulahlekelwa othandekayo akufani nokulahlekelwa yedwa. Lokhu kubalulekile ukukhumbula ngisho nangezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu. Zisho wena: ukuthi kuhle kangakanani, lihle kangakanani ithuba lokuqala konke kusukela ekuqaleni, akuwona wonke umuntu onenhlanhla! Enye iphuzu elibalulekile ukuthethelela. Ungathethelela - ungasho ukuhlehlisa futhi uqhubeke. Usizo lungaba izinkumbulo ezinhle zezenzakalo zokudlulela kwakho okudlule. Bheka nge-albhamu yezithombe, cabanga ukuthi kuhle kangakanani lo muntu akunike yona, ukuthi ufundise kangakanani. Yiziphi izinsuku ezinhle noma iminyaka owachitha ndawonye. Khumbula okuhle kakhulu. Siyabonga ngakho. Myeke ahambe. Vumela indaba iphele. Lokhu kwenzeka ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela kwakho, futhi konke ongakwenzayo kuyamukelwa futhi uqhubeke.