Ubudlelwano buyindaba ebuthakathaka kakhulu. Kuyafaneleka ukukhubeka, futhi yonke into iyawa. Kodwa empeleni imbangela yenkinga yokuhlukunyezwa, noma ngokuphambene nalokho?
Futhi zingaki eziyinganekwane ezahlukene mayelana nendlela abesifazane abayishintsha ngayo! Futhi bayakhohlisa, futhi bashintsha abayeni babo ngokomoya ... Isigwebo sesigwebo!
Kodwa ukukhashelwa kumyeni kuyisikhathi esibi kakhulu sokuveza ukunganeliseki nobuhlobo. Ngakho-ke, ngokucabangela futhi ngokunembile, ngaphandle kokukwahlulela, sizozama ukuqonda isizathu esiyinhloko sokuphinga kwabesifazane nokuthi singabuyisela kanjani ubuhlobo ngemva kokukhashelwa kumuntu, ndawonye.
Kwenzeka kanjani?
Emithonjeni eminingi - kusukela ezihlokweni zephephandaba kuya emsebenzini wesayense wezengqondo - kuthiwa ukuphinga kwabesifazane kuhlukile kumuntu wesilisa. Ngokuba umuntu (onjalo) kuyimvelo ukufisa okungaphezulu - kuhlanganise nabesifazane abaningi.
Owesifazane usolwa ngokuthi yini ayishintsha kakhulu umzimba njengoba umoya noma umphefumulo. Kulokhu kunomqondo othile, kodwa futhi, ungagqugquzeli noma ukhiqize amaqiniso ngabanye ngokuphelele.
Enye into ukuthi kukhona iqiniso lokuhlubuka, futhi isiphetho esivela kuso - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakuyisiwula noma isenzo esilungile, futhi imizwa ayisekho. Ngokuvamile indoda engavamile (noma okungenani enye) ibonakala kubafazi abaningi abahloniphekile, abaqotho, abanomusa ... Kulula kakhulu ukulenga lawo malebula abathokozisa futhi asikhuthaze.
Kodwa-ke lona wesifazane angase adumale - njengoba kuvela, futhi uphuze, futhi nabangani bayanyamalala, futhi nenkosikazi yakhe iziphatha ngokungenangqondo. Namuhla udinga ukuphuza amanzi ehlane, kusasa - "ungahambi," "ungakhathazeki," noma isizathu esiyingcwele - "Ngidinga ukusebenza."
Ngezikhathi ezinjalo yonke into iyafika endaweni. Futhi eyami, eyami, nakuba engeyona ethandwa kakhulu njengangaphambili, isondela futhi iqondwe kangcono. Akukhona kuphela ukwehluleka kwakhe uma kuqhathaniswa nama-machined macho - kodwa futhi nesithunzi esingenamthetho. Kodwa ukuthi ungabuyisela kanjani ubuhlobo ngemuva kokukhaphela indoda - kunzima ukusho.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Ngakho, ubuhlobo bubuyela esimweni esivamile. Kodwa uma ngaphambi kokuhlukunyezwa indoda yakho "ekhaya" yazi ukuthi ingakuthemba ngani, emva kokuthi "ukunyuka ngakwesobunxele" ukuze uphinde uthole ukwethembeka akulula.
Njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, ukuzithoba kanye nokucela ukuthethelelwa akuholeli kunoma yini enhle. Khona-ke ungabuyisela kanjani ubuhlobo ngemva kokukhawulwa komuntu, uma ungaceli ukuthethelelwa?
Ungathembeli ekuthetheleleni
Awudingi ukucela ukuthethelelwa. Kule ndoda inomzwa wokuthinta into engcolile, ebuthakathaka futhi egulayo. Ufuna ubuhlobo, hhayi "ukubekezela" okudabukisayo, ukuphila ngandlela-thile "? Khona-ke kuphela indlela efanele yokuziphatha
Tshela iqiniso lonke, ngisho nangaphezulu
Qiniseka, kodwa ngobuqili. Ngempela, udinga le ndoda, futhi ngezinga elifanayo lekhwalithi njengoba ngaphambili? Ngakho ukuthi wayethanda, waqonda, wabizwa ...
Kunzima kakhulu ukuthola ukuthembela, yebo, kunokuba ulibhubhise. Kodwa kufanele kwenziwe, futhi mhlawumbe hhayi ngendlela evamile.
Ingabe ufuna "ukuxolelwa"? Yisho ukuthi kungani udinga lobu buhlobo "obunxele". Xoxa ngalokhu nomuntu wakho. Inkathi ende yokuzizwa kabi, ukungaqondi kahle kwakho, kuhle kakhulu. Imizwa enamandla emibi - inzondo noma, ngokuphambene, ubude obude emkhayeni womndeni.
Lokhu akusona isizathu. Lezi yiqiniso, ngenxa yokuthi wanquma ukukhaphela (noma "kwenzeka" okwesikhashana ngenxa yokungacabangi kwakho). Futhi ukubuyisela ubuhlobo ngemva kokungathengiswa komuntu, kancane kancane uyavuma ekubuyiseleni kwesithakazelo kuye, othandekayo futhi manje oyedwa kuphela.
Umusi ngaphandle komlilo awukwenzeka
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuzama ukubuyiselwa ubuhlobo, emva kokukhaphela indoda kumele kucatshangelwe ngokucophelela. Phela, into ethile yakufakaza ukuthi "ufana"? Noma mhlawumbe nje yaphuka izibuko ezinemibala ehlukahlukene, uhlobo olwenziwe ngalo ngesikhathi esisodwa ukuthi ushade?
Akunamadoda afanelekayo, futhi sonke siphoqelelwe ukuba sikwazi ukubekezelela ukwehluleka kwamadoda. Omunye ubhema, owesibili uyakhononda, owesithathu akafuni ukuzuza imali futhi ayikwazi ... Wonke umuntu unayo "izigulane ekamelweni", izinto ezincane ezingathandeki nokuhlukumeza okwenza impilo yakho ibe nzima.
Kodwa nokho wamthanda-ngento ethile. Uthande le ndoda ethile. Futhi, ekugcineni, ubuyela kuye, naphezu kweqiniso lokungabi nandaba lokuhlubuka. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukubona indoda yakho njengoba kwenzeka ngezinye izikhathi - eqinile, isibindi, efiselekayo ...
Ukuvimbela ukuphinga kwabesifazane
Akusekho ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo, uma uthandana nobudlova komunye umuntu, futhi ubuyela ekhaya ngemuva komhlangano ovuthayo, kusiza ukuthatha umbono oqondile wokuphila nobuhlobo. Iqiniso elincane ngamadoda akuyona isithiyo - kunalokho, liyoba "i-wand-wand", uma uvele ucabange ngomuntu womunye umuntu.
Eqinisweni, amadoda angempela akuzona eziningi. Ngakho-ke, abesifazane bavame ukwenza izinto eziyekethisa, benethemba lokuthi bazokwazi ukubekezela, bathandane noma ngandlela-thile baphathe.
Futhi-ke sidumala. Ungakhathazeki, hhayi njengokuthenjelwa okudingayo. Ngaleso sikhathi, ufuna ukuphunyuka, ukuhlukana nobudlelwane, noma ngisho nakakhulu - ukujezisa, ukushaya, njengomfana onecala.
Kodwa sonke kufanele sivune izithelo zemizamo yethu nezinkolelo zethu. Ufuna ukulondeka - ukwazi ukuthi kulezi zinsuku awuthathi izingozi. Ngokungafani ne-frank mesalliance "ocebile - abampofu", "odumile - abangaziwa" nokunye okunjalo. Futhi manje kufanele sikhuthazele ubukhona obukhulu, obubuhlungu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kubudlelwane obunjalo obuqinile obufuna ukuba ngokwakho, ukukhulisa izingane, "kusuka lapha" ungakha umsebenzi noma ujabulele indima yowesifazane wakho othandekayo ... Siyazisa! Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kungani konke okufana nalokho okufunayo.