Ngakho singasindisa kanjani umndeni, isithakazelo somyeni wethu kithi, sibe nesimiso esiningi, sithandana futhi sinkosikazi enhle? Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ungowesifazane onjani. Kuneziningana.
Uhlobo lokuqala. Umndeni . Okubaluleke kakhulu kumama wendlu enjalo ukuhlanzeka nokuhleleka endlini. Abakhathala ngokukhipha, ukuhlanza, ukugeza, ukugeza, ukuhlanza, ukufaka izinsimbi nsuku zonke. Kungenzeka ukuthi akakhokhi kahle ekubukeni kwakhe, kodwa konke okugcoke endlini, kuyakha futhi kuyiphunga okumnandi. Amabhange ahlelwe ngokulandelana kwe-alfabhethi, akukho uthuli ezincwadini nasezingxenyeni ezikude kakhulu.
Uhlobo lwesibili. Abathanda izitolo . Lolu hlobo lwabafazi besifazane yilowo mantombazane ongeke abe nesithakazelo emsebenzini wesikole. Isici sabo - izitolo nezitolo zokuthenga. Indlela yokugeza izitsha, lapho udoti uphonswa khona nokuthi kungani bengasidingi le divayisi, kodwa bazothola kalula esitolo ishalafu ngamabhasi amadoda. Laba besifazane bafuna imali eningi yokugcinwa kwabo, ukutholakala komninikhaya (othile kufanele ahlanze indlu) futhi anentshisekelo ekuthengeni kwakhe.
Uhlobo lwesithathu. Umama . Yonke impilo yakhe umama wendlu uthatha ingane. Ungumgogodla wendawo yakhe yonke, umhlaba wonke ujikelezayo. Konke akwenzayo eduze kwendlu kwenziwa ingane. Akafisi ukubonakala kwakhe, uyakhathalela ukuthi ingane igqoke, isondliwe futhi ilalelwe.
Izigidi zentsha futhi hhayi abesifazane besifazane, zihlala ekhaya, zenza imisebenzi yasendlini, zikhulisa izingane. Futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungowesifazane onjani, kufanele ube nesithakazelo njalo kumuntu wakho. Umama wendlukazi, ungamthakazelisa kanjani indoda yakhe? Simply. Funda ngokucophelela bese ulandela imiyalo yami!
Umthetho obaluleke kakhulu okumele ukhumbule emzamweni wokuba umuntu othakazelisayo ukudala ukuhlukahluka. Ngeke ube nesithukuthezi ekhaya. Uma ucabanga ukuthi izindlu zibuthakathaka futhi zithandekile, khona-ke kuyokwenza kanjalo indoda yakho. Uzocabangela ukuthi awukwazi ukuletha ukuhlukahluka nesithakazelo empilweni yakho. Ngakho, ukusindiswa okuyinhloko kuwe kuyoba ukuhlukahluka! Kumele kube khona njalo kukho konke. Ukuqala ngokuthi upheka kanjani nokuthi yini, ukuphela kobudlelwano bocansi. Umangaze indoda yakho nsuku zonke izitsha ezintsha, izindaba ezithakazelisayo, ukubukeka, nakho konke, noma yini. Yiba ngumngane wakhe, umngane, othandekayo othandekayo, inkosikazi enhle, umama ohlakaniphile nentombazane eyisiphukuphuku. Amadoda ayayithanda uma abesifazane abahlukene beseduze kwabo. Futhi ungaba yilokho, ngakho-ke awusoze ukhathele yindoda yakho. Ukuze ukwazi ukuhlukana kubalulekile ukuthi uhlanganyele ekuthuthukiseni. Ukutholakala kwakho kuyizincwadi, i-intanethi (nje ungahlali ngaso sonke isikhathi kumasayithi wesifazane, kunezinye izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo), ithelevishini (khetha kuphela imfanelo, izinhlelo zokuqonda kanye nezinhlelo zemfundo, akukho mingcele kanye nemibukiso yenkulumo), uxhumane nabangani, uhlangane nabantu abahlukene , bhalisela ezinye izifundo. Ngelinye igama, phila! Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuthi ukwazi ukushintsha kusuka kumcimbi owodwa empilweni yakho kwabanye, ukuze ungaboni ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku futhi awufanelekile.
Uma ungumama wendlu, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungamthandi kanjani othandekayo wakho. Ngaphezu kokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke nezinkinga, ukukhulisa izingane kukhona inombolo enkulu yezinto ezithakazelisayo ongayenza. Kungaba yimidlalo, i-pianoforte, ukudansa, ukudweba, umculo, ukunqamuleka. Ngelinye igama, konke owake waluphupha isikhathi eside, kodwa kwakungekho isikhathi sokwenza. Ngokwemvelo, angikhulumi iqiniso lokuthi kudingekile ukushintshanisa ukuzithokozisa komndeni emahlathini, ekuhlanganiseni nezintombi. Kodwa, usuvele unesikhathi esanele samahhala, ngenkathi kungekho myeni, kuyilapho izingane zisesikoleni. Ungenza noma yini, noma yini. Ungayisebenzisi amahora ukubuka insizakalo yezinsipho nokufunda mayelana nokuphila kwezinkanyezi zebhizinisi lokubonisa. Unayo eyakho, okungenasithakazelo nokuphila okuthakazelisayo, isikhathi sokunaka. Uma ekugcineni wenze lokho owake waphupha isikhathi eside. Isibonelo, ukudansa noma ukudweba, kusihlwa ungatshela umyeni wakho mayelana nomcimbi. Uzokwazi ukuthi nawe unezenzo, izenzakalo zakho, izithakazelo. Kulungile, Yebo, uma ukuzilibazisa kwakho kuthinta kahle isimo sezimali somndeni. Isibonelo, ungaqala ukuthunga izidoli bese uzithengisa ezitolo ezikhethekile. Okuncane, kodwa imali yakho engenayo ivikelekile. Umyeni uyakwazisa.
Ngendlela umama wendlu kufanele abe nesithakazelo kumyeni wakhe kunenye iphuzu elibalulekile - ubulili. Kuphi ngaphandle kwalo? Ubaluleke kakhulu kulo mbhangqwana, nguye owenza ubuhlobo buvumelane futhi bujabulise, buvale futhi buthinte. Izinkinga zobulili zingabangela ukukhishwa kwamadoda noma ukuhoxiswa emndenini. Yingakho, kubaluleke kangaka, ukuba ube yingcweti yangempela kanye nenkosikazi ehluzekile. Kufanele uhlale ulungele ucansi, ngokuvamile uthatha isinyathelo. Phela, lo muntu usebenza usuku lonke, uxhumane namakhasimende, uqondisa abangaphansi, ukhathele. Ngakho-ke, kufanele usebenze ngokwengeziwe, cabanga ngezikhathi ezithandekayo zokukhathazeka. Menze ube ukuphumula okuphumuzayo, ulungise ukugeza okufudumele. Ukuze ukwazi ukuhlukanisa ubudlelwane bobulili, funda izincwadi ezengeziwe, ukubhalisa kwenkambo ye-geisha, noma i-strip-plastic. Ngakho-ke, ungagcina ukuhlukahluka empilweni yakho yobulili, futhi, ngezinye izikhathi, umangaze umyeni wakho ngamakhono akho.
Omunye umthetho obalulekile ukuthi umama omuhle kufanele aqaphele. Akudingekile ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zasekhaya nomyeni wakhe. Nguwe kuphela onentshisekelo ezindaweni, uthuli, i-daishisher, ikampompi ephukile kanye ne-vase ephukile. Umyeni wakho akhathaleli. Umsebenzi wakho ukugcina indlu ihlanzekile, ukwenza kube mnandi. Kodwa ukutshela ukuthi uyakwenza kanjani, mhlawumbe, akudingekile. Umyeni wakho ucabanga ngomsebenzi wakhe, unezinkontileka nezinkontileka ekhanda lakhe, ubala izinzuzo nezindleko emisebenzini yenkampani, futhi uyamtshela ngompompi ophukile! Ngakho-ke kukhona ama-plumbers abalungisa ama-cranes, hhayi umyeni wakho. Umsebenzi wakhe ukwenza imali, ukunakekela wena nomntanakho, futhi ungacabangi ukuthi ungayiphonsa kanjani ikampu. Qonda ukuthi uvele efuna ukuphumula emicabangweni yakhe. Futhi uqala ukushaya ikhanda ikhanda ngezinkinga zakhe zansuku zonke. Uma usufuna ngempela ukwabelana ngemicabango yakho, bese ukhetha imicimbi emihle nemnandi eyovusa umuntu. Ekugcineni, lokhu kungukunakekela kwakho ekhaya.
Abaningi besifazane bayakhohlwa ukulalela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma, usuku lwakho lufana nomunye, lapho kungekho lutho olusithakazelisayo nokugqamile empilweni yakho, kungokwemvelo ukuthi imicabango yakho igxile kuwe. Akuyona nje kuphela isikhathi sokulwa nokulungisa, kusadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukulalela futhi. Uyakhumbula ukuthi, ekuqaleni nje kobuhlobo bakho, uvula umlomo wakho futhi ulalele lokho umuntu wakho akutshele khona. Futhi manje? Awukwazi ukukhumbula lokho akutshele khona izolo, ngoba ucabanga ngamaphoyinti namabala kulowo mzuzu? Kubi kakhulu! Khumbula ukuthi amadoda abalulekile uma elalelwa lapho umkakhe ehlanganyela emiphakathini yabo. Funda ukulalela, futhi ungakwazi ukuphunyuka emisebenzini yakho yasendlini bese ungena ezweni lomyeni wakho. Kulungile, yini, ukuthi ungumama wendlu. Yeka indlela ongayithandi ngayo umuntu othandekayo owaziyo! Futhi lokhu, mhlawumbe, kuyisiqinisekiso sokuphila komndeni okujabulisayo.